Why do so many women care what men prefer?

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_Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
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  • MikeCrazy
    MikeCrazy Posts: 2,716 Member
    I would say, one word fits: insecurity.
  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.
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  • kaotik26
    kaotik26 Posts: 590 Member
    I like to please my husband so I dress in what I think he would like me to wear when we go to dinner or something, but then sometimes I just wear what looks comfy too. Random other men? I couldn't give a rats hindquarters...
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
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  • I only care about what I like.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.

    It's a good thing we have all these helpful forum topics to guide us along the right path.
  • Organicgasm
    Organicgasm Posts: 592 Member
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  • I would say, one word fits: insecurity.

    ^^ that, which is sad, because, thankfully, all men have different preferences. So what one finds not to be attractive, another will.... The most attractive thing a woman (or man) can do, is be confident.
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    Serious answer - Because it's only natural to want to be attractive to the opposite sex

    Joking answer - Because I said so. And pleasing me is your main goal in life, right?
  • kimnsc
    kimnsc Posts: 560 Member
    How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.

    Snort

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  • Charloo1990
    Charloo1990 Posts: 619 Member
    I couldn't give a crap what any man thinks. The only approval I need is mine.
  • funchords
    funchords Posts: 413 Member
    Eons of reproductive biology and psychology. The females of any species are generally driven toward security of the home/nest/den/place-of-rearing and then reproduce and fledge offspring.
  • SarahofTwins
    SarahofTwins Posts: 1,169 Member
    Good question...personally idgaf but probably to impress someone they may like? or possibly insecure?

    either way just be yourself
  • Cryptonomnomicon
    Cryptonomnomicon Posts: 848 Member
    I'll ask her...after she makes me my sammich.
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  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.

    It's a good thing we have all these helpful forum topics to guide us along the right path.

    It really is! Now I just have to figure out how to be in my twenties with a perfect hourglass shape, always be in a dress, and be feminine but not too clingy and make awesome sammiches and give a man his space, but let him know I'm always there for him and wear make up, but not too much. What am I missing? What else do I need to do?
  • abuck_13
    abuck_13 Posts: 382 Member
    I couldn't give a crap what any man thinks. The only approval I need is mine.


    That is the correct attitude!
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    If they're not going after betas, well, they'll need to look somewhat attractive. :ohwell:
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  • idontcarroll
    idontcarroll Posts: 216 Member
    If a man doesn't tell me how I should be then I go full freak out mode.

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  • JustSomeEm
    JustSomeEm Posts: 20,284 MFP Moderator
    How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.

    It's a good thing we have all these helpful forum topics to guide us along the right path.

    It really! Now I just have to figure out how to be in my twenties with a perfect hourglass shape, always be in a dress, and be feminine but not too clingy and make awesome sammiches and give a man his space, but let him know I'm always there for him and wear make up, but not too much. What am I missing? What else do I need to do?

    You forgot the dominatrix outfit.
  • yo_andi
    yo_andi Posts: 2,178 Member
    Because insecurities.
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  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    Serious answer - Because it's only natural to want to be attractive to the opposite sex

    Joking answer - Because I said so. And pleasing me is your main goal in life, right?

    You're right, Derp. If I make you a sammich, will you forgive my brazen behavior?:flowerforyou:
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I couldn't give a crap what any man thinks. The only approval I need is mine.

    What!?!
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  • Really sick of the insecurity answer. How about because it's only natural to want to appeal to the opposite sex ... it's called sexual selection. If only we could admit to ourselves that we want to secure a sexual partner instead of berating other women for wanting to do exactly that. Disclaimer: not to be mistaken for putting up with abusive, degrading, or non-reciprocating partners, aka making sammiches for a demanding man who never makes you sammiches in return and doesn't respect you.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    If a man doesn't tell me how I should be then I go full freak out mode.

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    And this is why we need forums.
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    lol screw what men prefer.

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  • DenDweller
    DenDweller Posts: 1,438 Member
    Remember to say that you don't give a crap at all about what men think. That way you can be fiercely independent, just like everyone else.
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    Serious answer - Because it's only natural to want to be attractive to the opposite sex

    Joking answer - Because I said so. And pleasing me is your main goal in life, right?

    You're right, Derp. If I make you a sammich, will you forgive my brazen behavior?:flowerforyou:

    Better bring a beer too, you've got a lot to be sorry for missy.