fine when sober, but when drunk...

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  • beemerphile1
    beemerphile1 Posts: 1,710 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic.

    Whew, thank goodness.

    For a moment there, I thought maybe your priorities might be a bit skewed.

    ...is that sarcasm?
    i'm an ex drug user. i smoke far too much and i drink too much alcohol and coffee, i'm mentally ill and i'm nowhere near straight.

    if i'm going to be a stereotypical working class queer pinko commie scumbag at least i don't want to give the daily mail another reason to demonise me, hence the weight loss.

    Now that you have shared some information about your life, I am a bit concerned. Not judging you at all. It's just that mental health is a huge part of weight loss, weight gain, and any fitness goals for that matter. It is extremely important to be mentally healthy when trying to achieve such goals.

    Do you see a psychiatrist?

    mm not really. concerned i was developing orthorexia (ha) a few months ago so went, explained the deal, and got told i was just a normal "young person". how i hate that phrase! the thing is that i feel like when i have my weight back under control, i will be able to get the rest of m life under control.
    not sure if that makes sense really. . .

    sorry for being snappy. tired, should be sleeping really, but too guilty over all this food to sleep!

    People are trying to help.

    Your weight isn't the problem. Your mental state is the problem. Learn to love yourself, stop abusing your body, and you will have success with weight loss and all other avenues of your life.
  • Tea_Mistress
    Tea_Mistress Posts: 105 Member
    I feel your pain, I limit myself to getting wasted once a week ~ at least it makes me dance a lot :3
  • tartansheep
    tartansheep Posts: 122 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic.

    Whew, thank goodness.

    For a moment there, I thought maybe your priorities might be a bit skewed.

    ...is that sarcasm?
    i'm an ex drug user. i smoke far too much and i drink too much alcohol and coffee, i'm mentally ill and i'm nowhere near straight.

    if i'm going to be a stereotypical working class queer pinko commie scumbag at least i don't want to give the daily mail another reason to demonise me, hence the weight loss.

    Now that you have shared some information about your life, I am a bit concerned. Not judging you at all. It's just that mental health is a huge part of weight loss, weight gain, and any fitness goals for that matter. It is extremely important to be mentally healthy when trying to achieve such goals.

    Do you see a psychiatrist?

    mm not really. concerned i was developing orthorexia (ha) a few months ago so went, explained the deal, and got told i was just a normal "young person". how i hate that phrase! the thing is that i feel like when i have my weight back under control, i will be able to get the rest of m life under control.
    not sure if that makes sense really. . .

    sorry for being snappy. tired, should be sleeping really, but too guilty over all this food to sleep!

    I'm confused. You said you are mentally ill. So why did the doctor say you are "normal"? Did they give you a diagnosis of a specific mental illness?

    I understand where you are coming from but my point is that it's difficult to get there when you aren't mentally stable because weight loss is taxing (mentally, physically, and emotionally). Weight loss comes with many obstacles. It's not always smooth sailing. And when things get rough, it's hard to push through if you are not mentally stable. For example, a person who suffers from depression and uses food as a coping mechanism is more likely to rely on food to make them feel better which consequently makes a calorie deficit difficult to maintain.

    oh, sorry, explained that badly. they said i didn't have it (at 14/15 i had tendencies towards disordered eating but then when i was 18 they diagnosed me with bipolar and they then decided the eating stuff was just bipolar? not really sure. anyway, they didn't take me seriously)
    but yeah, i get that. i do use food as a crutch -- better than drugs maybe.

  • neanderthin
    neanderthin Posts: 10,261 Member
    If you know your going to get drunk, then don't eat leading up to your drinking..... hopefully that creates a deficit.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That isn't funny, it is sad. What other bad choices do you make when drinking?

    wooooow. loads though. at least when i was on the coke i was thin. wish that was a joke.

    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic. gods sake. this wasnt like COME AND JUDGE ME at all, i'm asking for advice, and i get the nth degree? thanks yall love this community lol

    something tells me you have some serious issues if you are blowing rails and getting annihilated all the time...
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That isn't funny, it is sad. What other bad choices do you make when drinking?

    wooooow. loads though. at least when i was on the coke i was thin. wish that was a joke.

    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic. gods sake. this wasnt like COME AND JUDGE ME at all, i'm asking for advice, and i get the nth degree? thanks yall love this community lol

    Enjoy your alcohol while you can, because it becomes an all-consuming *kitten* given half a chance.
  • kcd1961
    kcd1961 Posts: 126 Member
    Why do you want to eat less? I'm a bit perplexed as to why someone would choose thin and pathetic over fat and living a great life? (i.e. not being pathetic).
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    the thing is that i feel like when i have my weight back under control, i will be able to get the rest of m life under control.
    not sure if that makes sense really. . .

    It doesn't. You have it backwards - right now your weight is not your biggest problem.

    Good luck!

  • tartansheep
    tartansheep Posts: 122 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That isn't funny, it is sad. What other bad choices do you make when drinking?

    wooooow. loads though. at least when i was on the coke i was thin. wish that was a joke.

