Anyone look too young for their age, I do

2»

Replies

  • ucabucca
    ucabucca Posts: 606 Member
    Hang in there. Learn to just be yourself and people will get over it in time and see beyond the surface. It is hard I know but when you are older there are then benefits to still looking younger and that's fun.
  • fanceegirl75
    fanceegirl75 Posts: 620 Member
    Yep but I totally appreciate that I do and I'm flattered when I'm carded. Lol! Looking younger is truly a blessing that not everyone experiences. I will be 40 next year. There will come a time when it won't bother you at all! :wink:
  • misslynn1976
    misslynn1976 Posts: 89
    Yes I have the same problem. When I was 12 people thought I was 18, which was cool but now that I'm older and and people think I'm younger it's just annoying. I'm tired of being carded and mistaken for my daughters sister all the time.
  • Elvenhearted1
    Elvenhearted1 Posts: 38 Member
    Yes. I'm 31. People think I'm anywhere from 19 to 25. Very annoying, especially when I have my young son with me. One old biddy even had the nerve to look me up and down and say "Oh, you're just a baby yourself, tut tut tut." I replied with "Wow, I never thought 30 would ever be considered too young to have a child, boy things change huh!" Kinda funny watching her try and back track and say "Oh you look so young for your age, you should take it as a compliment!" I was like, "Yeah normally I would but it's not really a compliment when it comes from a place of judgement and disdain." Her face was GOLD.

    I hate the condescending "Oh, you'll appreciate it when you're older!" remarks you always get. Um, no, I would actually like to look my age, and excuse me but I don't buy in to the idea that youth equals beauty. What the hell is with that obsession?
  • Frankiigii
    Frankiigii Posts: 62 Member
    I just saw some statistics from OK Cupid that shows men of all ages tend to prefer women in their early 20s. That's just numbers based on responses from men to women on OK Cupid, but with such a huge pool of participants it can be fairly representative of general preferences. Although women seem to be guilty of the same thing, especially when hiring other women. Attractive women get more response from employers. However based on those numbers women tended to prefer men very close to their own age until they reached 40, when they started to respond more to men slightly younger than them. Interesting stuff.
  • JimmyRabuf
    JimmyRabuf Posts: 11 Member
    I like women of all ages, unfortunately this feeling is not mutual.
  • Frankiigii
    Frankiigii Posts: 62 Member
    I'm 27 and I often hear that I look like a teenager. I just laugh and say I'm sure I'll be thankful when I'm older. It doesn't bother me for whatever reason. I've also had people tell me from childhood that I seem wiser than my years. I like the advice that said to be confident. Appearance honestly can be second to your personality. It comes down to charisma, and I know some crazy charismatic people.
  • silencioesoro
    silencioesoro Posts: 318 Member
    I'm 30 and people tell me that I look in my late teens to mid twenties. I can't complain - but it was really annoying when I was working at the high school and the temp security or sub staff would stop me in the hallways to tell me go back to wherever the students were supposed to be at the time.

    It can be annoying, but you'll embrace it when you're older.
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    When my husband and I were flying home from our 1st anniversary trip, the flight attendant tried to tell me I couldn't sit by the emergency exit. You have to be 15 to sit there.

    So I know the feeling.

    The good news is that, in another 15 or 20 years, you'll look young! :wink: I'm at that point now, when nobody believes I could possibly be mom to teenagers. It's nicer now than when I was a newlywed, haha.
  • mrhonesty
    mrhonesty Posts: 274 Member
    People tell me that I look like a fat 40 yr old. Well that's true but who cares what people think? Do your thing and don't sweat silly opinions from people that don't matter in your life.
  • goddess599
    goddess599 Posts: 7 Member
    Yes, I get mistaken for being in my 30's and I am 49 years old. I have always had a "baby" face. When I was 18 I looked like I was 12. I always attribute it to luck of genetics and staying away from those vices that tend to age a person.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Nope. I'm pretty much old and I think I look my age. But I think I'm a healthy, good looking old. :drinker:
  • bbrat333
    bbrat333 Posts: 158 Member
    Lol, I have always been accused of being younger than I am. Less so lately, but when I started dating my BF around 8 years ago his mom wondered if I was legal (took her about a month to ask him) I was like 25. I was carded for cigarettes until I quit smoking 3 years ago (30 years old) and about 3 months ago I went to a casino and was refused a drink because I couldn't find my ID, I'm 33.

    It's so annoying sometimes, but I'm happy in the knowledge that when everyone else looks old, I'll always look younger.
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    I always have, but I attribute that to genes and....melanin. Yes, I said it. It does preserve things, so to speak.

    :laugh:
    This has been my suspicion for years!
  • Forest91
    Forest91 Posts: 1,203 Member
    I am 23 years old but when people who don't know me come up to me to talk I get it where people think I am anywhere from 13 years old to 18 years old. It was hard when I was younger when I was at my year 11 graduation when one of the parents of one of the year 11 student from another form class came up to me and asked why I was there because no children was aloud there so I said I was a year 11 student she didn't believe me until someone told her I was. She thought I was 10 years old I was nearly 16 years old at the time. Then when I was nearly 17 years old I went to my 14 year old sister parents evening and my sister's head of year throught that me and my sister were twins. It makes it hard for job interviews because you don't know if their believe that you are the age you say.
  • annziexo
    annziexo Posts: 90 Member
    Tell me about it!

