what type of body dose a guy look for in a girl?

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  • dave4d
    dave4d Posts: 1,155 Member
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:

    Exactly! The only issues I have is when a woman is not comfortable enough with herself to be able to have fun, and enjoy life, for fear of someone judging them.
  • StevLL
    StevLL Posts: 921 Member
    In the end whats most important is finding and liking who you are. Then you will attract someone who finds you attractive for who you are, not for some fasade you will eventually resent him and yourself for.. Don't try to conform to to someone elses list of what you should be. Be you and thats perfect just like the person who will find you so.
  • auntiebabs
    auntiebabs Posts: 1,754 Member
    ***RANT WARNING***
    There's somebody for everyone.....

    I hate when people say this!!!!!
    You don't t know that.
    You know that there is someone for you. (People who say this always seem to be part of a couple.)

    Okay I'll admit it I'm a bitter old maid.
    And I'm not saying I don't have any personality flaws that could have influenced my romantic status, but if "THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE" that really shouldn't come into play, there should be someone out there to counter balance my specific quirks.

    I've been dating for 35 years,

    I lived in NYC for 27 of those years and eventually you just sit down and do the math.

    47% men to 53% women
    9.6% of men are gay
    2.6% of women are gay

    So that makes the ratio for the straight population in effect:
    45% men to 55% women

    That's 9 men for every 10 women.

    I'm sorry if I'm a pessamistic downer. Stomping on young dreams.
    (hey, not like I'm saying love is impossible for anyone, just not probable for everyone, at least in NYC.)

    I'm with ubabe1
    Don't worry about pleasing the guy!!! Get yourself healthy and fit and that doesn't necessarily mean "skinny". Be happy with yourself....

    Be happy with yourself and you'll be happy with or without a guy.

    END OF RANT
  • Amandamccl
    Amandamccl Posts: 380
    ***RANT WARNING***
    There's somebody for everyone.....

    I hate when people say this!!!!!
    You don't t know that.
    You know that there is someone for you. (People who say this always seem to be part of a couple.)

    Okay I'll admit it I'm a bitter old maid.
    And I'm not saying I don't have any personality flaws that could have influenced my romantic status, but if "THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE" that really shouldn't come into play, there should be someone out there to counter balance my specific quirks.

    I've been dating for 35 years,

    I lived in NYC for 27 of those years and eventually you just sit down and do the math.

    47% men to 53% women
    9.6% of men are gay
    2.6% of women are gay

    So that makes the ratio for the straight population in effect:
    45% men to 55% women

    That's 9 men for every 10 women.

    I'm sorry if I'm a pessamistic downer. Stomping on young dreams.
    (hey, not like I'm saying love is impossible for anyone, just not probable for everyone, at least in NYC.)

    I'm with ubabe1
    Don't worry about pleasing the guy!!! Get yourself healthy and fit and that doesn't necessarily mean "skinny". Be happy with yourself....

    Be happy with yourself and you'll be happy with or without a guy.

    END OF RANT

    love it
  • Mahlissa
    Mahlissa Posts: 128
    Confidence regardless of body type is the biggest attractor of all. Be comfortable with who you are and what you have to offer the world and that's what'll bring in the great guys around you.

    You're worth alot more than you've allowed yourself in the past :-)

    Cheers to you! :-)

    Wow, so true. I am learning that myself.
  • mursey
    mursey Posts: 191 Member
    I think guys like small boobs and some love handles. Every one of them. Ha ha .. just kidding .. .. that's just what I tell myself.
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    Girl, just love yourself! Having confidence is sexy!
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    I likes all womens


    And we like you!
  • TheNewLK
    TheNewLK Posts: 933 Member
    I likes all womens


    And we like you!

    Hahaha no prejudice!!

    Honey....Its all about how great you feel in your own skin....You think your sexy and look good it will show
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    Love a woman with curves, but that is not what makes me love a woman.

