Negative Comments

They are just jealous and probably miserable with themselves so they feel the need to put others down.

ditch the people in your life that are NOT supportive.

You just can't please some people no matter how hard you try. Your best bet is to ignore them and walk away. Don't try to argue, you will just feel worse - and you do not need to explain yourself. A simple, "It's my life to live how I want" then walk away, or something similar. It will be hard, but hopefully after a couple of times of walking away, they will drop it.

Oh, and yes I hate people that make those types of comments. I have a coworker that keeps telling me how she doesn't feel that great when she is smaller - I wouldn't either if I only ate a banana or handful of oyster cracker in the morning for breakfast, nothing for lunch and an ok dinner. She feels bad because she starves her body.

And good for you for sticking to your plan! You are out to make yourself healthier and happier, don't worry about anybody but you.

My daughter has a friend, and her parents drive me crazy. Both parents are over weight, and they both say the most horrible things about their daughter's weight. A couple of weeks ago I ran into the little girl and her mother at a school event, and her mother remarked about how tall my daughter is getting. Then she went on to say that her daughter is also growing, but she is growing wider not taller. What kind of person says that about their own kid!!!!???? Our kids also play soccer, and the other day when our girl's were competing against each other in a game, her parents kept telling us that their daughter won't ever make a goal, but as long as she is having fun they are happy to let her play soccer. They also yelled out to her, "Hey use all your weight to get through the girls". I try and say things to her parents to let them know that it isn't okay to talk about their daughter this way, but they just don't seem to get it! I know this is hurting their daughter. She has told my daughter that she is fat, and she has gained a bunch of weight over the last two years. I am sure she is depressed, and gaining the weight, because of how her parents have been talking to her. She is only nine years old. I am not sure what to do about this. If anyone has any advice on how I could help this family please tell me.

I have had a funny year health wise. Had a couple of migraine type attacks which I'd never had before, got a big tooth abcess and now have problematic gall stones which need surgery soon. There's woman at work who has told just about everybody that it's because I'm starving myself and I need to stop it. Now some of this may be related to the weightloss but I don't think putting it back on is the answer! Yes I've lost weight relatively fast, but I was over 300lb and diabetic for crying out loud. And, I certainly am not starving myself. In fact, when she asked what I ate in a day she reckoned it was more than her! She also makes comments about my clothes being too big. Well if she would like to buy me a whole new wardrobe every couple of months then she is welcome, but I'm not spending shed loads of money on clothes that will only fit for a few weeks.

I find that people are always going to have something to say. I think for the most part they don't want you to do something that they aren't doing. Your changing your eating habits for the better is awesome. It is actually making their bad eating habits stand out and they just don't know how to deal with it. Keep leading by example.

I find that in general, when a mirror is held up to them, some people do not like what they see. Instead of looking at their own reflection, it's easier to be negative to the mirror.

To change one's life can be a huge and sometimes difficult step, and when naysayers see others do it, while they are stuck in their own ruts (whatever they may be, not necessarily food and health-related), it reminds them of how much they continue along the same path. I'm sure we've all felt it, but the difference is that we are the ones who are now walking along a different path, while they sit back and try to rain on our parade.

When all is said and done however, the only people they are hurting are themselves. It's a shame because I suspect that that kind of negativity just feeds on itself; you find that a nasty comment doesn't make you feel better so the next time, you remember the frustration you felt, and you externalise it by being even nastier...which still doesn't make you feel better. And so on.

At least, that's how I imagine it works.

To the OP - if you can arrange it so you have to see them as little as possible, then my advice would be to do it. Why should you have to put up with such behaviour toward you? I wouldn't!

You should feel proud of what you are doing. Remember, you are doing it for yourself, not them, so who cares what they say You have control of your life, and they don't, people don't like to be reminded of that.

and i only see those people every so often, so its not that big of a deal.

if it were me, i would try and schedule my goals based on visits to this branch of the family - that way i'd get their tickers going every time! you just stay the course and stick to what matters to *you*! best of luck!

Make their poison words - be your fuel to keep on goin' to your goals...

When it's time to sport that bathin' suit & you lookin' all HOT & SLENDER...You can tell them, everytime you put me down - you kept fuelin' me to pushin' on harder...!

They will be GREEN with envy...! :laugh: :flowerforyou: