I never even wanted to read any of the success stories !

fastingfurious35 · January 2015

I have been on MFP on and of for a few years. But believe it or not this is the only forum section I didn't want to read- never. I don't know why - maybe resentment ? maybe fear of facing my real issues.. maybe not believing that I ever will be here ? I don't know why I just didn't.
- Now.. I'm writing a story in this section. It's almost un real for me.
18 Months ago I was 295 lbs at 5.6" . I was disgusted with myself and life. I was tired of everything .

Now I'm at 228 . I have lost 67 lbs and I have another 65 to go. I'm half way to my goal .

This time I'm not wishing for it to happen. I'm not dreaming about it. I'm not talking about it.

I'm doing it . I'm working for it. I'm fighting for it. With everything I have.

Not only will I achieve my weight loss goal- by the end of this year ( December is my dead line to be at 165 lbs ! ) I'm planning to get certified as a personal trainer. I don't care who is believing in me achieving it . I don't care who is laughing. I know I don't look like one - yet . but I'm going to be one.

I want to be a trainer that can really touch other peoples lives and change it into positive. I know I have a passion for helping others . I know what it feels to be at the bottom.
After I get the certificate for my personal training- why stop there- get one for nutrition too. So I can be the full package .

I know how many times I would meet with a nutritionist and think to myself- you have no idea what you are talking about. You have no idea what it means to be a food addict, to be bulimic . you have no idea what it means to eat to " numb " .. to feel happy.. to cry .. to forget - you just don't know - and you are talking to me " just eat healthy " .

Same way I feel about trainers- those skinny girls that had never an issue with their body - ( the ones that I have met at least ) they are built in a small frame- skinny .. even if they had a few " vanity pounds " that's nothing compared to morbidity obese. - Than you standing in front of me with your 120 lbs telling me do " 10 more " .. but you have no idea what it means to even walk with carrying 300 lbs every single day ! .. You are lifting a 10 lbs dumbbell 3x12 and call that a workout.. well I'm carrying 300 lbs 24x7.. and call it a life !

For that reason - I believe I will be a good personal trainer. I have a real passion for it- for a very long time - but I was always afraid to say it out loud. Today I'm saying it - to my family- and to the world.

I'm going to do it.

Timby1 · January 2015

Good for you! I believe you can do it and I'm not laughing. You do it!

Sherriediva1 · January 2015

YOU FREAKIN' ROCK! I have respect for your gumption, your dedication, your determination and your heart. You just inspired me. And that is the reason for the Sucess board. Congratulations!

snowflake930 · January 2015

Awesome! You will be a great PT!
I have been on MFP for 3 years. At first, the success stories was the only forum section that I read. I have to credit this forum for giving me the inspiration to continue. I read them every evening, and still do. I lost over half of my body weight and have been on maintenance for 15 months. I am pretty sure that I would never have reached this day without MFP, the success stories, and the struggles and triumphs of everyone that shares their stories.

Congratulations to you and best wishes for achieving your goal as a PT!

TamS2015 · January 2015

Great attitude. You r already inspiring

IamUndrCnstruction · January 2015

I believe in you!

LAMCDylan · January 2015

Nice. And the fact you want to be a personal trainer will help motivate you more.

NurseSassy76 · January 2015

Awesome !

MargueriteMuguet · January 2015

Good to read. You go do what you have to do! This post of yours in itself is like a pump up motivation quote :-) cograts on your progress already achieved

sallylou88 · January 2015

Amazing

well done for losing so much already, and good luck in the future, it sounds like nothing can stand in ur way! Xxx

Redinky22 · January 2015

You are now one of those success stories. Be proud and loud about it. We only achieve success when we believe in ourselves. Screw what others think.

cloieclo · January 2015

I love this post! And I believe in you...you can do it! You should be so proud of how far you've come already.