    As far as looks go, I like 'em from 18 to 80. Blind, crippled or Crazy. Sick, Lame or Lazy. In other words, I find most women beautiful. But...that's not what I love in a mate. Looks mean very little. I like a strong, independent woman. One that supports me, but won't put up with my *kitten*. One that wants me, but doesn't need me. She doesn't have to love the same things I do, but has to support me in whatever I do. Conversely, I want to be able to support her when she needs my support.

    Not the answer you're looking for? Just want the physical features? Okay..here goes. Nice rack. Sacral dimples. Full lips. Bedroom eyes.
  • Sonofabiscuit2
    Sonofabiscuit2 Posts: 323 Member
    I like a woman who is as smart or smarter than me. I want a woman who can keep up with me conversationally.
  • crazymama2two
    crazymama2two Posts: 867
    i couldnt understand a GD word you said cause i was too busy fixing you typos in my mind...
  • crazymama2two
    crazymama2two Posts: 867
    Love a woman with curves, but that is not what makes me love a woman.

    As far as looks go, I like 'em from 18 to 80. Blind, crippled or Crazy. Sick, Lame or Lazy. In other words, I find most women beautiful. But...that's not what I love in a mate. Looks mean very little. I like a strong, independent woman. One that supports me, but won't put up with my *kitten*. One that wants me, but doesn't need me. She doesn't have to love the same things I do, but has to support me in whatever I do. Conversely, I want to be able to support her when she needs my support.

    Not the answer you're looking for? Just want the physical features? Okay..here goes. Nice rack. Sacral dimples. Full lips. Bedroom eyes.

    damnit...i dont have the dimples.
  • crazymama2two
    crazymama2two Posts: 867
    i couldnt understand a GD word you said cause i was too busy fixing you typos in my mind...

    stupid typos : ) *your*
  • TheNewLK
    TheNewLK Posts: 933 Member
    i couldnt understand a GD word you said cause i was too busy fixing you typos in my mind...

    LOL your ruthless!! haha
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    Love a woman with curves, but that is not what makes me love a woman.

    As far as looks go, I like 'em from 18 to 80. Blind, crippled or Crazy. Sick, Lame or Lazy. In other words, I find most women beautiful. But...that's not what I love in a mate. Looks mean very little. I like a strong, independent woman. One that supports me, but won't put up with my *kitten*. One that wants me, but doesn't need me. She doesn't have to love the same things I do, but has to support me in whatever I do. Conversely, I want to be able to support her when she needs my support.

    Not the answer you're looking for? Just want the physical features? Okay..here goes. Nice rack. Sacral dimples. Full lips. Bedroom eyes.

    damnit...i dont have the dimples.

    Don't worry about the sacral dimples. Roll over.
  • C_Bran
    C_Bran Posts: 254
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:

    Yeah!!!
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    Personally, I like women! I look for a woman with moderate attractiveness and low self esteem so that I feel comfortable in the relationship. It helps me stay centered in the relationship. I know it sounds crazy, but it's what works for me.
  • PJilly
    PJilly Posts: 22,179 Member
    I'm kind of new to the dating wrold now been with my ex for a year (he was a jerk the whole year always puting me down about my weight which made me depressed and gained more).... and I was wondering what guys are attract to skinny, fat, muscled woman and what men fine attractive to a woman and type of personality and trats a guy fines in a girl any tips please thank you and advanced
    There's no one right answer for every guy, so maybe you could focus on what traits are important to you in a partner. You need to find someone who meets your needs, and part of that is finding someone who is into you just the way you are. You can't change to please someone else. Sure, you can fake it for a while, but in the end, that doesn't make anybody happy. You need to decide what YOU want in a partner. Until that criteria is met, the rest of it doesn't matter. :flowerforyou:
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:

    Yeah!!!
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    -
    -
    Personally, I like women! I look for a woman with moderate attractiveness and low self esteem so that I feel comfortable in the relationship. It helps me stay centered in the relationship. I know it sounds crazy, but it's what works for me.

    You want a woman with low self esteem?
  • PJilly
    PJilly Posts: 22,179 Member
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:
    I should have realized that my reply was already covered before I wrote my response. I really like the way you worded it.
  • C_Bran
    C_Bran Posts: 254
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:



    Yeah!!!
    -
    -
    -
    Personally, I like women! I look for a woman with moderate attractiveness and low self esteem so that I feel comfortable in the relationship. It helps me stay centered in the relationship. I know it sounds crazy, but it's what works for me.

