FRIENDSGIVING !!!!
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So just curious have any of you noticed that this new event called "Friendsgiving" is becoming more and more popular? We've been invited to 3 Dinners "other-than" the one on Thanksgiving day...personally I'm not a fan of roasted turkey so it saves me from having to make any myself....
Any good ideas for eating moderately or good healthy recipes that you've made in the past?
(I mean things that you've actually done and they work for you...refrain from the obvious "eat less" please ;-p)
Any good ideas for eating moderately or good healthy recipes that you've made in the past?
(I mean things that you've actually done and they work for you...refrain from the obvious "eat less" please ;-p)
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I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.1
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Yes, she could live as a complete shut in or she could go out and enjoy that time with friends!
Here are some healthier Thanksgiving recipes on eatingwell-
http://www.eatingwell.com/recipes_menus/collections/thanksgiving_collection_1#33 -
We do a Friendsgiving every year (for the past 6 years). My strategy is generally to not eat moderately. This has had no effect on my long term weight or body comp.0
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Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
Yes, why go out and enjoy time with friends? What a horrible idea!
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My niece has had a "Friendsgiving" every year for the last four. It serves 2 purposes. 1) it is a nice meal with friends and 2) it is a way for those who live too far away from their families to have a big Thanksgiving dinner even though they will be by themselves on the actual day.
It started among college students and the recent grads and is just a variation on the "Orphan Thanksgiving" dinners people without families have with other people who don't have families. A bunch of single friends of mine have had orphan dinners for years.
As far as the eating part, arrive just before dinner so you are less tempted with the schnibbles and drinks, load up on the turkey and veggies, if you are bringing a dish, bring a nice seasoned veggie dish (I like green beans and pearl onions with a balsamic and red wine vinaigrette). mashed potatoes are not essential. Make some kind of hot potato dish that does not require tons of butter and cream.1 -
Yes, she could live as a complete shut in or she could go out and enjoy that time with friends!
Here are some healthier Thanksgiving recipes on eatingwell-
http://www.eatingwell.com/recipes_menus/collections/thanksgiving_collection_1#3
Thanks for this site, some of these recipes look perfect!
I'm actually having 2 thanksgivings and 2 separate "christmas dinners" so I'm in a similar boat. I plan to make healthier dishes when I can sub something out, but I also plan to drink a lot of water, eat a sizable portion of salad, but also to enjoy myself. I don't eat like this normally but I know that for this to be a full lifestyle change, I'm going to have indulgence days now and then, even after I hit maintenance I'm going to have to "cut" for a few weeks after the holidays. It comes with life. Do what you can to be mindful of what you're eating but also enjoy it!0 -
Great tips everybody! I'm not opposed to Friendsgivings in fact I'm going to all of them, I think they're a good idea...I am just trying to lose baby-weight from over the summer so I'm not too strict on what I eat. I don't want to allow my diet to dictate who I socialize with but it seems like eventually this could turn into a disaster food-wise for those who have issues with binging over the holidays.
It's just nice to know it's not just me who's experiencing this new tradition0 -
I've been doing a "friendsgiving" for at least 5 years with a group of friends from college. It's a way for us to get together before the madness of the holiday season sets in, and to set aside some time to be thankful for our friendships!
Last year I volunteered to be on side dish duty, and had a lot of fun searching the web for vegetables and other non-butter loaded side dishes that I could bring to make sure I had something healthy to eat. Pinterest is also a great resource for this kind of thing.0 -
We do our Thanksgivings as a family. I can't imagine trying to do more than one Thanksgiving in one day!
What if all the "friends" do it at one locale? Then next year, you all do it at the next friend's house, and so on, and rotate where it occurs each year?0 -
We've been to a Friendsgiving for the past several years. Is a fun chance to see friends we might not see much in the busy holiday season. In fact, our Friendsgiving is tomorrow.
I've taken green beans in the past. You could also do a fix your own baked sweet potato. You can bake them in a slow cooker, wrapped in foil then take the whole slow cooker. Add bowls of butter, Cinnamon butter, brown sugar, and chopped pecans and let people fix their own. You can read a plain one or just add a bit the of fixings.0 -
Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
Yes, why go out and enjoy time with friends? What a horrible idea!
Well, I don't think the point is that people are saying one shouldn't be hanging out with friends (won't bother to insert my own eyeroll meme here). The point is that this person is going to THREE gigantic dinners...in one day.
One can "go out and enjoy time with friends" any time (yes, including on Thanksgiving) without eating a giant turkey with all the trimmings and sides...no? I seriously doubt anybody is saying that Friendsgiving is dumb because hanging out with friends is dumb.
Friendsgiving sounds like a good idea to me if all the friends get together and do *one* of them per year.
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Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
Yes, why go out and enjoy time with friends? What a horrible idea!
