I don't trust myself anymore

start talking to yourself in a positive way. You can do this. You are young, this is a lifestyle. Log your calories, if you want something fattening, eat it and eat less at the next meal. It is definitely a math thing. Set boundaries with yourself at times and say No. Basically believe in yourself, I have had this weight off for 4 years, if I can do it you can.

I think the best way is to set small and attainable goals for yourself. Keep track of those goals and how you were able to reach them. When the thoughts of self doubt become great look back through your journal to see all the accomplishments you have made and you can say to that voice, "well I walked for one mile every day for two weeks and was under my calorie goal for 10 of those 14 days, and the other 4 days I was only 100 calories over my goal so there!"

It may sound crazy, but you would have a written record of all the times that you have succeeded and didn't quit. You may find it easier to focus on how your clothes fit, inches lost, improved eating habits, or improved fitness instead of focusing on a number on the scale. I think that number can help to feed the strength of your doubting inner voice. I became too focused on that number and it messed me up for the last two months. I decided to hide the scale and other than doctor visits or the monthly log in for the weight management program I am in I do not use the scale. I take my victories from each day that I stay under calorie goal or close to it if I go over, the fact that I need to buy new clothes because my other clothes hang off of me, and my ability to walk-jog farther distances in less amount of time than I did before. I am starting to believe that if I worry about those things more then my weight will eventually come down to a healthy range.

On the days that I want to quit I try to remind myself that ever choice that I make to improve my health is a small victory and is moving me slowly towards my ultimate goal. I also look back in my journal and see how much weight I have lost in the last year, the way my body has changed in looks, and how I am able to complete fitness related goals that I couldn't even a year ago. I did not stick to it like I wanted to over the past year, but I have lost 40-some pounds and can walk-jog five miles in less than 90 minutes which a year ago I never would have had the confidence in my abilities to consider entering a race of that distance.

Also, I haven't really cut anything out of my diet (well Dr. Pepper and juices are about gone) but eat things in moderation. For example, instead of eating four slices of a large pizza piled high with meats and extra cheeses I may eat two slices of thin crust pizza that has one meat, some veggies, and normal cheese with some flavored water and chicken tenders. I may pass on the molten lava cake and eat a few mini rolos for dessert. I can save a bunch of calories but still eat foods that I enjoy without feeling miserable about it. Another thing that has helped me is I realized how much exercise it would take to burn off the calories from foods or drinks, and that has helped me to make better food choices.

I think one of the best pieces of advice that I have seen on here is, "Each day is a new day for you to make healthy choices and yesterday is in the past. Basically consider each day as your starting over day and make the best choices that you can make for yourself as the day progresses. After awhile the healthier choices that you are making become habits and you no longer have to "think" about what you need to do."

I hope this helps and remember that you are not alone. You can add me as a friend if you would like.

You have to want the weight loss really bad. Think about why you want to lose weight in the first place. If is it simply to look better then you won't go far. People often think weight loss and being thin equals beauty. You need to have more reasons that come from deep within you. You have to be doing it for YOU. Attempting to make changes and failing is a normal process. Everything that everyone tries has potential to fail. But you learn and you try again. Just because you fail or quit doesn't mean you are a quiter or a failed person. You try again but with a different approach/plan. I suggest you write out pros and cons to losing weight and getting in shape. And see if those pros outweigh those cons. And when you feel like giving up look at that list again. Believe in it, know you can do it, and know that no one can stop you if you are determined. Really, the only one stopping you from succeeding is you.

I normally have the same issue. What you are doing right now is that you are sabotaging your beginnings by dreading on the past. You need to let your mistakes go. You are not a quitter because if you were why do would you keep trying?

No more diets, for starters!

And secondly, set yourself up for success. You know yourself better than anyone. For myself, that meant setting my goal weight loss at only .5 lbs per week. I knew that personally, I couldn't maintain a 1200 calorie per day lifestyle, and I also knew that if I kept seeing that I was over my calories all the time, that I might give up with the changes I was making. By setting my goal loss at -.5 per week, it gave me just over 1500 calories a day to eat, much more sustainable. To lose 1.5 would put me at 1200, to lose 2 would put me at 950 (mfp wouldn't allow that even if I wanted). It was a huge motivator for me to know that I have been under my calorie allowance almost every single day since I started in August, and have logged all my food every day. I'm now down 28 lbs and am 5 lbs from goal weight, and I wouldn't have believed it possible.

Prepare, plan and identify the attitude you need.
Look at why you have failed before then get help to identify a stratey to deal with it.
I would really start by breaking it all down into easily managed timeframes and targets that can give you some early successes, are achieveable, but will help you build some momentum and confidence.
Log for a week, record your food for a week, go for a walk 3 x a week for ten minutes, then when you are ready hit calorie target 1,3,7 times a week. Lose your first pound. Be patient kind and supportive to yourself. Once you make progress then you will start to gain some self belief. Fresh start and dont let the past weigh you down.

Try to take it one day at a time. If you go over your calories, just brush it off and focus on the next day.

Doesn't matter what you did or didn't do last week or last yearor tomorrow...what matters is today.
You will restart every single day of your life and that is a positive thing. You are not stuck.
Put your numbers in my fitness pal. Choose a realistic goal like 1 pound a week. Eat whatever you want. You will probably have to choose smaller portions of some things. Log it as accurately as you can and don't exceed your daily calorie goal. Exercise is good for you but doesn't matter if you go over your calories all the time.
I've found it really helpful to log my whole day in advance. I usually plan out 3 meals and 1 snack the night before or that morning. I can see how my choices would work out. I drink mostly water or unsweetened tea so my calories are from food not drinks.
Don't think about giving up stuff. Think about what you are adding to your life. You are adding healthy tasty foods. You are adding exercise that leads to greater strength and flexibility. You are managing your stress in a healthy way.
Think about non scale victories(NSV). I am super happy to be able to bend over to tie my shoes instead of raising my foot up to do it. I'm happy that my clothes are getting looser. I'm happy that I can complete a workout that I had trouble finishing a few months ago.
Good luck!

I understand completely! Have you heard of Geneen Roth? She has several books. I completely identify with so many of the thoughts she expresses. (Thoughts I'm to embarassd to express outwardly)I want to trust myself too!

I'm in the same boat!or rather jumped boat! I've been like this for about 2 weeks ,but its easier to take it one day at a time.I've got no self confidence at all.