Found My Voice, I wasn't "Hangry"

Guess I'm the lone b!tch who doesn't think OP needs to apologize.

Not at all. I'm a b!tch, too, and I dislike my coworkers with the fire of a thousand suns, and probably would have snapped much worse than she did.

So glad you found your voice!!! It was tough in my office when I found mine, ppl called me obsessed, & all sorts of names. Said the same things as that girl: you can eat that cake, doughnut, blah blah blah, but stick to your guns!!! Proud of you!!!

The chick was an *kitten* making a bet with her mom whether or not you'd cave and eat the goodies, but it is kind of funny that she had premeditated sabotage, when you were feeling so bad about hurting her feelings.

I think situations like this go in waves. Your reaction I mean. Likely there will be a time when you can take the piece of cake, eat a bite or two, then put the plate away or toss it. Probably will also be a time when you will want to eat the whole piece, cutting back on some other foods to equal the calories eaten later in the day, or just going over a bit. I mean our focus and ability to control our food choices does change throughout the process of losing weight, especially if you have a lot to lose, IMO.

But it can be confusing to those around us, regardless if we owe them an explanation or care to share where we are currently at in our attempt to weigh less. I know I'm less jumpy when someone offers me goodies than I was 5 or 6 months ago because I'm more at ease in those situations now. And sometimes I accept and bring the food home to my husband!

I drive school bus and when kids have birthdays they often bring and share cupcakes. Now I just thank them, accept the treat, then bring it home to DH. Win, win situation. Of course once in a while I eat it!

Guess I'm the lone b!tch who doesn't think OP needs to apologize.

I don't necessarily think she needs to apologize either.

Her "friend" was being rude and pushy. She got pushed too far and said something kinda mean.

If it was me, I probably *would* apologize if I wanted things to be "comfortable" with that person. But I don't think she needs to.

I'd be curious to see how the other person behaves from here on out.

If it was me, IF the other lady did that again, I'd say: Did you NOT hear me last time? Do I really need to repeat myself?

Hey, good job OP. I would have probably gotten pissed. Taken the cookie and crumbled it on the floor and walked out.

ETA: now I've read the rest of the story. The other lady is a btch who does not deserve any kind of apology. JESUS. Who does that?

I think anger gets a bad rap. Even if you were it's ok to be angry with someone who is behaving like that. Seriously! Would it be ok to tease a person about another health problem? If I would have been there I would have been angry witnessing it even if it weren't happening to me. As a witness I would have stepped in and said something. She was being kind of aggressive about it! You even told her it was for health reasons and she kept at it.
It's ok to stand up for yourself. The words you used weren't the best, but I find it difficult to stick up for myself. I say good for you! I suggest having a plan in place so that the next time someone pushes you into a corner you have an out that doesn't make you feel bad. Next time it may be a family member or someone who you care more about.
For me it will probably be my dad. He has boundary issues! He won't understand that just because I look healthy on the outside if my blood sugar gets out of whack I will get a migraine. For a smart man he can be rather clueless!
Good luck!

I am new here, so Hello.
I think your coworker should have stopped at NO means NO, and I am glad you did not give a big ole apology....look at what really happened - she was Wayyyy out of line.
Boundaries are a good thing!

Good for you OP for sticking to your guns. Some people love to sabotage others. I'll never understand why.

The chick was an *kitten* making a bet with her mom whether or not you'd cave and eat the goodies, but it is kind of funny that she had premeditated sabotage, when you were feeling so bad about hurting her feelings.

Simply, this ^

I think you need a bake a chocolate cake (filled with ExLax), cut a big piece out to make it look like leftovers, come in early (before everyone), plant it near the co-workers desk, hide until more people show up, looked confused when people ask where the cake came from.

No need for an apology. Sometimes you have to get a little rude with people who still don't have a clue when you've given them a whole bag full. Misery loves company and sometimes it's hard to watch someone have the discipline to eat healthy. When I'm doing well my coworkers scrutinize every thing I eat, and when I don't I'm getting high fives, like I've joined the "i don't give a f**k club".