Well, I don't think the point is that people are saying one shouldn't be hanging out with friends (won't bother to insert my own eyeroll meme here). The point is that this person is going to THREE gigantic dinners...in one day.
One can "go out and enjoy time with friends" any time (yes, including on Thanksgiving) without eating a giant turkey with all the trimmings and sides...no? I seriously doubt anybody is saying that Friendsgiving is dumb because hanging out with friends is dumb.
Friendsgiving sounds like a good idea to me if all the friends get together and do *one* of them per year.
Um, no. There's a poster above who suggested she stay home to avoid the calories. That's ridiculous and that's what I was referring to.
And where does she say it's three dinners on the same day? She says three dinners OTHER than the one on Thanksgiving Day.
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Great tips everybody! I'm not opposed to Friendsgivings in fact I'm going to all of them, I think they're a good idea...I am just trying to lose baby-weight from over the summer so I'm not too strict on what I eat. I don't want to allow my diet to dictate who I socialize with but it seems like eventually this could turn into a disaster food-wise for those who have issues with binging over the holidays.
It's just nice to know it's not just me who's experiencing this new tradition
Haha by the fourth Thanksgiving spread, you may get tired of some of the food!
LOL. When in doubt, a nice spinach salad with cranberries and goat cheese or some roasted veggies bring a nice element to a Thanksgiving spread. You can load up on that and turkey and still feel like you are being reasonable.0 -
Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
Yes, why go out and enjoy time with friends? What a horrible idea!
Well, I don't think the point is that people are saying one shouldn't be hanging out with friends (won't bother to insert my own eyeroll meme here). The point is that this person is going to THREE gigantic dinners...in one day.
One can "go out and enjoy time with friends" any time (yes, including on Thanksgiving) without eating a giant turkey with all the trimmings and sides...no? I seriously doubt anybody is saying that Friendsgiving is dumb because hanging out with friends is dumb.
Friendsgiving sounds like a good idea to me if all the friends get together and do *one* of them per year.
Um, no. There's a poster above who suggested she stay home to avoid the calories. That's ridiculous and that's what I was referring to.
And where does she say it's three dinners on the same day? She says three dinners OTHER THAN THE ONE ON THANKSGIVING DAY.
Okay, so...three gigantic Thanksgiving dinners within (presumably) the same week or so. That's a lot for anybody to handle. No, skipping one of those doesn't seem like "not wanting to hang out with friends" to me. It sounds sensible for a person who is trying to watch her weight.
And I don't see how it translates to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general. As I said above...one can hang out with friends, any time that one is available, without a giant turkey and a thousand butter-drippy sides being involved.
Don't freak out.
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LOL. When in doubt, a nice spinach salad with cranberries and goat cheese or some roasted veggies bring a nice element to a Thanksgiving spread. You can load up on that and turkey and still feel like you are being reasonable.
Yes, or you can be the veggie platter person! Add a cool dip.
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Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
Yes, why go out and enjoy time with friends? What a horrible idea!
Well, I don't think the point is that people are saying one shouldn't be hanging out with friends (won't bother to insert my own eyeroll meme here). The point is that this person is going to THREE gigantic dinners...in one day.
One can "go out and enjoy time with friends" any time (yes, including on Thanksgiving) without eating a giant turkey with all the trimmings and sides...no? I seriously doubt anybody is saying that Friendsgiving is dumb because hanging out with friends is dumb.
Friendsgiving sounds like a good idea to me if all the friends get together and do *one* of them per year.
Um, no. There's a poster above who suggested she stay home to avoid the calories. That's ridiculous and that's what I was referring to.
And where does she say it's three dinners on the same day? She says three dinners OTHER THAN THE ONE ON THANKSGIVING DAY.
Okay, so...three gigantic Thanksgiving dinners within (presumably) the same week or so. That's a lot for anybody to handle. No, skipping one of those doesn't seem like "not wanting to hang out with friends" to me. It sounds sensible for a person who is trying to watch her weight.
And I don't see how it translates to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general. As I said above...one can hang out with friends, any time that one is available, without a giant turkey and a thousand butter-drippy sides being involved.
Don't freak out.
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
I'm not freaking out - but you should read the whole thread before making assumptions.0 -
I'm hosting a Friendsgiving event this year. We're making the turkey, but asking friends to bring dishes, too. Since it's a little non-traditional, I'd LOVE it if some of my health-conscious friends brought healthier dishes to pass. Feel free to think outside of the traditional Thanksgiving box! A few years ago I made a cold curried tofu salad to share, and it was actually pretty awesome, despite not being traditional Thanksgiving food.
Maybe offer to make a side dish yourself, and make something really healthy to share? Then you can make sure to get a big serving of that on your plate, and just smaller tastes of the other dishes.0 -
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Wut?
