Online Dating

Belle8312 wrote: »

bunnywestley81 wrote: »

Had some pretty bad ones.

Met one guyin a pub. He drank a pepsi, said "nice to meet you" and legged it to my bemusement. I did wonder what I had done but as far as I could work out...nothing...

Fair few that didn't look like their pictures.

Some marvelous freaky messages. Best being the guy who was on medication that allowed him to apparently have sex for hours...yep...that was his first message.

Just a note to guys who are sad they get no replies...I once tried to be nice and reply to all my messages...it was impossible, the sheer number of messages I got just made it totally unrealistic.
Unless you can do something to catch attention and stand out you may just get glanced over!

And POF haters...thats what I used. I also used Match in the past. Same amount and quality of freaks on both!!

The last internet date I went on was POF, I'd been sorta putting the guy off. I'd cancelled twice with lies. I wasn't that impressed with the pitcure. Said he was 5'10. Wasn't that impressed with the conversations. But he sorta railroaded me into meeting for a drink... It was a sunday and I was bored.
Turned out to be a damn hot, 6 foot person who was awesomely entertaining, engaging and interesting.
The second date we went to dinner and the following one I met his entire family!
Boyfriend for almost 3 years now...buying a house in the summer.

Love that!!!! Glad he kept trying even after you blew him off twice. Most guys wouldn't

Exactly I know I would not. Although the girl I am taking out tonight blew me off the first time last weekend. I almost said f it after that.

Belle8312 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

bunnywestley81 wrote: »

Had some pretty bad ones.

Met one guyin a pub. He drank a pepsi, said "nice to meet you" and legged it to my bemusement. I did wonder what I had done but as far as I could work out...nothing...

Fair few that didn't look like their pictures.

Some marvelous freaky messages. Best being the guy who was on medication that allowed him to apparently have sex for hours...yep...that was his first message.

Just a note to guys who are sad they get no replies...I once tried to be nice and reply to all my messages...it was impossible, the sheer number of messages I got just made it totally unrealistic.
Unless you can do something to catch attention and stand out you may just get glanced over!

And POF haters...thats what I used. I also used Match in the past. Same amount and quality of freaks on both!!

The last internet date I went on was POF, I'd been sorta putting the guy off. I'd cancelled twice with lies. I wasn't that impressed with the pitcure. Said he was 5'10. Wasn't that impressed with the conversations. But he sorta railroaded me into meeting for a drink... It was a sunday and I was bored.
Turned out to be a damn hot, 6 foot person who was awesomely entertaining, engaging and interesting.
The second date we went to dinner and the following one I met his entire family!
Boyfriend for almost 3 years now...buying a house in the summer.

Love that!!!! Glad he kept trying even after you blew him off twice. Most guys wouldn't

Exactly I know I would not. Although the girl I am taking out tonight blew me off the first time last weekend. I almost said f it after that.

So why did you agree to another date?

I like her is the short answer. I can say a lot more because we have been talking for a while now.

Wow. I feel really lucky. I have a profile up on PoF. I get really good responses usually. And so far, every guy I have met has been a nice, polite man. But then again, my profile is fairly clear that I think online dating is an introduction not a date; and that I am classy. Only a few guys try to ask if going for a movie equals them getting lucky. Maybe its my area of the world.

Not all dates have resulted in immediate attraction, but every face-to-face interaction has been fun and positive. If the goal is to meet someone new and interesting, you will be successful every time. I do call guys on their profile *kitten*. I had one guy message me and when I read his profile it basically indicated that he thought women who didn't respond were judging him on his looks and that by failing to respond, I was shallow and a b*tch. He did reveal some personal stuff too soon and we didn't progress to meeting.

I do some screening before meeting someone, red flags especially for safety I pay close attention to. I need to think that I might actually enjoy time with the person to message back and forth. Otherwise I try to be open minded. No limits on looks, careers, height, etc. After all, not all men find me attractive or interesting and that is not personal.

I don't even have a profile pic with my profile and I still get contacted. One of my "dates" told me that that there is a stat out there that women with no pic are actually more likely to respond them profiles with pics. Who knows. I've been told that my profile is brilliant and that I come across as being not being needy. So YAY me!

jnichel wrote: »

Does it count as online dating being that I met my now wife on Usenet (let's see how many of y'all know what this is)? We didn't 'date'; just in a Usenet group of people with similar interests. We didn't become an item until after we met in person at a group gathering.

I have never heard of Usenet.

yopeeps025 wrote: »

jnichel wrote: »

Does it count as online dating being that I met my now wife on Usenet (let's see how many of y'all know what this is)? We didn't 'date'; just in a Usenet group of people with similar interests. We didn't become an item until after we met in person at a group gathering.

I have never heard of Usenet.

