Strong reaction to public humiliation = Over sensitive

Anyone who tells me how to lose weight has ZERO chance with me.

Including my husband.

:drinker: :bigsmile:

it sucks but Marines are just like that... its trained into them... believe me my husband is an active duty marine for 10 years n going.... he says things about weight/food and such that a normal person wouldn't. They r taught and trained to be better than everyone... keep your head high. and good for you for telling him off.

Oh give the guy a break! He's just using the personality the marines gave him

Thank you for classifying all Marines as rude. How about we turn it around and say he's just using the personality that his male chromosomes gave him? You would call it sexist and say not all men are rude. Making blanket statements like that makes you look ignorant.

Sincerely,
A United States Marine

I just wanted to say thank you for your services!!

A proud American

Good for you. And for the record, I might be inclined to agree that perhaps he was flirting if not for the way he followed up after your reaction. If he was embarrassed, or felt awkward, he would have just walked away or said "nevermind", but the sensitive comment leads me to believe he is just a jerk wad.

it sucks but Marines are just like that... its trained into them... believe me my husband is an active duty marine for 10 years n going.... he says things about weight/food and such that a normal person wouldn't. They r taught and trained to be better than everyone... keep your head high. and good for you for telling him off.

Uh ... Maybe YOUR husband learned that but the Marines I have known (and I dated one for 10 years and my best friend was married to one and those are only two of MANY) did not behave that way.

From the corner of my eye I saw a young-ish and pretty attractive marine approach me. He just stood there for a minute then said...

I'm wondering:

1) why is this important to the story?
2) why you let a comment from someone you don't even know have any affect on your day?
3) why you didn't thank him for his service to our country AND your right to even have a choice of what to eat, much less brand of chocolate?

Good on you for standing up to him . I probably would have cried or properly blown a fuse especially if its TOM over sensitive doesn't begin to cover it!!!

MOST excellent rebuttal. You stood up for yourself, without getting hysterical. You were not overly sensitive at all. I probably would have spat in his face and asked him how many calories were in THAT.

^^ I LIKE THIS

Agreed. GREAT response. I would have likely been to shocked to respond other than my default death stare.

Also, even if this was an attempt at flirting, a reasonable person would have realized their mistake, apologized, and congratulated you on your loss. They wouldn't insult you again (!) by telling you you're too sensitive and walking away while you're still speaking.

it sucks but Marines are just like that... its trained into them... believe me my husband is an active duty marine for 10 years n going.... he says things about weight/food and such that a normal person wouldn't. They r taught and trained to be better than everyone... keep your head high. and good for you for telling him off.

They are taught and trained to "be" better than everyone, or "think" they are better than everyone? I almost became one after college but I went into the safety of the corporate world where I proceeded to break my back there instead. I have a funny feeling no "training" in the world could have made me any more of a douche than I already am. I also think that some people who are already not douchey like another member here usmcp could never be turned into one.

Just wondering. I'm pretty sure some army people I know and some other branches would contest whether marine trainingn makes you actually better than everyone or just beleive it to be so.

Also lest this thread get derailed into being about Marines and how much douchey they may be and why I'd like to return to the topic of my fireman...

He. Was. Fine! and may have been a former marine for all I know. He was co.cky as all get out and enormously confident as well.

:bigsmile:

(I mean if the thread is gonna derail anyway, I'd like to see it go in this direction.)

btw, servicemen/women are some of the most courteous, helpful people out there. There are some twatwaffles among them, just like any other profession, but that shouldn't reflect badly on them as a whole.

Sincerely,
Daughter of a Navy Chief

Edited: word choice

I haven't read anything beyond the OP, but also this. SO MUCH THIS.

Just wanted to add that when I said the guy was a marine I wasn't trying to put them all in one category with this guy. It was just something about him I noted when I saw him out of the corner of my eye. Most of my family (cousins, grandparents etc) are marines. I was supposed to join when I was younger. I ruptured a disc in my back training on my own (incorrect form) because I wanted to join like all my cousins were doing. It wasn't meant to be. I spent a month on Camp Foster in Okinawa with my marine cousins for the heck of it. I've generally never had a problem with them being disrespectful. So just wanted to make sure everyone is aware I'm not lumping them all together.

:flowerforyou: I know you weren't ragging on them as a whole.

I was responding to the person that made the quip about "typical Marine mentality."

I honestly thought the marine bit was to add to the description of him as being attractive.

it sucks but Marines are just like that... its trained into them... believe me my husband is an active duty marine for 10 years n going.... he says things about weight/food and such that a normal person wouldn't. They r taught and trained to be better than everyone... keep your head high. and good for you for telling him off.

Uh yeah No.
My grandfather was a retired Marine and I have at least half a dozen friends who are Marines who aren't like that.

Its just your husband. So don't lump all Marines into that please.

I have 2 thoughts:

1. I've also noticed, as most of us have, that when someone sees a fat person buying something like donuts, chocolate, etc., then their mind immediately goes to "they have no self control." This doesn't happen when they see a thin person buying sweets.

2. He may have been genuinely trying to help. Sure, you didn't see it that way, but he suggested a way you can not only eat chocolate, but also save some calories while doing so. If you are trying to lose weight (and you are), that is helpful advice. You didn't like that a stranger gave you unsolicited advice... I get that, though some of us would actually use that information to help us regardless of the source (of course I would also fact check it to be sure).

Really great job in standing up for yourself! He probably felt embarrassed being called out like that, because he probably was trying to help, just like you said. You did well and you said what needed to be said. Perfect response to this guy. Hope you don't let it get to you!!

I have 2 thoughts:

1. I've also noticed, as most of us have, that when someone sees a fat person buying something like donuts, chocolate, etc., then their mind immediately goes to "they have no self control." This doesn't happen when they see a thin person buying sweets.

2. He may have been genuinely trying to help. Sure, you didn't see it that way, but he suggested a way you can not only eat chocolate, but also save some calories while doing so. If you are trying to lose weight (and you are), that is helpful advice. You didn't like that a stranger gave you unsolicited advice... I get that, though some of us would actually use that information to help us regardless of the source (of course I would also fact check it to be sure).

I was at Target last night and got cereal for my daughter and then two bags of chips (cause we haven't had any in the house for over a month and the hubbs and I like different kinds)... I walked around looking at the Ground so as to not have to meet the eyes of those I passed who saw that fat chick with two bags of chips. Sometimes logic can't overwrite the sensitivities that society as a whole has placed around weight, but you did a great job dealing with it. Certainly better than I do.l

Oh give the guy a break! He's just using the personality the marines gave him

Thank you for classifying all Marines as rude. How about we turn it around and say he's just using the personality that his male chromosomes gave him? You would call it sexist and say not all men are rude. Making blanket statements like that makes you look ignorant.

Sincerely,
A United States Marine

Boom. (Thank you for your service!)