He literally said "eat dinner at home, why go out and add more calories." To me that implies, stay home to avoid eating calories. If he had said, "eat dinner at home and then go out and play with your friends," that would be different.0 -
Okay, so...three gigantic Thanksgiving dinners within (presumably) the same week or so. That's a lot for anybody to handle. No, skipping one of those doesn't seem like "not wanting to hang out with friends" to me. It sounds sensible for a person who is trying to watch her weight.
Who said she's going to stuff herself silly at every one of these meals? Why do you call it "three gigantic Thanksgiving dinners"? Do you think it's possible that by the time one gets to the third Thanksgiving meal, they might be capable of exercising some restraint?
It's entirely possible to see the people you care about three times in one week without destroying your diet. A little turkey, some sweet potatoes, and vegetables can actually be a pretty healthy meal. Just because there's turkey present doesn't mean it's required that you eat a 3,000 calorie meal.0 -
Lol, I love newbies, they think they know things.
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Bit of advice, fresh off the registration screen. Sit back, get the lay of the land, and try not acting like you know what's going on until you do.
Your post made no sense, and was inappropriately condescending. That's not how we act here.0 -
Most Friendsgivings start as early as October in the U.S. I highly doubt that there will be 3 Friendsgivings with the same group of friends. More likely they are different groups so if it was me I would like to attend each to see a large group of different friends at each one.
Mine is tomorrow and I plan on hitting the pool hard in the am. I modified a cranberry salad I usually bring to be healthier. I will concentrate on turkey and the healthier options and on serving myself so friends, in the name of being good hosts, don't serve me supersized portions.
Simply put, it's a way to spend time with people you love in a special setting before the hectic holidays start. I can certainly accommodate that into my goals without blowing my week with a couple of phrases. "No, thank you." "That looks delicious! I'll try some later." And just not going back. "I'm so full! It was wonderful." I might add this year "Does anyone want to go for a walk?"
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Lol, I love newbies, they think they know things.
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Bit of advice, fresh off the registration screen. Sit back, get the lay of the land, and try not acting like you know what's going on until you do.
Your post made no sense, and was inappropriately condescending. That's not how we act here.
Thank you. She was definitely inappropriately condescending. There's about 2,000 posts of context she's missing out on.0 -
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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"SKINNY-STEALTHING" Along with the more common survival strategies, one my general holiday/ party/ gathering strategies is what I call "skinny stealthing".
There is inevitably one or two of my skinny friends or relatives at the gatherings, and so I "stealth" them by (a) trying to model my portions/ food choices after theirs; and (b) eating at the same pace that they do.
It's a great exercise in mindfulness to watch what my "target" puts on his/her plate (they don't try to cram every little corner full or get a taste of EVERYTHING like I do . . .)
Also If I wait to take a bite until my "target" takes a bite, I find I spend much less time eating and much more time talking, chatting, listening, and generally engaged in the cameraderie of the event and less obsessed by the food.0 -
If you go back read the thread, you will see I was specifically responding to a specific post that said she should stay home to avoid the calories.
(sigh)
(putting on "patience" face)
Yes. That was a suggestion. And it in no way pointed to just not wanting to hang out with friends in general or thinking it was "weird" to want to hang out with friends in general. It pointed to avoiding tons and tons and tons of crazy Thanksgiving calories within a short period of time.
I'm sorry, that's as far as I can help you, if you are truly not understanding this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Yeah you are new
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Topsking2010 wrote: »I suggest you have dinner at home. Why go out and add more calories.
I wonder if this poster has a bad relationship with food?
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rosebarnalice wrote: »"SKINNY-STEALTHING" Along with the more common survival strategies, one my general holiday/ party/ gathering strategies is what I call "skinny stealthing".
There is inevitably one or two of my skinny friends or relatives at the gatherings, and so I "stealth" them by (a) trying to model my portions/ food choices after theirs; and (b) eating at the same pace that they do.
It's a great exercise in mindfulness to watch what my "target" puts on his/her plate (they don't try to cram every little corner full or get a taste of EVERYTHING like I do . . .)
Also If I wait to take a bite until my "target" takes a bite, I find I spend much less time eating and much more time talking, chatting, listening, and generally engaged in the cameraderie of the event and less obsessed by the food.
I would not recommend this tactic. You do not know what that person ate earlier in the day, or what that person is going to eat later on. I have days when I don't eat until dinner time AND I work out and I'll go to a party and eat everything. If you followed my pattern, you would be consuming 1700 calories.
Then, I have days when I've already eaten and I'm not very hungry. So, I'm not eating. But, now you think I just don't eat, even though I had a cheeseburger three hours ago.
See the problem?
Focus on yourself and on your goals. Learn how to discipline yourself.0
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