Lingerie Question......might be TMI

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  • outersoul
    outersoul Posts: 711
    Let me chime in with another guy's opinion. I think most men would agree with what I'm about to say. It's not what you wear or how it fits...it's how you wear it. Sexy for me has nothing to do with looks, clothes, hair, makeup or anything physical. It has everything to do with how you work it. Don't confuse pretty with attractive or sexy. They are completely different things.

    A woman can be pretty but I might not have any attraction to her whatsoever. Put a woman next to her who isn't quite as pretty and I could be very attracted to her and think she's sexy. Some of the sexiest women I've had the pleasure of knowing have not fit the the stereotypical, media look. Instead they had this confident air about them. Now that's sexy.

    If you're going to wear it, wear it like you KNOW you're the sexiest woman alive. If you feel it. He'll feel it.
  • buibear88
    buibear88 Posts: 23 Member
    Confidence is sexy. You could be wearing a burlap sack but if our attitude is right then your man will be into it!
  • Amber030583
    Amber030583 Posts: 490 Member
    Awww thanks guys!! I really appreciate it! I will have to keep this thread book marked and come back to it before I dare to expose myself. LOL Plus it is a good motivator to make it stretch a little less with my workouts!
  • bzmom
    bzmom Posts: 1,332 Member
    Again like some others had said if its lace and streachy is probably suppose to be fitted. And girl you will ROCK THIS THING!!!!

    RJ-your comment was sweet... awwww!
  • mccorml
    mccorml Posts: 622 Member
    Miss Amber,

    I'm a guy through and through, and let me share some insight from my perspective. I've been lucky enough in my life to date every size, shape and type of woman there is...and even luckier to see many of them, well, less than fully clothed. I can tell you one thing - lingerie, panties, etc are damn sexy BUT - NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING comes close to attitude to make someone sexier. Women can go from way less than model quality, to the sexiest you could imagine based on how they carry themselves, and their confidence levels. At the same time, some of the most gorgeous appealing women can drop off the scale when their attitudes let them.

    So, my advice is this...act sexy and think sexy - you'll be sexy. It may take a while to build that confidence...but you'll get there. The weight loss and getting in shape isn't what ultimately is going to make you sexy...it's the attitude change in you that it will help bring out that is going to make you sexy. Same with lingerie...doesn't matter if it's tight or loose, if YOU feel sexier in it, you will be. Find something you're comfortable and feel hot in...your guy will pick up on it. And the more comfortable you feel in it, the less time you'll be wearing it anyway!!!

    My guess is you're already there in the sexy department...you just don't know it, but you will. Keep at it.

    SSG

    i agree with this..
  • kalebsmama07
    kalebsmama07 Posts: 503
    he wouldnt think anything bad he'd be to busy being turned on hun.....just keep that in mind....if he loves u he wouldnt think bad ...he probley wants u to be like this...
  • MaryDreamer
    MaryDreamer Posts: 439
    AGREED!
  • ChuckgM3
    ChuckgM3 Posts: 302 Member
    Chances are if he's your fiancé he already thinks you're damn sexy. And every guy thinks his girl is sexier no matter how it fits. Strut your stuff with confidence.

    Oh and I 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th the suggestion about the high heels. And don't take them off until it's time to go to sleep!
  • sarahnicolexoxo
    sarahnicolexoxo Posts: 230
    It is ALL about the confidence that comes with wearing it. If you strut your stuff and rock some fishnets, heels or whatever makes you comfortable..he will love it. Don't worry about it!! He loves you!!
  • sarahnicolexoxo
    sarahnicolexoxo Posts: 230
    Confidence is sexy. You could be wearing a burlap sack but if our attitude is right then your man will be into it!

    Can it atleast be a cute burlap sack with sparkles or something? LOL :D
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    ..and this may be a personal preference, but if you are spooked my lingerie, if you put on one of his dress shirts...and nothing else.

    Pure hotness!

    Posting in this thread, I am now getting lingerie ads. I need to visit this thread more often.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Well, I think that you lot are being remarkably chauvanistic. Us men are more complicated than the shallow, sexually depraved and frankly shocking representation portrayed in this thread

    Do women really think it's as simple as:

    1) Wearing sexy lingerie & high heels
    2) Turning up

    to get a man interested. Well do you? Hmmmmm? Well, in that case...yeah, you're right. It is that simple.

    Hope you have fun ;)
  • xxPeppaxx
    xxPeppaxx Posts: 142 Member
    Its all in the attitude...ROCK THAT LINGERIE ....OWN YOUR SEXINESS!!!!!!!
  • deandp371
    deandp371 Posts: 63
    Throw a little robe over it if that makes you more comfortable. And you can have fun with that too...
  • HLRoberts1987
    HLRoberts1987 Posts: 139 Member
    You are a beautiful and sexy woman. Own that! Youve worked hard to get where you are at right now. Be proud of that. Men do not see the flaws we see in ourselves. And if they do they really do not notice/mind them. When they say love is blind it is true. Its not completely blind but you know what I mean. I totally and completely agree with HawkeyeGuy. Be confident in it and he will think you are the sexiest thing he has ever seen. Playboy wont have anything on you :o). I wish you the best of luck and HAVE FUN WITH IT! :o)
  • sarahTV
    sarahTV Posts: 65 Member
    ..and this may be a personal preference, but if you are spooked my lingerie, if you put on one of his dress shirts...and nothing else.

    Pure hotness!

    Posting in this thread, I am now getting lingerie ads. I need to visit this thread more often.

