Can Men and Women REALLY ever just bo friends?
Still_Sossy
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I had a conversation with my husband this morning. I go walking with my neighbor who is a guy, nice, make small talk and chit chat etc, never does or says anything weird or potentially sexual ever come up, our conversations today centered around Tilapia!
My husband believes that it is impossible for men and women to have a friendship with out it ever getting complicated by emotions or sexuality. I think you can be friends with men or women. His words having to be edited, were basically men think with their "you know" and that this is just how things are. I was wondering what other peoples opinions on male/female friendships are.
My husband believes that it is impossible for men and women to have a friendship with out it ever getting complicated by emotions or sexuality. I think you can be friends with men or women. His words having to be edited, were basically men think with their "you know" and that this is just how things are. I was wondering what other peoples opinions on male/female friendships are.
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I think it can be difficult, but not impossible. I don't think a little flirting and sexual tension is a bad thing. Keeps us on our toes. I hope I never take a blase attitude towards women and I wouldn't want my wife to either.0
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i have women friends and i also know their husbands and b/f they talk and text me i know when they start getting jealous i back away for awhile and let them be.0
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When will I learn to proof read????0
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my best friend is a guy!0
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I have several guy friends, one is going to be a groomsmen in my wedding, and my fiance doesn't care. Another guy friend of mine has a girl as his bff, and her and his girlfriend have also become really good friends. It's just about trust and knowing that the only person you want to come home to at night is the person you're in the actual relationship with!0
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Too many of my men friends don't think of me in a sexual way and it really pi$$es me off. :laugh:0
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I think they can... but yea, a lot of men do think with their 'ya know what'. I think if both people are in a committed relationship it makes the whole platonic thing so much easier, then neither person is "expecting" something from the friendship.0
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sure it is - when I was working in a corporate environment, I had mostly female co-workers and had some that were really good friends. just friends - that's it.
but ya, for some people if there is chemistry, it can be tough. and sometimes some people - whether women or men do have different motives - but I would say one could probably pick that up quickly.0 -
I have several purely friend-only male friends. I also have a few that are a little more complicated. I think it just depends on the people in question as to whether mixed-sex friendships can really be just friends.0
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Yes and no. Depends on the person and how they feel about each. You can be friends, but at the same time, feelings came come up. I've been in this situation, so, it's a bit hard to give an answer.0
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my hubby would agree with your hubby
I used to think it was possible...and still do (sort of)...I think for a single woman, it is ok...but as a married woman, it can be an issue (and yes, this is my observation with some friends that are recently not married anymore)...not saying this always causes a problem...but if a woman becomes vulnerable (bad fight with the hubby) sometimes the "male friends" see that as an opportunity for something to "just happen"0 -
when he starts saying unexpected things.0
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For quite a while, all I had were female friends. A few of them I did want to date, but there were others that I was only interested in for a friend. One of my wife's best friends is a guy, they talk on the phone usually a couple times a day, and there is or never will be anything between them. The running joke is that he is her boyfriend.0
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If what your husband says was true, bisexual people in a committed relationship wouldn't be allowed to have any friends at all. That line of thinking is bogus. It is 100% possible and it happens all the time. If I can be blunt for a moment, hopefully without coming across as rude, it sounds to me that your husband has some control/trust issues.0
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I think it is possible and have some great female friends (in fairness,long distance) ones.
Even if he ever does have a romantic or sexual thought I think most guys are still decent enough to never act on those feelings.0 -
If you're a husband or a father to a daughter then you would probably answer no. For anyone else, the answer is yes. hehe0
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Carl makes an excellent point which I agree with. I think you have to have a guy that is in coontrol of himself enough to maintain that line. Many are notI think it is possible and have some great female friends (in fairness,long distance) ones.
Even if he ever does have a romantic or sexual thought I think most guys are still decent enough to never act on those feelings.0 -
its very possible.. Now on the other hand when in a relationship you do have to be very.careful because the possibility to lead to other things is there0
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Absolutely. I have a few best friends are guys.0
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I am the only female at my workplace. I only consider a handful of the men I work with as "friends". If I was even remotely friendly with some of them they would take it the wrong way. I also know which ones I can joke around with and which ones I cannot. Same with customers, since the majority of our customers are men.
My husband agrees with yours...it's not possible for me to be "just friends" with a man. A man always has a hidden agenda in his opinion.0 -
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I have several guy friends, one is going to be a groomsmen in my wedding, and my fiance doesn't care. Another guy friend of mine has a girl as his bff, and her and his girlfriend have also become really good friends. It's just about trust and knowing that the only person you want to come home to at night is the person you're in the actual relationship with!
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Most of my friends are guys. I only have one female friend. I think you have to trust your partner and yourself to make sure lines are not crossed.0
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hmmm good question. i think as long as there are no feelings involved u can.
i'm friends with my first love but only after we both moved on and no longer saw each other in that way.
also if u have a guy friend that u met b4 ur current relationship it might not be as threatening to ur new guy. but if a new guy comes into the picture yeah they might feel a lil jealousy. wouldn't you? i'm a very jealous person so I would not like for my man to be working out, hanging out, giong out, doing anything with another girl instead of me :noway: hahahaha yes i'm crazy like that :blushing:0 -
i think its a good thing to have friends of both sexes and not to expect anything from the opposite sex...men can be pigs and yes most of them do think with their "u know wut"...lol...but honestly...wut man doesnt???....but yes sos i think wut u have with ur neighbor...only talking about fish??....lol...thats not a big deal..well not to me...i think ur hubby needs to talk to ur neighbor and get to know him to see he is not a threat...i think all husbands and bf's get jealous when their woman talks to another guy...they think they r going to lose wut they have and they dont want that to happen...my hubby dont like it when guys even look at me a certain way...i usually never see anyone looking at me but like i said...men r men and some of them can be really good friends....both ppl need to know wut is expected so no 1 can say they thought something else...0
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I believe it can happen...But the more important thing here is that you explore these feels with your husband casue that would mean if he talks to a girl at work mor than once something has to be going on....which doesn't make since. So i would get him to a place where he is comfortable with you have friends of the opposite sex.0
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I totally believe that you can have a male friend that is JUST a male friend!!! I have several male friends that have and don't have companions... None of those guys have ever made advances towards me, now they may use me to get close to one of my girl friends
But at the end of the day we are still friends and no funny business. On the same hand, I like to have guys that are interested in me and actually make the effort to be a friend as well as a companion!!! 0 -
men and women can sooo just be friends!!!! 90% of my friends are male and there has never been anything other than friendship between us, it wud be like incest lol me n my male friends r really close and i trust them implicetly
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I have a few great guy friends. Two of them are my best friends but they are gay. The other ones are married or have a gf and I have become good friends with their significant others because I have a rule that I ALWAYS adhere to....I don't EVER sleep with a friend's man. That is how I maintain my friendship with a straight man.0
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You guys are so clever!!!0
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