I'm 19 and have never had a boyfriend :(

I'm 21 and I've never had one. I've never even had a first kiss yet. So I doubt I can help.

You're young, boyfriends are overrated. Be patient & take care of YOU. Your prince will show up when you aren't looking.

FaithfulJewel wrote: »

You won't be happy with someone else until you can be happy with yourself.

And once you're happy with yourself, you will gain confidence and that will open up doors in your life, be it love, career or other things.

Don't panic, life isn't a race.

What ^^^she^^ said

Kristinemomof3 wrote: »

You're young, boyfriends are overrated. Be patient & take care of YOU. Your prince will show up when you aren't looking.

This x 10.

Most people either meet online or through friends so you need to get out there and widen your social circle if hacking through the guys that are after one thing (and nothing wrong with that!) is too much hard work. Like someone else suggested, volunteer, start a new hobby, take a fitness class and get to meet people. Boyfriends do not just fall out of the sky sadly!

I wouldn't worry about it right now. Chances are you'll either meet someone in college (very common) or you'll meet someone after.

Regarding online dating - you're on sites like POF and Tinder, of course all they want to do is hook up. The people who are looking for more serious relationships pay for their memberships on legitimate dating sites. I recommend Match.com or eHarmony. Pay for a membership and only meet up with men who also pay (you can tell because you'll be able to communicate on the actual site as well as see their pictures). Make sure to read the advice those sites give on how to be safe.

I'm 21, 22 this month, and never had a boyfriend either. I know that it sucks to be alone right now, but i'm almost certain you'll find a lucky guy eventually. I know it's cliche but life is a marathon, not a sprint. The right guy is out there (hopefully for both of us!), it's all about being patient and staying positive in the meantime.

Have you thought about going to church or joining a gym? Those are good places to meet people.

The problem with being 19 is that a lot of "age appropriate" boys are ready to be boyfriends. There are so many girls that aren't looking for a relationship around to entertain them that they're not ready to settle into anything serious.
At the same time, you don't need to find a hundred boys to date...you're only looking for one. and if you want to be super serious about it, POF and Tinder are probably not the best places to meet the most serious of daters. What about How bout we?
In the end, I didn't have a boyfriend till I was 21...a month before my 22nd birthday...and in September we had our 8 year anniversary. Finding a boyfriend sucks [well, dating sucks]...but it'll be worth it and in the meantime date a lot, don't put out [if you don't want to], and use these experiences to see what you're looking for in your someday potential mate.

Good luck!

Just wait till you're married. Then you'll never have sex...

I kid, I kid.

Your life will have many phases. Enjoy your youth even if it is without a partner because time is your most precious gift. I get that it sucks sometimes feeling like you are by yourself but don't let that stop you living your life to your fullest right now. When you get older the thing that you will probably regret most is not whether you had a boyfriend or not but letting your life and the opportunities it presents slip through your fingers...

I think that everyone who's said to focus on being happy with yourself are right. You can't really be happy with anyone else until you're happy on your own, with yourself. Once you find your own happiness, that will radiate out from you and will attract other people like flies to roadkill (sorry that's just the analogy that popped in my head).

With that said, it's also good to expand your circles. It will help you find what makes you happy and help you meet people.

And, one final note, while I don't know anything about tinder, I met my husband on POF, as did two of my girlfriends. Don't waste your money on the pay sites, they're no better.

Good luck!

Hi jazzy,
I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 19, about to be 20, and I haven't really had a boyfriend (only those immature things we call "dating" in high school where we say we're dating someone but only hang out with them at lunch with our circle of friends) and I've never been kissed. Sometimes I get lonely and want someone to cuddle with too, but I have faith that God will bring the right man to me when I'm ready, and I can honestly say I'm not ready yet. I still need to work on me.
Also, I learned a long time ago that the girls who've been dating since they were a freshman in high school and had their first kiss early and lost their virginity early are not as happy as those who waited until they found a person they really like. I was friends with a lot of girls that always needed to have a boyfriend, and they were constantly worrying about their looks, or what to say, or how to get a new boyfriend when their relationship ended. It was then that I realized I didn't want that for myself, so I stopped worrying as much. I'm not saying that I don't want a boyfriend: I do! I'm just saying that there are greater things in life than that. Having a boyfriend shouldn't be your life; it should add to the quality of your life.
And, last thing, don't let people tease you about never being kissed and being a virgin. I haven't been kissed and I'm staying pure until my wedding night, and that makes me so much happier even though I'm "alone". It's better to share those experiences with someone you truly love and who loves and respects you in return.
Don't give up! He's out there somewhere! Feel free to message me in case you need some moral support!

Charliecatesq wrote: »

Boyfriends do not just fall out of the sky sadly!

Mine did! Well actually, he stepped off a plane, but that's close right?

OP: I echo what many other have said. You have to love yourself, be confident in yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin before love can bloom. Having a relationship does not make you a better person. It can complement your life, but we are not defined by our relationships. I started dating in high school. It was sophomore year until my first year in college. But while it was fun at first, we weren't meant to be and I started getting more and more miserable until I broke it off. Met someone online and moved across the country. (This was in 1997 mind you...when nobody did this.) We ended up getting married...but I was young and stupid, and he was young and even MORE stupid. He turned into a jerk and the marriage ended quite traumatically. Then I got into a relationship with ANOTHER jerk who treated me like crap. Moved back home and swore I wasn't dating anyone for a long time. That's when my now-fiance appeared in my life. We met online, too...and we dated 4 years long-distance (lots of flying!) because I was too scared to move it faster. I had been so screwed up from the bad relationships I'd had, and how badly my first marriage had ended that I was positive this was just going to end the same way. I moved out here 4 years ago, and we got engaged last year. We will marry in March. He is not the same as any of my other boyfriends/husband, thank G-d. I have had to do a lot of healing for this relationship to finally have gotten to the point where I am comfortable, and that was because I jumped into too many relationships too quickly and paid dearly for it.

But like Kristinemomof3 said: Your prince will show up when you're least expecting it. Be patient, and it will pay off. (I am 36 now, by the way. Ancient, I know....but take these words of wisdom from an old woman with too much experience in thinking I had to have a relationship to validate my own existence when I was so wrong about that....)

All my best to you. It *will* happen. When it's meant to happen. Enjoy life until then. When you are glowing from your own happiness, your prince will find you.

It's easy to say this looking back, but I wouldn't make finding a boyfriend a priority right now. I got my first kiss when I was in high school, but I didn't have a boyfriend or go on a date until I was around twenty years old.

Even if it isn't by choice, own the fact that you haven't had a boyfriend yet. Do something with your life other than worrying about if you can get a man or not. Work on your confidence, and do whatever you have to do to improve your self-esteem.

I know it's all easier said than done, but once you get to my age, you'll realize how silly these sentiments were at age 19.

Seriously your 19. Enjoy being single. There is so much more to life at 19 then having a boyfriend. If you are feeling this way at such a young age then you must not feel good about yourself and feel you need someone to complete you. Go out with your friends and have fun, meet people, join social groups, volunteer. Stop focusing on finding someone to make you feel better because it won't until you feel good about yourself. Yes it can suck at times but focusing on what isn't won't make you feel any better.