    I totally agree...my husband is in the military and I came out wearing nothing but one of his shirts...best night ever...
  • HawkeyeGuy
    HawkeyeGuy Posts: 183
    I'm getting lingerie ads popping up now, too! I think I'm going to change my name on here to "LingerieAdvisor", as I've decided it's much more fun to give women advice about something like thongs, boyshorts and panties rather than caloric turnover and the evil idea of a diet. I love women...especially the one's who like lingerie (actually I'm partial to boyshorts and a t-shirt if you're wondering!).
  • freerange
    freerange Posts: 1,722 Member
    Alright, I CAN NOT believe I am posting this on here. But I have been googling for awhile with no success for an answer to this question.

    A little back story: I have been really self concious(I know I spelt it wrong) of myself. I feel a little better since losing weight but not close to where I want to be. My fiance' has hinted that he wanted me to be more comfortable in the "bedroom". Well, we are getting a house and officially moving in together. I wanted to surprise him. So, I went to Victorias Secret and got this Lace lingerie nighty thing. I really don't even know what to call it. LOL. I picked the one out that I thought was the most forgiving but it is black see through lace. It is very form fitting and thankfully there is a little bit of stretch to it. lol. So I guess what I am asking are these supposed to fit tight? Or should it be looser? And guys, would you be completely turned off if your lady was a little bigger and was wearing one and it was tight. I am not popping out of the top or anything. There is no muffin top of the back or anything. lol. But it is tight.

    Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you sooo much!

    It's hard to say, I think you need to post a pic of yourself in it,,,,,,,,,, just to make sure :smile:
    Really, no go for it, if he loves you, he will love you in a lingerie.
  • outersoul
    outersoul Posts: 711
    +1 for wearing his shirt. Pair that with heels? HOT. It works on many levels.
  • dawnslaughter
    dawnslaughter Posts: 125
    hun the only people who will see you in it is yourself and your fiance, he obviously loves you and wants you to be comfortable,if you feel comfortable in a floor length knitted night dress and you were relaxed he would find that just as sexy, you need to be able to relax and not be thinking does my but look good in this.

    you obviously wanted to buy it and i think you should get your moneys worth out of it ..

    go get him tiger!
  • HawkeyeGuy
    HawkeyeGuy Posts: 183
    I left my thoughts on this previously, you know, about attitude being everything. Don't get me wrong here...attitude can be helped by lingerie! The floor length knitted night dress just isn't doing it for me! Again, when in doubt, go with 1. Attitude, 2. Boy shorts 3. Tshirt!
    hun the only people who will see you in it is yourself and your fiance, he obviously loves you and wants you to be comfortable,if you feel comfortable in a floor length knitted night dress and you were relaxed he would find that just as sexy, you need to be able to relax and not be thinking does my but look good in this.

    you obviously wanted to buy it and i think you should get your moneys worth out of it ..

    go get him tiger!
  • Newfiedan
    Newfiedan Posts: 1,517 Member
    I am a married man with 1 kid, my wife and I have been married for a while now, she is a beautiful woman whom I love no matter what her size is, she has lost 46 pounds now and I find her very sexy and I support her trying to lose the weight, and I find that her confidence is slowly coming around, confidence makes a huge difference, you have to feel comfortable in your own skin. Every woman has something about herself that she should be confident about, I have known a good few beautiful larger women in my life who have no clue how beautiful they are. They physical appearance does not make the woman, the attitude does. I have known "model" types who have a crap attitude and they are ugly to me and I have known "very average" women who have a great confidence ergo they are sexy. Lingere is very sexy to me and just putting it on for a man makes them feel good, regardless of how you may feel in it he is going to love it. I say put it on and if you feel self conscious about it fake the confidence, it will come to you the more you get comfortable in your own skin.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    If your BF is anything like my DH you won't be wearing it long enough for it to be much of an issue. He already knows what you look like so just enjoy that he enjoys you. ;)
  • jillMoose
    jillMoose Posts: 45 Member
    Amber, you will be only as sexy as you feel. Put it on and strut your stuff, Girlfriend. Confidence is that sexiest outfit a girl can wear!!!!

    Amen sister! obvi if he wants you to be more comfy in the bedroom -- he is comfy with you. be yourself and have the attitude "ill try anything once!" -- always worked for me ;)
  • xxPeppaxx
    xxPeppaxx Posts: 142 Member
    I left my thoughts on this previously, you know, about attitude being everything. Don't get me wrong here...attitude can be helped by lingerie! The floor length knitted night dress just isn't doing it for me! Again, when in doubt, go with 1. Attitude, 2. Boy shorts 3. Tshirt!
    BOY SHORTS /TSHIRT/ATTITUDE!!!!!!!!!!! whoooo hoooo
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    He will love it!!
    I just bought something similair and was a little surprised how snug it was..guess I thought the lace would be more giving
    anyway, he will be thrilled and it won't stay on long
    ENJOY!!!
  • Dipmom
    Dipmom Posts: 228 Member
    My husand says, "guys don't care...they just like naked!"
  • cjduckie
    cjduckie Posts: 78 Member
    Thanks for posting this, great to get the perspectives and confirmation from the guys :flowerforyou:
  • Crimsonkiss
    Crimsonkiss Posts: 3 Member
    Lol, to be honest is it really going to be on that long? So I bet all he's going to be thinking is how hot it was for the few minutes you were wearing it! ;)
  • chickybabe05
    chickybabe05 Posts: 48
    to quote what my husband would say: "yeah, but does it look good wherever it lands on the floor?"

    it's just the male version of foreplay - strut your stuff and reap the rewards!


    Lol absolutely love this, so something my DP would say!!!

    And like everyone else has said its all about confidence, feel good and have fun!!!
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