Delilahhhhhh · January 2015

BRAVO, you are magnificent, well done on your success to date!!!

randomtai · January 2015

halfcuporless wrote: »

Same way I feel about trainers- those skinny girls that had never an issue with their body -

:huh:

GiveMeCoffee · January 2015

Congrats on your weight loss.

But, why must you put down other people? How do you know what that 120 lb person has gone through, have you lived their life? Be happy for your success but don't put other people down and shame them. Those 120 lbs people could bust their butts in the gym all the time to maintain that you don't know.

redpandora56 · January 2015

randomtai wrote: »

halfcuporless wrote: »

Same way I feel about trainers- those skinny girls that had never an issue with their body -

:huh:

the only blemish on an otherwise positive and inspiring post. Just as you feel they don't understand or can't relate to your journey,you can't assume they've never had similar struggles, or demons of their own. Maybe they HAVE been there... I wish you best of luck OP and hope you achieve your goals but if you one day are that 'skinny' trainer you refer to, I also hope no one judges your book by it's cover!

Myhaloslipped · January 2015

randomtai wrote: »

halfcuporless wrote: »

Same way I feel about trainers- those skinny girls that had never an issue with their body -

:huh:

I am going to have to second Tai's reaction. Congrats on your success, but the statement regarding assumptions about the issues or lack thereof of "skinny people" is completely unnecessary.

Liftng4Lis · January 2015

GiveMeCoffee wrote: »

Congrats on your weight loss.

But, why must you put down other people? How do you know what that 120 lb person has gone through, have you lived their life? Be happy for your success but don't put other people down and shame them. Those 120 lbs people could bust their butts in the gym all the time to maintain that you don't know.

+1

mamaomefo · January 2015

Congratulations on you weight loss! And your dedication to yourself and your goals. You are rocking it!!

Calliope610 · January 2015

OP, you can lose even more weight ( and prob gain more clients) by losing that chip on your shoulder. I wouldn't want a PT or nutritionist with your attitude.

MichelleV1990 · January 2015

Congratulations!!! What an awesome accomplishment! Anyone with your kind of drive and empathy would make an excellent trainer. Don't let anybody dull your sparkle.

fastingfurious35 · January 2015

I Didn't say all skinny ... I said at least those that I know perSonally. I know that there are skinny people that have their own battles. We all struggle in our own way. I don't judge then for being skinny. .I said what I said because it is irritating when a 120 lbs girl tells me .. oh honey trust me I know what it means to be overweight. And I ask her what is her heaviest she has been? Oh when I was pregnant I was 160. Hmm. So you expect to be able to relate to a 300/400 lbs person with that ? Yes she has her own battles .. but when people like that compare their 30 lbs loss work morbid obese person. . Its like a slap in my face. That is how I feel had nothing to do with if I'm happy for her being 120 lbs. Good for her. I didn't belittle them.. bit when you compose those 20/30/40 lbs to someone's 200/300 extra weight than that feels like you are belittling their problem.
Please try to understand before jumping up against what I said.
My poiny was not to step on others. But to explain I would want to meet a trainer who has lost 100/200 lbs. That person would have the right to tell me. . Listen I have been there and done that.
Hope you all can understand my point a little better. Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond.

fastingfurious35 · January 2015

Sorry for the typos replying on phone

gypsy_spirit · January 2015

I can understand your points. As I reach my goals, I try and remember this - in all situations. We have enough people putting women down without doing it ourselves.

snowflake930 · January 2015

gypsy_spirit wrote: »

I can understand your points. As I reach my goals, I try and remember this - in all situations. We have enough people putting women down without doing it ourselves.

Nice sentiment, but unfortunately, many of us who were obese, have been put down by other women who seem to us to have no issues with self image, or if they have had, don't seem to be able to use compassion once they are in a better place with their image in relating to other women. I can totally relate to the OP on this. She wants to become a trainer, and I for one, would like to have some one like her as my trainer. You go girl!

If you have never been in a situation like this it is hard to understand how much it hurts to have others judge you for whatever reason they have for doing so. It can be anything, not just your size.

