Do you still see a fat person in the mirror?

I certainly didn't mean to hurt you. There certainly is enough pain with body image/weight loss to add to it in any way.

I don't have the problem in the mirror, but in photographs yes. I just don't understand how my mind can see myself so differently. I know the camera adds ten, but in photographs I think the camera is adding all 30 pounds that I've lost. It is disorienting.

Best of luck to all of us in this journey.

I have lost 61 pounds and when I go to the store to look for new clothes I get in the dressing room and look at myself and think they are trick mirrors to make you look good to buy more...I know I have gone down almost 6 sizes but I do not see that I see all my faults..and have to admit I ask myself where did my boobs go hahahaha

I feel you on that i lost 75 pounds bout two years ago , I still struggle looking at myself in the mirror, i tell people all the time how people treat you differently when your fat and skinny its sometimes gets hard to deal with , I did a 180 from when I was fat too now where I'm at I dress very good I've tried to work on my perception of myself, still alot of work on the perception part ,but its a double edge sword sometimes, trying to maintain that humble and confidence is a fine balance. especially of women that I used to think your way out of my league and now they think that I'm out of their league and tell me how good looking i am ,leaning to take compliments at face value has been a struggle but I digress it's all a journey so with that said I think reality is always perception so that's what I do is I try to work on my perception and hopefully change my reality

I do. My bad thoughts always seem to come when I'm bloated for the week before and during my cycle. I'm a 4/6 and 133 and even though I know I've come a long way from my heaviest of 255 I still feel like the big girl sometimes.

mrsmuckster wrote: »

I think I have the problem more reverse- when at my heaviest- I don't think I saw myself in the mirror as "that heavy" until I saw a picture. Now, I take a selfie every once in a while, for whatever reason my perspective is different. Not sure if that makes sense.

Same here. I think in my head I've always been around a size 14...whether I was really size 24 or (current) 10. It's hard to fully grasp when I look at photos and see that I was so much larger and am now smaller, because I feel very much the same most of the time.

I also still have weird moments. Seated and nude my body looks like it's still 300 lb to me as I glance down at myself. But when I am wearing skinny jeans and boots I have started to think man, maybe my thighs are really too small, and my friend was making fun of my wrists the other day (in a nicer way) saying they look like they would just snap in half because they are so tiny. It's a mindf***

Only in the past few months have I really become comfortable going into any store and shopping. 99% of stores carry my current size (especially since I live in the Midwest so I'm not shopping high end designers) but for a very long time I felt like the clerks were staring at me and thinking, "WHAT is that plus size lady doing in here!??" I guess because I was always plus sized since my teens and now in my late 30's it's hard to grasp that I don't even wear the largest size in most regular & even junior stores. I feel like somehow that just happened overnight and I didn't know how to process it for a long time.

It is an odd phenomenon. There was a time, while wearing a size 20, that I said to myself, "If only I was back in a size 12, I'd be happy." Now I am finally back in a 12, but I still see a very large stomach and back fat!! I will keep going until I'm in a size 10. Will I be happy then? Hmmm...I don't know. An average BMI will have to be my guide, since I can't trust my eyesight anymore!