rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

Lately I have to say being called "skinny" dammit I am not skinny and don't want to be called it because its toatly against what I am aiming for. I am sure they mean it as a compliment but ... that means bones showing to me and that is gross. I am going for healthy and fit with some muscles.

***Its rude to blurt out anything related to physical attributes in my opinion. ****

I don't go calling people sickly or fat or comment on their outfit choice for the day, etc. But hey people need mouth filters a lot.

And yet you don't have a problem calling someone who's bones may protrude out more than others as gross.

Yeah, the irony in this post made me laugh.

I was out for a walk one day and had a water bottle in the pocket of my hoodie. Some woman in a car at the lights yelled out "you're too f**king young to be knocked up!" I stopped dead, looked at her and said "I'm 33, married, and not pregnant you ignorant d!ck". She rolled up her window and started straight ahead until the light turned.

woops

My mom, herself being morbidly obese as well, told me when I was about 7 and didn't even have a weight issue that I had three fat rolls when I slouched once in the tub. One thing that irks me is the polite way of saying you put on weight: 'you look great! How much weight have you lost?' Knowing full well they know and recognize you've put on a good 40 pounds since you saw them last.

Its interesting/ how cruel people can be. With weight its like acceptable to be rotten according to our society... apparantly

In June, my ribs popped out of place to the point where I couldn't breathe. I thought I was having a heart attack, so I called 911 and they sent an ambulance to my house. Everything was fine until I was laying in the hospital bed, and the doctor told me I should really consider trying to get rid of some of my extra weight. Which wasn't rude at all, but it was definitely hard to hear. It was my wake up call, though!

My sister (who isnt particularly a nice person but is wealthy and super skinny)... told me when I was around 24.. that she read a great article that made her think about me. It was about EMOTIONAL OVER EATING..... Yeah, I hung up and called my other sister bawling my eyes out and called her a few choice names. 10 years later... we still aren't close. Shocker! The other sister and I are best friends!

About 6 yrs ago after my 2 kid.
I quit junk food and sodas and walked a lot.
lost the weight pretty quickly.
I had someone insinuate I was on drugs.
Which I was not.

Life in a small town

I've posted this on here before when the thread was older. Figured I'd repost.



A group of my coworkers did this at one of my old restaurant jobs. They tore out a piece of a kids menu and colored it in with my name and everything, posted it in the kitchen =/ I laughed it off, but it was very hurtful, especially since it was a group effort. I started out at over 400 lbs and have been obese my entire life so I've had my fair share of mean comments and actions thrown my way. Don't ever think that what you say or do to a person won't stick with them after you're gone, that's not always necessarily true. I've had this picture for 8 years. It used to depress the crap out of me when I was younger, now I look back on it and I'm just glad I moved past that part of my life and don't allow poisonous people around me anymore.

*BIG HUGS*

My highest weight was 400lbs as well, and I'm SO proud of you, for how far you've come! Way to go! Shame on them, for being pieces of ****! People never cease to amaze me. It took me years to realize that people who make fun of others for their weight, looks, or anything else, judging a person before they're getting to know them as a person, whether they have a good heart, their intentions towards others are good, likes/dislikes, ect, these people are insecure, and have issues with themselves. It has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them. As much as the ****ty things they've said to me in the past might've hurt and pissed me off, I just feel sorry for them, now. I realize what a hollow existence they must live to care so much about such trivial things, instead of the things that really matter in life.

As for what's been said to me, I've had the classic: "You have such a pretty face", and "You'd be so beautiful if you lost weight", I had one doctor look at me and say, "Wow! What a body mass!", I think I weighed maybe 250lbs at the time, and the saddest part of all, I was going to him for Phentermine. Needless to say, I didn't go back.

I agree with some others who were talking about that they'd had even more problems since they'd lost weight. I realize this is a contradiction of sorts to what I said, but I genuinely can't help but feeling honked hearing this constantly. Either when seeing people out, or with a photo posted on Facebook, I'll often get messages from people (majority men), about how I "grew up to be so beautiful", and that I'm "simply stunning", and all this other bull****- which is code for- "you're not fat anymore, it's a shame your married, I'd go out with you now." Yes, of course, I realize it is their problem, their loss, and I'm a hell of a lot better off without ANY of them, but it's just insulting. So, yes, I know that's a walking contradiction there, but I did allow that to get under my skin a little.

The worst I would say is the fat word scattered thru out my life maybe 5 memorable times.
At age 13 my dad, "Be the fattest girl in your class!"
Age 16 a classmate, "is your boyfriend fat?" ( I was a size 14)
Maybe my 30's an Older relative, "I didn't recognize you,you got so FAT!
Maybe age 40, my son's classmate, "Where's fat a**!
Maybe age 58, my mom, "I was crying cause you're so FAT!"
My heaviest I was 220. Could be worse right?
Anyway somebody should write a book about the right way to encourage others to loose instead of rude comments.

Not the "rudest thing" but prit f=%!@!% rude, don't you girls just hate when people say "big girl"? It makes me want to commit an act of violence.

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In June, my ribs popped out of place to the point where I couldn't breathe. I thought I was having a heart attack, so I called 911 and they sent an ambulance to my house. Everything was fine until I was laying in the hospital bed, and the doctor told me I should really consider trying to get rid of some of my extra weight. Which wasn't rude at all, but it was definitely hard to hear. It was my wake up call, though!

Like you said, it probably wasn't said with malintent but I HATE going to the doctors when they start to mention my weight. I never eat fast food or drink soda but they always insist anyways that I need to stop doing those things -.-

I like to just come back over the top with the rudest stuff I can think of when people do that.

Once a total stranger looked at me at a store and said something about me being fat.

I replied "hey, I can lose weight. But you will always be a vapid tvvat."

That sort of thing.

When I was skinny, people told me to eat. Now that I'm chubby, friends and family do the sly insults but most strangers are silent in the sizing up. I also live in Australia where most people are less likely to say rude things to strangers. Once working in a pub I got "Are you pregnant?" and I smiled and said, "No, just fat!" and we had a laugh. In Cambodia, my friend's landlord brought me fruit, pointed to my tummy and said 'cholesterol'. Too funny! But he also said it to my super hot friend. Everyone has their opinion! All we can do is shrug it off and do our own thing. Don't let it get you down.

I have experienced it from the other side of the scale too "you're getting too skinny, do you throw up your food" "oh my god look at the little bones sticking out in your hands- you look anorexic! Are you anorexic?! You are withering away!!! " that was when I went to 56 kg from 116. And it hurt just as much as being called out for being obese. It made me realise that no matter what size you are, people will be mean.