Should i tell him that he is gaining the weight back
Telton66
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I am good friends with one of my co workers who lost weight 6 months ago by eating only vegetables for a month. However, now it looks like he is gaining it back.I can see it from his stomach area as it seems like that's the first place males put weight when they gain weight. He looks noticeably thicker .
should I tell him before he finds himself back where he started? Its so easy to not notice the early stages of weight gain.Do you think he will be pissed
should I tell him before he finds himself back where he started? Its so easy to not notice the early stages of weight gain.Do you think he will be pissed
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if he's a good friend I would bring up a concern, do it in a private setting.0
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It really isn't your place to say anything. I guess it depends on how close you are. Losing weight by only eating vegetables isn't really sustainable anyway.0
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No.0
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No, it's none of your business. He's more than likely aware.
If a co-worker of mine said they mentioned me gaining weight, I would be pissed.0 -
No.
No no no.
No.
If it was your husband or really close friend it'd be different, maybe, depending on your relationship. But there's no way that telling a coworker they're gaining weight goes well. Also, he most likely knows.0 -
Yea i wouldn't either hun, I think he knows too and he may be internally debating on whether to confront it or ignore it. Everyone knows that losing weight takes hard work and serious dedication otherwise if it didn't we would all be skinny. And thats why not many americans don't workout or eat right because its too hard so they cut corners
BASICALLY he nows what he did and he knows what to do ..
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He already knows that he is gaining the weight back.0
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I would not say a thing. It will come off rude no matter how you do it. Most people are very sensitive about their weight, especially having been successful with weight loss and then started to gain the weight back. Believe me, he notices, he may just not be motivated to do anything about it or maybe he wasn't comfortable at the lower weight and is trying to find a more manageable weight. Maybe he didn't think the weight loss was worth only eating vegetables. Maybe he's happier being able to eat more foods. Either way- don't... it would only do more harm than good.0
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Maybe someone who never thought about their weight wouldn't notice a gain, but if he already went through a weight loss process, then he almost certainly would realize he's gaining it back. I wouldn't mention it.0
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Do you honestly think he doesn't notice? I'm sure he does. A good friend would share information on nutrition and offer to workout together or sign up for a 5K.0
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My workmate said to me "Have you put on weight?" when she saw my stomach getting larger. I'd lost some weight earlier but had a lose-gain phase. It hurt a little but it did actually help in terms of bringing back to reality that I was gaining. It might help him, or you could do a sidetrack comment by saying that you were thinking of going vegetable too for a while, just to see how he reacts.
Personally, I'd love to go veges only for a month, but it's too expensive.0 -
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Abso-fricken-lutely NOT.
He's your co-worker. Not your partner, not your family member, not your best friend. Even if he was any of those things, I'd still probably say no.
He's not stupid, he knows he's putting weight back on and he doesn't need a CO-WORKER, even one who is a friend, pointing it out.0 -
Lol. No.0
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In this case, I would say NO! It is not any of your business, and he did not lose the weight in a heathy, sustainable way to begin with. He is probably well aware he is slipping and can not control his binges he is now having. You dont need to point it out to him.0
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No, don't say anything. As someone else posted, ask if you both want to go on a bike ride together or something if you are really concerned, but a co-worker's mid-section is not your responsibility or business. Eating only vegetables doesn't sound like a long-term plan anyway if it isn't a "lifestyle" change.0
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*insert the nope nope nope octopus gif here*0
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He already knows that he is gaining the weight back.
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I'd just ask him if he was doing ok. I asked the same question a while ago and this worked out ok. Gives the person a chance to open up or not as they see fit.0
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Solid first post.
Just....solid.0 -
Why do I get the feeling this is a troll post? :huh:0
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Hmmm. Has Atkins in username, comments on a co-worker's all-vegetable diet.0
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Nope.
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NopeNopeNope Nope.
Don't do it. He already knows. You won't be doing him any favors.0 -
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Don't do it. He already knows. You won't be doing him any favors.
^^This
No. He knows.0 -
I guess everyone is right but when he lost weight, I didn't say anything but then he came to me and asked me if I noticed that he had lost weight. He is the one who brought it up.Then I asked him how he did it and he said he only ate vegetables for a month straight.I told him about how i am losing weight slowly with counting calories and he laughed and said he always does it fast. So that's why I thought he woudnt mind talking about his weight.Also he is guy so I thought guys are not sensitive about their weight and they don't hesitate telling another dude that he is getting fat0
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well this is a delicate situation. I am sure he already knows he is gaining the weight back but since you say you are a concerned friend, maybe you could do it in a round about way like asking how he lost the weight and what is his secret to keeping it off. when I am getting lazy myself and people ask me this.. it really makes me feel like a hiprocrite and a little more aware that I need to keep practicing what I preach. I also think back to when I first started this journey and wishing and wondering why someone never said anything to me about me gaining weight. I mean it may have upset me at the time and of course hindsight is 20/20 vision and all .. but it may have motivated me to get back to it a lot sooner and I may not have got as big as I did. just a thought. this is a situation you have to handle with care... you don't want to lose a friend by coming off rude. ask if he ever wants to go on lunch walks or something. all journeys of weightloss are like a roller coater ride. he is just at the low of it right now. its nice of you to be concerned but be respectful of his feelings and be discreet if you decide to do anything. good luck with that one. :flowerforyou:0
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The only person I would ever mention that they are gaining weight to is my husband, and even that's a maybe and under the right conditions.
It's none of your business and you will only hurt your relationship, business and personal.0 -
He already knows that he is gaining the weight back.
Maybe from the all veggie diet.0 -
I guess everyone is right but when he lost weight, I didn't say anything but then he came to me and asked me if I noticed that he had lost weight. He is the one who brought it up.Then I asked him how he did it and he said he only ate vegetables for a month straight.I told him about how i am losing weight slowly with counting calories and he laughed and said he always does it fast. So that's why I thought he woudnt mind talking about his weight.Also he is guy so I thought guys are not sensitive about their weight and they don't hesitate telling another dude that he is getting fat
I think a lot of guys are more sensitive about it than they might let on.
Also, him bringing up the fact that he lost weight isn't the same as you bringing up the fact that he's gaining.0 -
No! Just no.0
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