Singles: Does Valentine's Day depress you?

iwillsucceed0444
iwillsucceed0444 Posts: 432 Member
edited November 11 in Chit-Chat
I'm single and I hate Valentine's Day. Well I think the idea of it is really cute and all, but I just don't have anyone to share it with sadly. :( I've always been alone on V-day. Does anyone else feel this way too?
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  • _JustDG_
    _JustDG_ Posts: 1,584
    I think it's more depressing for the married's. :p
  • mrsmartinez99
    mrsmartinez99 Posts: 1,255 Member
    _JustDG_ wrote: »
    I think it's more depressing for the married's. :p

    This is true. My husband never remembers and if he does, it's when we are grocery shopping and he passes a display. Yes, I end up paying for my own teddy bear that I could do without. The year before he bought himself a new wedding band. He said it was his gift to me, that he wears a wedding ring (oh yeah it was all black, more of a man's ring than wedding band, and it didn't fit him; yes he threw the receipt away).

    Consider yourself lucky.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    It's pretty much the most stupid holiday ever...I'm glad my wife agrees. It's a bunch of marketing bull *kitten*.

    I pamper my wife often...I get her flowers on a regular basis...I prepare nice meals and we go out on occasion. I don't need some random day in February that Hallmark decided on to do these things.

    You're not missing anything...don't be sad. It's *kitten* lame.
  • sw0312
    sw0312 Posts: 30 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    It's pretty much the most stupid holiday ever...I'm glad my wife agrees. It's a bunch of marketing bull *kitten*.

    I pamper my wife often...I get her flowers on a regular basis...I prepare nice meals and we go out on occasion. I don't need some random day in February that Hallmark decided on to do these things.

    You're not missing anything...don't be sad. It's *kitten* lame.

    Agreed - we only get the kids a little something. I used to get mad that he wasted time and money on Valentines. I rather have him do something when he feels like he wants too not because it is an obligation.
  • aplcr0331
    aplcr0331 Posts: 186 Member
    Never had a problem with it when I was single.

    Thankfully my wife is not swayed by contrived narratives and forced "tokens" (i.e. spend money on ME!!! on this EXACT DAY!!!) of affection.

    Many people have loving relationships (single and the "marrieds") without pretend days to satiate some small self loathing persons feelings of inadequacy.

  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I proposed on Valentines Day (to consolidate anniversaries).
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    _JustDG_ wrote: »
    I think it's more depressing for the married's. :p

    Depends on the relationship *shrug*
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    I'd have to agree that it's more depressing when you're married. Just another day with the addition of a card.
  • 111YoYo111
    111YoYo111 Posts: 213 Member
    I am with you OP. I hate hate hate Valentine's Day.
  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
    When I was single and the archetypical "Forever Alone" guy, it made me more angry than anything -- all those lucky people got to celebrate how lucky they were and rub it in my face how unlucky I was.

    Now I'm one of those lucky people, with a happy marriage and a family, I do feel grateful for what I have. But I'm really sympathetic for those who don't have what we do.

    That said, I hate what Valentine's Day is - a chance to make money and an excuse for cheap sentimentality. Personally I revere St. Valentine as the patron of engaged couples and happy marriages.
  • Delilahhhhhh
    Delilahhhhhh Posts: 477 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    It's pretty much the most stupid holiday ever...I'm glad my wife agrees. It's a bunch of marketing bull *kitten*.

    I pamper my wife often...I get her flowers on a regular basis...I prepare nice meals and we go out on occasion. I don't need some random day in February that Hallmark decided on to do these things.

    You're not missing anything...don't be sad. It's *kitten* lame.

    ^^^^ I have never purchased one card or ever received one, I have never received flowers or some such fluff and during my lifetime I have met some wonderful, witty, charming, sexy men. It's not about 1 day, but lots of wild, wonderful, gentle, caring days throughout your life that count.
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    Some of my best Valentine's Days were spent single hanging out with my girlfriends. Now that I'm married, my husband and I almost never do anything on the actual day. Usually, we go out to eat the day before or after. As far as sex or gifts go though, no it's not a special day. Those are things we do regularly.
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    I hate all of the "Hallmark Holidays". And my GF would say that everyday with me is Valentine's Day anyway. I do, however, think that the new-ish holiday on March 14th is a keeper!
  • Peanut_321
    Peanut_321 Posts: 21 Member
    edited February 2015
    Is it bad that I think Valentines is great because of the sale on chocolate?