    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic. gods sake. this wasnt like COME AND JUDGE ME at all, i'm asking for advice, and i get the nth degree? thanks yall love this community lol

    something tells me you have some serious issues if you are blowing rails and getting annihilated all the time...

    yeah. i don't enjoy being sober to experience my thoughts hm
  • jenglish712
    jenglish712 Posts: 497 Member
    We all have a lot of projects on our to do lists. It sounds like you have some that are beyond MFP's purview of diet and exercise. I will tell you that part of accomplishing many of them start with recognizing that you have value and accepting you as you. If you beat yourself up it's hard to convince yourself to put work into something you don't view as worthwhile.

    In the grand scheme of of it, dieting is simple. It's just F-ing math. But you tackle your issues in whatever order you feel capable of dealing with them.
  • uconnwinsnc1
    uconnwinsnc1 Posts: 902 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That isn't funny, it is sad. What other bad choices do you make when drinking?

    wooooow. loads though. at least when i was on the coke i was thin. wish that was a joke.

    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic. gods sake. this wasnt like COME AND JUDGE ME at all, i'm asking for advice, and i get the nth degree? thanks yall love this community lol

    something tells me you have some serious issues if you are blowing rails and getting annihilated all the time...

    yeah. i don't enjoy being sober to experience my thoughts hm

    Sheep I think you need to get things in order before you worry about going over a calorie limit. I suggest you don't count calories right now, you just make a conscious decision to eat well. Worry about tackling the drinking issue first! :)
  • so I can eat perfectly as I want to when I'm sober.

    as soon as I'm drunk i eat everything! Tonight I've had 2 pieces of pizza, and garlic bread! And a piece of millionaires shortbread.
    Tempted to throw up ://

    How can I stop myself from eating rubbish when drunk? Obvious is not to keep it in the house but my friends alwyas cook it and I can do nothing to resist.

    Before you start drinking, prepare something to eat later so you won't be so tempted by your friends' food.
  • kcd1961
    kcd1961 Posts: 126 Member
    Then it sounds like the place start is getting some help with handling the thoughts. If you can get a handle on that, the drinking will be less compulsive. That opens the way for more consistent eating. I'm wondering why you view yourself as pathetic and whether seeing yourself that way helps.
  • JoyeII
    JoyeII Posts: 240 Member
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That's interesting... I'm a student and I've gone 21 almost 22 years without a single sip of alcohol. Excuses, excuses.

    i'm not stopping drinking.
    i'm not asking to do that! i'm asking how i can stop overeating afterwards!
    it's great for you that you don't drink and all but well, i do. i've been doing it since i was 14 and tbh i'd rather eat less so that i can drink more. making pithy comments is absolutely no help.

    You don't have to stop drinking. Just stop getting drunk.

  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    Have you tried calorie cycling on your "off days" to compensate?

    Ex: calorie goal: 2500
    Party day: 3500 calories
    Day after 2000
    2nd day after 2000

    This or some combination may work better for you
  • disasterman
    disasterman Posts: 746 Member
    Switch to 420 and lots of cardio? Sorry, that's my best effort on this troll thread.
  • PearlAng
    PearlAng Posts: 681 Member
    Like others have said, maybe just try to not get drunk as often? I mean, I know you said that's something you like to do and you said you won't stop drinking, so that's not what I'm suggesting.

    Whatever you decide to do, good luck. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now...
  • uconnwinsnc1
    uconnwinsnc1 Posts: 902 Member
    JoyeII wrote: »
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That's interesting... I'm a student and I've gone 21 almost 22 years without a single sip of alcohol. Excuses, excuses.

    i'm not stopping drinking.
    i'm not asking to do that! i'm asking how i can stop overeating afterwards!
    it's great for you that you don't drink and all but well, i do. i've been doing it since i was 14 and tbh i'd rather eat less so that i can drink more. making pithy comments is absolutely no help.

    You don't have to stop drinking. Just stop getting drunk.

    No. Alcoholics have to stop drinking. There is no moderation when it comes to an addiction.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    ndj1979 wrote: »
    Or you could not get drunk ;)



    haha that would be ideal sadly student lifestyle means i get most of my daily calories from alcohol anyway ahah

    That isn't funny, it is sad. What other bad choices do you make when drinking?

    wooooow. loads though. at least when i was on the coke i was thin. wish that was a joke.

    i get that i'm pathetic!! i am well aware ! but i want to be thin and pathetic not fat and pathetic. gods sake. this wasnt like COME AND JUDGE ME at all, i'm asking for advice, and i get the nth degree? thanks yall love this community lol

    something tells me you have some serious issues if you are blowing rails and getting annihilated all the time...

    yeah. i don't enjoy being sober to experience my thoughts hm

    Please check yourself in to a rehab facility.
  • tartansheep
    tartansheep Posts: 122 Member
    well thanks guys.
    need to do some thinking maybe.

    thanks to the genuine people who want to help though, it really means a lot.

    less thanks to the snarky people who seem to think i am trolling. sadly my life really is a cosmic joke
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