I think it's what causes the machines to become aware and wage war on humanity

My worst date was set up to be great! We got along well online, chatting for a few weeks about normal life - even talked about what furniture I was buying for my house and still stupid people at our jobs. We decided to meet for a movie and then drinks after. He told me to pick the movie and time. I sent him my choice and he said he'd meet me there

I texted him when I was leaving my house (movie was less than 3 miles from my place) and didn't hear back from him. Just as I parked my car he told me he'd fallen asleep and his clothes were still in the washer. I asked him if the next showing would work and he said he'd be there for it. Luckily, I didn't purchase my ticket - just in case.

I went to the restaurant across from the theater and chose a patio seat so I could see him coming, got myself a sangria and waited. 5 minutes to showtime I still don't see him or hear from him. 10 minutes after showtime and I finally get a text that he just pulled into the parking lot and he'll see me soon. 25 minutes after showtime he finally arrives - looking like Forrest Gump after he ran across the country those few years! Unshaven (and unkept) facial hair, tattered ballcap, stained and too-big sweatshirt, and jeans that he'd probably owned for 15 years!

He asked me if I wanted to wait for the next showtime.

Uh, no thanks.

Online dating requires a huge amount of patience. I met my husband on Match.com, but I met several losers before him and a couple of nice guys that just weren't right for me.
Before online dating, I met a lot of men at bars. At least online, I could weed out the worst offenders before meeting them in person.

Some of the ones I remember:

- I'm 5'8" and had gained a few pounds from my norm at the time. I was a size 8 and had my body type set to "athletic" because I was. Guy had a photo and profile that said he was 40 (I was 32 or 33 at the time). When we met (first date was hiking), it was clear his profile picture was at least 10 years old and he was closer to 50-55, but he had the nerve to tell me I didn't look very athletic.

- Guy fell in love with me after one dinner and movie date. He texted within an hour after the first date and said he'd already talked to his family and they can't wait to meet me. No thank you.

- Dated a guy for 2 months, thought maybe he was a keeper. He was very low maintenance. We lived about 50 miles apart and only saw each other 1-2 days/week. One night, he told me he was disappointed I hadn't asked for details about why his marriages ended. He had only told me he'd been married once. Apparently, they had ended because he can't keep it in his pants. And, oh by the way, he'd been cheating on me the entire time we were dating. He texted me a few months later and said he'd made a huge mistake and wanted to marry me. No thanks.

Responding with anger only validates his opinion. The best you can do is just delete and move on.

Online dating can be fun. I've met a few crazies. One told me she had picked out every detail of her wedding... on our first date.

BigBadWolf__ wrote: »

Responding with anger only validates his opinion. The best you can do is just delete and move on.

Online dating can be fun. I've met a few crazies. One told me she had picked out every detail of her wedding... on our first date.

I had a guy tell me on the second date as he casually walked to his car that he was going to put a baby in me. Also relevant: my profile specifically said I do not want kids. I think he was under the mistaken impression that's a romantic thing to say; he would terribly wrong on that point.

tchell99 wrote: »

BigBadWolf__ wrote: »

Responding with anger only validates his opinion. The best you can do is just delete and move on.

Online dating can be fun. I've met a few crazies. One told me she had picked out every detail of her wedding... on our first date.

I had a guy tell me on the second date as he casually walked to his car that he was going to put a baby in me. Also relevant: my profile specifically said I do not want kids. I think he was under the mistaken impression that's a romantic thing to say; he would terribly wrong on that point.

"got dem nice child bearin' hips right thur"

BigBadWolf__ wrote: »

tchell99 wrote: »

BigBadWolf__ wrote: »

Responding with anger only validates his opinion. The best you can do is just delete and move on.

Online dating can be fun. I've met a few crazies. One told me she had picked out every detail of her wedding... on our first date.

I had a guy tell me on the second date as he casually walked to his car that he was going to put a baby in me. Also relevant: my profile specifically said I do not want kids. I think he was under the mistaken impression that's a romantic thing to say; he would terribly wrong on that point.

"got dem nice child bearin' hips right thur"

I cannot deny that - it's a fact. But mother nature gave me an out by not installing one o' those biological clock thingies in me (or maybe it's just broken).

And, yeah, nothings gonna throw a flag quicker than rape or DV stories. I mean, in due time it's something you need to know about. But yikes.

Belle8312 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

HappyQuella wrote: »

It wasn't a 'date'... but I have met up with a guy through Tinder. Luckily he looked exactly the same and had the same personality as he did online. I was 18 and he was 32- we got what we wanted out of it. I probably wouldn't do it again though. I was safe with this guy, but I don't want to ever chance it again.

Is there anyone on Tinder that's actually looking for a real life relationship? From what I've gathered, it's all about hookups.

I don't know. Talk to the guy on tinder and find out. Hookups I'm sure happen on all dating sites even the ones that you pay for.

Yeah, I know it happens all the time on all dating sites, I had just heard that Tinder was specifically for hookups. And from the experience I have had with it (literally only "swiped and matched" once) that's all the guy wanted. Granted I still have the account, only because I think it's fun to go on there and see everyone posing with tigers or a celebrity (I live near LA).

If that is 100% true then tomorrow night might get a little more interesting than I think it will.

LOL! Would love to hear what happens!

Last night date did get interesting alright. It was actually one of my favorites.