    I'm 20 and been working for the last 10 years but depending on the day of the week people seem to think i'm roughly 13-16 years of age!

    Very embarrassing at times and can be very annoying! However will be positive when everyone else my age is old and wrinkly and i'm still looking young!
  • Makhai_
    Makhai_ Posts: 146 Member
    As time goes on, you will appreciate it more.
  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    People often ask me what I am studying in University LOL and i have had people comment on my high level of intensity in cardio classes (usually higher than the instructor.. I go hard) and say the only reason I can do that is because I am in my 20s.......





    i am 38 LOL
  • LouisianaHotSauce_93
    LouisianaHotSauce_93 Posts: 184 Member
    I'm 21,I look thirteen or fourteen.. when I was 12 I looked 18 or 19! Go figure!
  • ShortMrsN
    ShortMrsN Posts: 177 Member
    It used to bug me, but now I'm nearing 40 I love it!! I get asked for ID all the time (need to be 18 in New Zealand to buy alcohol) and I must admit I love the look of shock in their faces when they figure out my age :D
    Sometimes a thick skin is needed.......we had 4 kids in under 4 yrs (twins first helped!!) and I did hear the odd comment when out with all 4 kids......apparently it was a shame that someone so young had so many kids, tut tut...so young etc etc.....I was 30 when our twins were born, well past the "too young" stage!!! People will always find something to comment on!!

  • dannyxtyler
    dannyxtyler Posts: 72 Member
    I had someone take a look at my wedding ring and ask how I was able to get married at 16... this was a year ago. I get carded everywhere. I can't even go to an R-rated movie without getting carded, which does not happen to my friends of similar ages. I'm 27. When my oldest son was an infant (he's 2 1/2), I was always asked if he was my little brother. On that same day, my wife got mistaken for my mother - she was 3 months younger than I. That story never gets old; I think of that look on her face every time I think of my wife.
  • emmooney235
    emmooney235 Posts: 85 Member
    It's no big deal! I'm 31 and get mistaken for around 18 ALL THE TIME!! I get carded for everything, even if I'm not buying just with the person making the purchase. Just think how well you and the rest of us are going to age. Everyone will be jealous. I have yet to see my first laugh line or wrinkle, one of my friends who is 4 years younger is starting to get little lines in her face.
  • dedflwrs
    dedflwrs Posts: 251 Member
    Wait until you are my age and you will be begging for this to happen :p
  • ShellMarie35
    ShellMarie35 Posts: 34 Member
    I can completely relate to this. I am 22 and I get told I look like I'm 13. It can get very frustrating sometimes, but over the years it'll become a good thing to look younger.
  • 2kellymike
    2kellymike Posts: 75 Member
    I'm about to turn 50. EVERYTIME people discuss their children, and I say, "I have a daughter who is 32." I get the same response: "YOU have a 32 year old? You don't look 32 yourself!" It gets old, yeah. :\ But I did finally stop getting carded in the last few years.
  • lilmisfit1987
    lilmisfit1987 Posts: 183 Member
    I have freckles...freckles always make you look younger up until they start looking like age spots. I don't mind though. I don't see why your perceived ago should keep you from having friends. I work with a young man who is 18 but looks like he's 12-14 at most. When I first met him I thought he must be way to young to be working. He was pretty popular though. All the girls thought he was "adorable" because of his baby face.
  • Tedebearduff
    Tedebearduff Posts: 1,155 Member
    KaleDOG wrote: »
    Every other day at my break in between classes in community college, it seems i'm the target of the comment "Hey sorry if this seems rude, you look too young"

    Oh really?, yes it is!

    And my only friend hasn't made my desperation any better, only worse. I'm considering going back to being the quiet one 24/7 even at home. Just to let you know, I haven't had a girlfriend since ever, nor an actual friend even longer

    Stop closing yourself off and let others in?

    Use online dating sites to make friends, I did that for awhile made a few female friends out of it...

    Go to the gym (insert your hobby instead of the gym) everyday at the same time... over the years I have more gym friends than I do real friends these days.

    Message me if you want I'll be your friend ;)

    Own your young looks and come up with something to say if you hear it all the time, "Yeah it sucks being so smart at such a young age" something witty and quick... say something stupid like "thanks but I'm actually 37" something to get a rise out of someone, make them laugh... and just carry the convo from there.
  • bloodofareptile
    bloodofareptile Posts: 47 Member
    I just turned 33. I live in a country where the drinking age is 18. I frequently get asked for ID. I know a lot of people find this flattering, I mostly find it annoying as its not really common here to carry ID.

    I also get offered student discounts a lot, which I find less annoying!
  • Foamroller
    Foamroller Posts: 1,041 Member
    edited October 2014
    Once I was offered to get child fare by the busdriver when I was in the mid-30's. My last ex was 30...I was 42. It's flattering that people think I'm 10 yrs younger.

    But I understand it can be annoying, especially for men before 40's.
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    The older I get, the younger everyone else looks. I swear they let toddlers drive now!

Categories