    (Where I live we get these great sales on chocolate during Valentines day and it's pretty awesome.)
  • northlandmum
    northlandmum Posts: 91 Member
    _Tink_ wrote: »
    I'd have to agree that it's more depressing when you're married. Just another day with the addition of a card.

    you're lucky you even get a card! Haven't received anything since I got married...we have other days to celebrate I guess. Have always felt it's more for dating couples or those trying to woo someone.

  • BoxingChick
    BoxingChick Posts: 124 Member
    Nope doesn't bother me at all.
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  • many_splendored
    many_splendored Posts: 113 Member
    My boyfriend dropped me like a hot potato only a few days ago, so this V-day will suck in particular.
  • 111YoYo111
    111YoYo111 Posts: 213 Member
    MiloBloom83 wrote: »
    I hate all of the "Hallmark Holidays". And my GF would say that everyday with me is Valentine's Day anyway. I do, however, think that the new-ish holiday on March 14th is a keeper!

    ??? what am I missing?
  • many_splendored
    many_splendored Posts: 113 Member
    111YoYo111 wrote: »
    MiloBloom83 wrote: »
    I hate all of the "Hallmark Holidays". And my GF would say that everyday with me is Valentine's Day anyway. I do, however, think that the new-ish holiday on March 14th is a keeper!

    ??? what am I missing?


    Pi Day!
  • missomgitsica
    missomgitsica Posts: 496 Member
    No . . . Valentine's Day has never been a huge deal for me, attached or single.
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    111YoYo111 wrote: »
    MiloBloom83 wrote: »
    I hate all of the "Hallmark Holidays". And my GF would say that everyday with me is Valentine's Day anyway. I do, however, think that the new-ish holiday on March 14th is a keeper!

    ??? what am I missing?

    Steak and BJ Day.

  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    111YoYo111 wrote: »
    MiloBloom83 wrote: »
    I hate all of the "Hallmark Holidays". And my GF would say that everyday with me is Valentine's Day anyway. I do, however, think that the new-ish holiday on March 14th is a keeper!

    ??? what am I missing?


    your chance to step up to the plate and be a superhero!
  • IrZeo
    IrZeo Posts: 58 Member
    I think it should only matter to those who have a special someone. If the holiday itself makes you sad, you should probably find a special someone for yourself! personally, after coming out of a long-term relationship last year, I'm enjoying being single. There is more to life than relationships (in my opinion).. though, Valentines day is cute and I like the time of year. :wink:
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    It's pretty much the most stupid holiday ever...I'm glad my wife agrees. It's a bunch of marketing bull *kitten*.

    I pamper my wife often...I get her flowers on a regular basis...I prepare nice meals and we go out on occasion. I don't need some random day in February that Hallmark decided on to do these things.

    You're not missing anything...don't be sad. It's *kitten* lame.

    I feel like it should be more for the kids than adults now. It's fun going to their V-Day parties, exchange cards, and eat some sweet treats. Everything else about the holiday can die off as far as I'm concerned.
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  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    do you get sad when you see holidays on your calendar for other countries or religions? Don't let it bug you. Married 14 years here and we do celebrate it, this year hubby is getting another motorcycle and I'm getting a new bike rack that can hold 5 bikes. We usually use it as an excuse to splurge on things we've been wanting, no flowers or cards here - those are better gifts when unexpected.
  • iwillsucceed0444
    iwillsucceed0444 Posts: 432 Member
    IrZeo wrote: »
    I think it should only matter to those who have a special someone. If the holiday itself makes you sad, you should probably find a special someone for yourself! personally, after coming out of a long-term relationship last year, I'm enjoying being single. There is more to life than relationships (in my opinion).. though, Valentines day is cute and I like the time of year. :wink:

    Yeah I get that, but it's sad because I'm NEVER been in a relationship. :( I'm always alone on V-day...*sigh*
  • tapirfrog
    tapirfrog Posts: 616 Member
    Since I'm probably getting divorced, yes, right now I do not like Valentine's Day one bit.
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,223 Member
    Hell no! It's just another day (I've been a single mom since my daughter was an infant - she's 13 now). This year I'll be seeing OTEP on 2-14, so it's gonna be an AWESOME night!

    For the record, if I'm in a relationship I'd rather get a card or flowers on a non-Hallmark day for no other reason but just because. If you realllly want to get on my good side....take me bowling & buy me pizza & beer.
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