So ladies, what would a short guy have to do to get you to date them?

madrose0715 · December 2014

@OP - hmmm...going to direct this conversation into rather delicate territory that is also quite personal but I am hoping in doing so that it might help in some way...

I understand that men, in general, at a base level are socialized to associate their personal value to many different aspects that really, have no true merit to a person's value - and yes, us women do it too. You talk of your height in much the same way men talk/feel about the size of their manhood. It is not any secret how many men with smaller 'packages' are tormented both privately and publicly about it. I can only imagine how far-reaching the physchological conseqences of this would be.

But let me say this - the absolute best, most erotic, most physically connected lover I ever had would be considered 'below-average' in terms of the size of his manhood. I would simply see the man and want him. This happened because of our mental connection, his intelligence, that elusive chemistry that most cannot explain. And yes, he was physically fit and quite attractive - to me. He oozed confidence, sex appeal, life knowledge, had a remarkable diverse set of life skills but still was a quiet and humble human being. He simply had his life together. He had his head together.

And that...that is what attracted me to him and kept me to him for almost 6 years. So many other men would have been emotionally crippled with having what most would have considered a significant disadvantage caused by how men are affected by modern socialization issues.

Carpe effin diem...

ETA: sorry to use the term 'manhood' as that only seems to compel the exact problem along - I am not sure what terms are allowed on this site.

Uhfgood · December 2014

bulbadoof wrote: »

stop blaming your problems on something you have no control over. get a sustainable job, move out of your dad's house, and do something satisfying with your life. if you're out there living a great life, you'll find a lady who respects all of that and doesn't give a **** how tall you are.

I'm not blaming any problems on anything. I was mostly curious. I haven't had any problems with women, dating, or anything associated -- mainly because I don't know anyone else. You can call that a problem if you want, but all I'm saying is I wasn't merely complaining. I don't date, I haven't ever dated, and I probably never will date -- I'm okay with that -- Even if you see it as a problem.

EveFlowergirl · December 2014

be a nice dude

Uhfgood · December 2014

madrose0715 wrote: »

@OP - hmmm...going to direct this conversation into rather delicate territory that is also quite personal but I am hoping in doing so that it might help in some way...

I understand that men, in general, at a base level are socialized to associate their personal value to many different aspects that really, have no true merit to a person's value - and yes, us women do it too. You talk of your height in much the same way men talk/feel about the size of their manhood. It is not any secret how many men with smaller 'packages' are tormented both privately and publicly about it. I can only imagine how far-reaching the physchological conseqences of this would be.

But let me say this - the absolute best, most erotic, most physically connected lover I ever had would be considered 'below-average' in terms of the size of his manhood. I would simply see the man and want him. This happened because of our mental connection, his intelligence, that elusive chemistry that most cannot explain. And yes, he was physically fit and quite attractive - to me. He oozed confidence, sex appeal, life knowledge, had a remarkable diverse set of life skills but still was a quiet and humble human being. He simply had his life together. He had his head together.

And that...that is what attracted me to him and kept me to him for almost 6 years. So many other men would have been emotionally crippled with having what most would have considered a significant disadvantage caused by how men are affected by modern socialization issues.

Carpe effin diem...

ETA: sorry to use the term 'manhood' as that only seems to compel the exact problem along - I am not sure what terms are allowed on this site.

No problem from me. I understand what you're getting at.

You know in the absence of any sort of an issue about the size of my 'package' maybe I transferred that to my height. How very Freudian of you ;-)

AlgoRhythmik · December 2014

Confidence not cockiness goes a long way.
Be comfortable in your own skin.
A joke or two about differences is okay, but guys that are constantly joking about a body part or difference makes me wonder if it's a hang up for them, and therefore a turn off to me.