BamaBreezeNSaltAire · January 2015

Myhaloslipped wrote: »

randomtai wrote: »

halfcuporless wrote: »

Same way I feel about trainers- those skinny girls that had never an issue with their body -

:huh:

I am going to have to second Tai's reaction. Congrats on your success, but the statement regarding assumptions about the issues or lack thereof of "skinny people" is completely unnecessary.

+1

gypsy_spirit · January 2015

snowflake930 wrote: »

gypsy_spirit wrote: »

I can understand your points. As I reach my goals, I try and remember this - in all situations. We have enough people putting women down without doing it ourselves.

Nice sentiment, but unfortunately, many of us who were obese, have been put down by other women who seem to us to have no issues with self image, or if they have had, don't seem to be able to use compassion once they are in a better place with their image in relating to other women. I can totally relate to the OP on this. She wants to become a trainer, and I for one, would like to have some one like her as my trainer. You go girl!

Exactly. There is NEVER a legitimate reason to put any person down.

randomtai · January 2015

snowflake930 wrote: »

gypsy_spirit wrote: »

I can understand your points. As I reach my goals, I try and remember this - in all situations. We have enough people putting women down without doing it ourselves.

Nice sentiment, but unfortunately, many of us who were obese, have been put down by other women who seem to us to have no issues with self image, or if they have had, don't seem to be able to use compassion once they are in a better place with their image in relating to other women. I can totally relate to the OP on this. She wants to become a trainer, and I for one, would like to have some one like her as my trainer. You go girl!

If you have never been in a situation like this it is hard to understand how much it hurts to have others judge you for whatever reason they have for doing so. It can be anything, not just your size.

So that makes it ok to put others down?? That is sad.

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fastingfurious35 · January 2015

Whenbi was chronic bulimic for 6. years I ate and threw up up to 12. Times a day. every single day.
Appointment with a nutritionist who was a skinny small frame person... tells me she can relate to my problem. I ask .. how ?
Oh when I'm stressed out I binge I eat half block of black chocolate.
I m telling you I'm eating a cow on a daily basis and throwing it up. I'm suicidal. ..and you compare that black chocolate to my issue ?

I think it wouldnt be right for me to tell aperson that lost a child to know how they feel ..and I didn't go through that I think it would be wrong to say I know how you feel.

If someone gave me a slap on my behind .. it would be very insensitive to tell a rape victim I know how you feel.

U get what I'm trying to say ?

Eating disorder and morbid obese ..are different from your little binge and few vanity pounds....I don't judge you for beeing skinny but for comparing yourself to me and people like me.

snowflake930 · January 2015

randomtai wrote: »

snowflake930 wrote: »

gypsy_spirit wrote: »

I can understand your points. As I reach my goals, I try and remember this - in all situations. We have enough people putting women down without doing it ourselves.

Nice sentiment, but unfortunately, many of us who were obese, have been put down by other women who seem to us to have no issues with self image, or if they have had, don't seem to be able to use compassion once they are in a better place with their image in relating to other women. I can totally relate to the OP on this. She wants to become a trainer, and I for one, would like to have some one like her as my trainer. You go girl!

If you have never been in a situation like this it is hard to understand how much it hurts to have others judge you for whatever reason they have for doing so. It can be anything, not just your size.

So that makes it ok to put others down?? That is sad.

Of course it doesn't make it right!

If you have never experienced this, that is great. Many of us have, and countless times. I never knew that there were so many people who never said an unkind thing to another human being.
Did the OP say anything about putting them down to their face, as many people have had done to them, countless times over their lives? I must have missed this part, cuz I sure did not read this.

If you think that this doesn't happen, you are sadly mistaken. It happens and often. I absolutely will not defend this type of comment made by anyone to any person, for anything, but I well certainly defend anyone that has experienced this, and unfortunately, many people have. Countless times.

I never even wanted to read any of the success stories !

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