When is it ok to delete friends?

bmalone62
bmalone62 Posts: 57 Member
edited November 8 in Motivation and Support
Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?
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  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,227 Member
    edited November 2014
    I tend not to delete people who stop logging in, I know I've disappeared for a while and been happy when I came back and still had friends. No skin off my nose to keep them on there.

    I delete for rudeness, eating disorder behaviour, excessive drama or fundamental incompatability (whether it be diet or otherwise related).
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  • marlovs78
    marlovs78 Posts: 75 Member
    I only delete honey-eating vegans. They are an abomination.
  • Qskim
    Qskim Posts: 1,145 Member
    The porch light is always on for those who disappear.

    I remove crazy.
  • kwiatrtdy
    kwiatrtdy Posts: 383 Member
    People who log "X burned 850 calories doing the housework" as their exercise everyday. Then wondering why they are plateaued.

    I also deleted one person because they started spouting a load of religious stuff in all of their updates.
  • waterwing
    waterwing Posts: 214 Member
    There is no rule. Like pretty much every thing else on this journey, you do what you gotta do for you.
  • Snip8241
    Snip8241 Posts: 767 Member
    I am involved and supportive with likes and comments when my friends are successful or need encouragement. I will unfriend folks that are not interactive. It is a two way street as far as I am concerned. If someone never likes or gives me any feedback and support I feel as if I don't matter to them and I move on. No harm no foul...I just move on.
  • RunnerStephe
    RunnerStephe Posts: 2,195
    When they don't talk to me, when I try talking to them. Never like any of my posts. Be a friend, or bye!
  • Go_Mizzou99
    Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
    After 7 days I message them to check in. No response? Gone at 14 or more days...depending.
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  • darrcn5
    darrcn5 Posts: 495 Member
    I delete people who annoy me. I actually keep inactive people if I liked them before they went inactive. I figure if they do come back, they are going to need a friend!
  • noexcusesjustresults2014
    noexcusesjustresults2014 Posts: 212 Member
    I don't care if people log in or comment on my posts. I only delete people that make excuses and blame others for things they can control themselves.
  • Kst76
    Kst76 Posts: 935 Member
    People who are too supportive. A like or a comment is fine but to randomly write me motivational letters several times a week is nuts. lol
  • Cortneyrenee04
    Cortneyrenee04 Posts: 1,117 Member
    I delete dramatic people- fishing for compliments or complaining all the time! I need positivity.
  • JazzFischer1989
    JazzFischer1989 Posts: 531 Member
    I've never actually deleted anybody but I have declined friend requests for people who are using this site to feed into their eating disorders. I do have friends who have ED's but so long as I can see that they're making an attempt at recovery, we can continue to be friends.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    It's okay to delete whenever you like-- your list, your prerogative.

    Mostly I only delete if a person is inactive for a month. But there have been a few times that I've deleted a person for being annoying or for causing trouble on my wall.
  • CindyMarcuzAdams
    CindyMarcuzAdams Posts: 4,007 Member
    If you dont log in for 2 weeks or more...gone. Spew hatred...gone. Unsupportive...gone. Non recovering ED...gone.

    I am here to be successful and so far so good. I want and need friends to want to be successful as well.
  • Dencrossgirl
    Dencrossgirl Posts: 501 Member
    Had to delete only one person, could not handle her divorce drama and then all the sexual banter constantly thereafter. I am no prude but geeze she was getting weird already.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    Every 3rd Wednesday if is it raining.
  • Maitria
    Maitria Posts: 439 Member
    It's ok to delete when you realize it's time to delete. ;) You're right, people have very different reasons. What bothers me may not bother you. I don't care if someone isn't logging in, but that's a deal breaker for others. Just do what works the best for you.
  • yasminroseee
    yasminroseee Posts: 15
    I deleted a lady once for constantly updating everyone on her relationship problems. If I wanted to see stuff like that, I would have reopened my Facebook account :p
  • FaylinaMeir
    FaylinaMeir Posts: 661 Member
    when I don't like them anymore, or they annoying, or they're constantly eating junk food and complain they gain weight, get obsessively whiny, or just all around I don't want to be their friend... Maybe that's why I don't have any friends :laugh:
  • Terrytriesharder
    Terrytriesharder Posts: 50 Member
    Excessive negativity or being inactive for longer than a year.
  • llUndecidedll
    llUndecidedll Posts: 724 Member
    Well, if they're negative in any way to you, then delete them. I honestly don't care enough to friend/delete anyone.. and if I am deleted, then that's fine. If I am friended, then I try to support you with likes, but I am a socially awkward person you see, I don't really know how to comment on posts, so I don't 99.9% of the time.

    I have it set up where nothing posts to my feed. I feel better about it that way, so there's nothing for anyone to see/like/comment on.
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    edited November 2014
    I have deleted friends for a wide variety of reasons.
    1 - the "i know everything about weight loss and you need to listen to me" person (yeah he knows who he is)...especially when they dont stop harassing you to follow their plan.
    2 - disordered eating individuals
    3 - people who I have made a direct effort to send a like or comment every once in a while, and I get NOTHING in return
    4 - people who post too damn much about stuff that has nothing to do with weight loss. (Yeah, once in a while is okay...but if my MFP starts looking like FB - Your out!)
    5 - People who do not log on for 30 consecutive days
    6 - If I just notice we have nothing in common...and I feel like sweeping through my friends list, I may just have to cut you.

    I have gone and at one point deleted EVERYONE off of my friends list. I found it was nice to just start fresh. I find it nice to not have to feel obligated to care about others, just to come and read the forums and do what I got to do.

    Its about me, not making friends.
  • eldamiano
    eldamiano Posts: 2,667 Member
    I never consider myself to be rude on here... not really. But quite a few people think I am. But then... what they call rude, I would call honest and to the point. I am allowed to be that way if you ask me.
  • sseqwnp
    sseqwnp Posts: 327 Member
    bmalone62 wrote: »
    Everyone seems to have different opinions about deleting them when they aren't active but just curious, do you delete them for other reasons as well? Do you delete them when you feel they are rude? How about the ones that log in and are doing great but never support you with even a simple “like" on your progress?

    You delete them when I tell you to delete them.

  • rprussell2004
    rprussell2004 Posts: 870 Member
    Meh, whenever. It's your account.

    I deleted a few who hadn't logged in for MONTHS, and I deleted one this morning who had deactivated her account. (Sad, but whatchagonnado?)

    Mostly I don't care, though.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    I delete friend collectors (last one had over 1,000 friends), people who follow VLCD's, and people who have been inactive for a long period of time.
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