Why are some members so mean here?

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  • kicklikeaGIRL
    kicklikeaGIRL Posts: 867 Member
    So I went back and looked through your posts and came across this response to your question. If this is what you're referring to, I would agree with you that this is a little rude and snappy. To call this person's message "helpful" is being overly kind I think. They left 22 question marks after their last statement. Why bother to answer a question if you're annoyed by its presence? Just move on to another question and let someone who wants to help, do so.

    No, it's just people don't read THE DIRECTIONS.
    I mean, we are adults, the process is very simple and straight forward here. If that isn't enough, there are sticky posts in the start of the forums that explain this a hundred times. Just because people don't read.....
    Plus: When you sign up the instructions are pretty clear. THEN the food diary reiterates it several times.....
    If that's not enough, there is a HELP at the top of every page.
    If that's still not enough there's a search engine.
    Really? You think there's not enough explanation?????????????????????? huh

    This is just plain unfair. If you're going to post one person's remark, you might as well include the other sarcastic and rude messages previous to this one. I mean, honestly...the OP was rude to EVERYONE who was trying to understand her better.

    This whole thread is no more than high school behavior.
  • katbass
    katbass Posts: 351 Member

    This is just plain unfair. If you're going to post one person's remark, you might as well include the other sarcastic and rude messages previous to this one. I mean, honestly...the OP was rude to EVERYONE who was trying to understand her better.

    This whole thread is no more than high school behavior.

    Couldnt agree more. To the OP, please go back to the thread and read your sarcastic, rude comments on that thread, both to me and to others who were trying to help you. I doubt you would say any of those things to our faces, in that tone. I didnt let your snotty undertone bother me because A) you can lead a horse to water... B) you live in my computer and C) you were clearly looking for an argument and I dont have time for people like that.

    I hope you got the attention and affirmations you were seeking by starting this thread. It pains me to give you the attention you seek, as it reminds me of high school, but I cant let you think that you were all sunshine and rainbows on that thread. Your attitude was less than friendly.
  • sophiajackson99
    sophiajackson99 Posts: 90
    So I went back and looked through your posts and came across this response to your question. If this is what you're referring to, I would agree with you that this is a little rude and snappy. To call this person's message "helpful" is being overly kind I think. They left 22 question marks after their last statement. Why bother to answer a question if you're annoyed by its presence? Just move on to another question and let someone who wants to help, do so.

    No, it's just people don't read THE DIRECTIONS.
    I mean, we are adults, the process is very simple and straight forward here. If that isn't enough, there are sticky posts in the start of the forums that explain this a hundred times. Just because people don't read.....
    Plus: When you sign up the instructions are pretty clear. THEN the food diary reiterates it several times.....
    If that's not enough, there is a HELP at the top of every page.
    If that's still not enough there's a search engine.
    Really? You think there's not enough explanation?????????????????????? huh

    This is just plain unfair. If you're going to post one person's remark, you might as well include the other sarcastic and rude messages previous to this one. I mean, honestly...the OP was rude to EVERYONE who was trying to understand her better.

    This whole thread is no more than high school behavior.

    Didn't mean to be unfair. I didn't see a whole lot else to post... Maybe there was another thread I didn't see. Sorry to offend!! :D Ciao!
  • elfie9863
    elfie9863 Posts: 337
    You will always get the occasional "keyboard warrior" who thinks their opinions are fact!, in general though this place is brilliant and full of motivational people so don't let it put you off!

    Ben.
    keyboard warriors this made me laugh.


    BAHAHAHAHAH!!!!! AND....they KNOW who they are.....that's the funny part...
  • Nailrep
    Nailrep Posts: 966 Member
    I'VE NOTICED SARCASTIC REMARKS, WHICH ARE TOTALLY UNNECESSARY. WE ARE HERE TO LEARN FROM EACH OTHER. BUT TE SITE IS AWESOME IMO! MOST OF THE PEOPLE ARE GREAT!!
  • purple1butterfly
    purple1butterfly Posts: 646 Member
    I have replied to many posts & have not noticed members being mean, that probably because i have not read it that way others do. I hope that i have never upset someone when replying to a post. My spelling & grammar are c**p & i will be sorting that out soon. Don't let it spoil your experience here.
  • cindy4mica
    cindy4mica Posts: 777 Member
    p.s. i personally think being sensitive is a great trait! i would much rather kick it with sensitive people than with callous ones!! :smile:

    agreed!
  • ugogirl1234
    ugogirl1234 Posts: 43

    This is just plain unfair. If you're going to post one person's remark, you might as well include the other sarcastic and rude messages previous to this one. I mean, honestly...the OP was rude to EVERYONE who was trying to understand her better.

    This whole thread is no more than high school behavior.

    Couldnt agree more. To the OP, please go back to the thread and read your sarcastic, rude comments on that thread, both to me and to others who were trying to help you. I doubt you would say any of those things to our faces, in that tone. I didnt let your snotty undertone bother me because A) you can lead a horse to water... B) you live in my computer and C) you were clearly looking for an argument and I dont have time for people like that.