    You want a woman with low self esteem?

    Yep. Moderately low. Not public phobia low self esteem. Just low enuff for me.
  • Amandamccl
    Amandamccl Posts: 380
    i couldnt understand a GD word you said cause i was too busy fixing you typos in my mind...

    stupid typos : ) *your*

    haha you may call it typos I call it the stupid t9 on my cell phone
  • Amandamccl
    Amandamccl Posts: 380
    There is no one answer to that as guys can find ladies of all shapes and sizes attractive and desireable,it is the person not just what she looks like.

    The real question you need to ask is "what do I want in a guy?"
    If you are looking for a fun,exciting bad boy then be prepared to be disappointed as he is always going to be worthless and shallow.
    If you want a truly nice guy then look for one and he will love you for who you are. :smile:



    Yeah!!!
    -
    -
    -
    Personally, I like women! I look for a woman with moderate attractiveness and low self esteem so that I feel comfortable in the relationship. It helps me stay centered in the relationship. I know it sounds crazy, but it's what works for me.

    You want a woman with low self esteem?

    Yep. Moderately low. Not public phobia low self esteem. Just low enuff for me.

    im as moderately low as they come :bigsmile:
  • elliecolorado
    elliecolorado Posts: 1,040
    It really depends on the guy, but I have found that most guys want a girl who is self confident. I have really never had a hard time getting guys no matter what size I have been. My downfall tends to be that I pick guys that aren't worth having!
  • Amandamccl
    Amandamccl Posts: 380
    It really depends on the guy, but I have found that most guys want a girl who is self confident. I have really never had a hard time getting guys no matter what size I have been. My downfall tends to be that I pick guys that aren't worth having!

    I think that's my problem I date jerks.. and my biggest problem is I'm super shy when talking to a guy
  • PJilly
    PJilly Posts: 22,179 Member
    It really depends on the guy, but I have found that most guys want a girl who is self confident. I have really never had a hard time getting guys no matter what size I have been. My downfall tends to be that I pick guys that aren't worth having!

    I think that's my problem I date jerks.. and my biggest problem is I'm super shy when talking to a guy
    I always felt that way when I was younger, but I grew out of that. Also, I found that it's easier and more comfortable to be yourself around guys who aren't jerks.
  • rdy2begin
    rdy2begin Posts: 170
    Who cares what a guy wants? You have to love yourself before anyone else will ever love you.
    EXACTLY ..LOOKS AND BEAUTY fade ...personality is where it is at ....but of course I AM NOT A GUY lol ...lets see their responses :-) being happy with you is a first !
  • rdy2begin
    rdy2begin Posts: 170
    It really depends on the guy, but I have found that most guys want a girl who is self confident. I have really never had a hard time getting guys no matter what size I have been. My downfall tends to be that I pick guys that aren't worth having!
    perfectly said !
  • taiyola
    taiyola Posts: 964 Member
    Who cares what a guy wants? You have to love yourself before anyone else will ever love you.

    :drinker:
  • millerll
    millerll Posts: 873 Member
    I can't answer your question, but I can tell you this much. I'm 48 and never married - I just haven't found the right guy yet. When I was younger, I was pretty average looking, and I never felt good enough. I wasn't tall enough, thin enough, pretty enough, whatever. Then, in my 40s, I gained weight, and of course, I felt even more inadequate. Last year, I lost the weight and then some, got in the best shape of my life, and I think I look great. My body fat is low and I'm ripped and muscular. So, of course, now guys think I'm gross. Yes, I've actually had guys tell me this to my face.

    But you know what? I don't care. For the first time in my life, I'M happy with the way I look. If I wanted to be the ideal woman, I should probably get breast implants and gain about 10 pounds of fluff so I look like those bloated twits the Kardashians. No thanks. If being happy with myself means being alone, then so be it. But I hope there's someone out there who finds my body type attractive. You never know! Do what makes YOU happy, and the rest will take care of itself.
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