I'm 19 and have never had a boyfriend :(

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  • Mitzimum
    Mitzimum Posts: 163 Member
    edited November 2014
    While there is some great advice above, I would suggest getting out and maybe dating some guys that might not necessarily be 'the one'. The more you get out and date the more you learn about what you do and don't want in a guy and eventually you'll find Mr. Right. Even dating men you think 'only want one thing' can be a lot of fun as they may just find you are more than they expect (always play hard to get though). In saying this everyone is different and approaches relationships differently, I knew my husband was 'the one' the moment I met him. I've been dating since I was 15 and have no regrets, you only live once, get out and have some serious fun!
  • FedGirlUSA
    FedGirlUSA Posts: 18 Member
    I was really shy as a teenager and never dated. It wasn't until I moved away from home and went to college that I started dating. Even then, I never was the type to date lots of different guys at the same time. It's pretty normal to think life is passing you by and that 'everyone' else is dating. My former roommates and I laugh now...about how insecure we were about our looks, our weight. If only we could be "as fat" as we used to be in college.

    A lot of people are more insecure than they let on. You gotta fake it 'til you make it. ;)
  • FedGirlUSA
    FedGirlUSA Posts: 18 Member
    p.s. my first serious boy friend was my best friend....a mutual friend confided in him that I had a crush on him. we didn't get married. i married my best friend.
  • llUndecidedll
    llUndecidedll Posts: 724 Member
    edited November 2014
    I'm 29 and I've never had a boy friend. I'm honestly not very depressed by that statement. Surprisingly.

    Take this time and focus on yourself. Study hard, work hard, the personal relationships will come later as you meet those with similar goals.

    Usually students like to form study groups for classes... Maybe try this to meet people?
    Maybe try to get involved with campus activities/groups? That's a way to meet people and it looks good when applying to universities.
  • pirate_john_75
    pirate_john_75 Posts: 96 Member
    I had my first relationship at 34. Then, at 35, I met the woman I would marry.

    Basically, you need to work on you before you can be in a relationship. I spent so many years pining over the fact that I was perpetually single that I came across as needy. It wasn't until I realized that I could be perfectly happy being on my own that women finally started noticing that they might want to join me in my life travels. My first girlfriend was actually the one who pursued me!
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