    I hope you got the attention and affirmations you were seeking by starting this thread. It pains me to give you the attention you seek, as it reminds me of high school, but I cant let you think that you were all sunshine and rainbows on that thread. Your attitude was less than friendly.

    If you don't have time for "people like that" as you put it, then why did you reply back to this thread?
  • sbwood888
    sbwood888 Posts: 953 Member
    I once posted a something that I thought was cute--I immediately ticked this one lady off and she accused me of trying to "start an argument". I was floored. Starting an argument was the LAST thing I had in mind. I just wished her a good day and moved on. It will be that way from time to time. I just take the good and enjoy it and shake off the bad. I enjoy this site too much to let the fact that a few people don't seem to like the way I post. Overall, people respond to me well and I have lots of supportive friends. Just shake it off. Maybe that person was having a bad day. MFP is a great place for the most part. :flowerforyou:
  • ugogirl1234
    ugogirl1234 Posts: 43
    I once posted a something that I thought was cute--I immediately ticked this one lady off and she accused me of trying to "start an argument". I was floored. Starting an argument was the LAST thing I had in mind. I just wished her a good day and moved on. It will be that way from time to time. I just take the good and enjoy it and shake off the bad. I enjoy this site too much to let the fact that a few people don't seem to like the way I post. Overall, people respond to me well and I have lots of supportive friends. Just shake it off. Maybe that person was having a bad day. MFP is a great place for the most part. :flowerforyou:

    I will admit I was floored that this particular person accused me of starting an argument. She also stated that I was rude and snotty to everyone that tried to understand what I was trying to explain. I am officially denying this, but I can understand where she is coming from.
  • InnerSkinnyGirl
    InnerSkinnyGirl Posts: 12 Member
    People like that are generally unhappy with themselves. If we ignore their posts they won't get the reaction they are seeking and will eventually fade away. If we maintain the culture here they will soon realize that they don't "fit" and leave.

    I just ignore them and stay above the fray. Im not here for high school mean girl foolishness. I am here to lose weight, support others on the same journey and get back into my skinny girl clothes. Thats it! LOL Anything else is just unnecessary.
  • mielikkibz
    mielikkibz Posts: 552 Member
    No, I've never experienced anything negative here. You didn't provide details of the so-called "attack" so I'm going to assume it really wasn't that bad. Don't be so sensitive, grow up, and just ignore people who are "mean."

    I unfortunately agree. . .i looked at the posts and found nothing nasty. . .i'm sorry the original poster felt she was attacked, but I didnt' see anything worth getting this upset over
  • Barelmy
    Barelmy Posts: 590 Member
    I've just been reading that thread. I have to say, I didn't notice any posts that were overly rude.

    Your original post gave very badly thought out advice, presented as fact. People did point that out. I think they're sick of seeing the same wrong ideas over and over.

    I'm curious as to what you hope to achieve with this petty, passive-aggressive attack on people who disagree with your poorly researched opinions.
  • Barelmy
    Barelmy Posts: 590 Member
    There should be if there isn't a guide for newbs to forums on the internet and it should inform people that they should get their bearings before they barrel in with topics that have been discussed repeatedly etc.

    There is a meme - LURK MOAR.

    Or, in polite English, sit around and quietly watch people until you've got a handle on the community.
  • Andy_UK_1979
    Andy_UK_1979 Posts: 16
    Hi,

    I cant say as I have seen anything yet, but I'm new so not seen much. That said when I was doing "Slimming Word" it was like being at "AA" and everyone slagging each other off for gaining a lb or so.. there are always some high and mighty people who just need to shut their mouth and get back in their box if they have noting helpfull to say! - Sad really but some just find it easy to "Chelp" at people from behind a keyboard when really they know sweet FA.

    Dont let it bother you, just report the post and ignore them..

    Keep ya chin up

    Andy
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    I have had nothing but support and positivity, like some of the others here I took a look at the thread that I assume the OP is referring to and seriously no one is being 'mean', it is a case of over sensitivity I think and i hope that the support of everyone on here will help the OP overcome the feeling that people who don't agree with everything you say are being 'mean'.

    MFP is full of all sorts of people, some are opinionated and some are quiet and shy, some are angry and motivated, some are passive and unmotivated, some are keen and active, some are lurkers, but we are all here to lose weight in our own way. Please don't let the easy misunderstanding of the written word (after all over half of communication is NON verbal) make you feel threatened and unsupported. Find positivity in things, it will make your life much happier.

    Good luck in your weight loss :flowerforyou:
  • backinthenines
    backinthenines Posts: 1,083 Member
    I'm curious as to what you hope to achieve with this petty, passive-aggressive attack on people who disagree with your poorly researched opinions.

    This made me chuckle. :drinker:

    Like "how dare you not agree with me". :laugh:
  • toots99
    toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
    Reading some of the posts in this thread, I think some of you are proving her point. :huh:
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