rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

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  • winterWind341
    winterWind341 Posts: 24 Member
    Thankfully, I was never bullied in school because of my weight on a daily basis (only because I was not the heaviest kid there). Yes, they did call me cow and pig but I laughed at them and how pathetic they were (never hesitated to tell them that) so they stopped relatively quickly. I was never hurt by words because I knew that they insulted my physical apperance because they had nothing else to tease me about. I understand that kind of thing coming from kids but when a grown woman well in her fifties tells a 9 year old that she shouldnt jump in the water becuse she will cause a tsunami, thats where we have a problem. That lady was my grandmas friend and was spending summer with us and she was (an still is) really overweight. 9 year old me got out of the sea and told he to go and look at herself before she starts commenting on others apperance. Everyone stared laughing so I guess the joke was on her ;) It happened years ago but I still remember it not because it hurt me but because im the type of person that doesnt forget insults easily. Oh yes a month ago she called me anorexic you just cant please some people...
  • hippygirl325
    hippygirl325 Posts: 223 Member
    I recall being on Plenty of Fish a long time ago and a totally random guy messaged me saying "You would be really pretty if you lost some weight. I'm not trying to be mean, you just must be really insecure and I'm sure you'd feel a lot better about yourself if you lost weight." Needless to say I sent him a very indignant response, but looking back he was probably right, even though it wasn't really his place to say that.

    I've also gotten the pregnancy question a lot, or people assume I am. If they actually ask, I always wonder why in the world someone would actually ask that question. If you don't know, you probably shouldn't ask! lol Either way, I have also taken these types of things as motivation even though they have hurt at the time.
  • TheEats
    TheEats Posts: 49 Member
    At 14; mean girls at my secondary school beckoned me over just to say: "You're a fat pig."
    At 12; a boy a couple of years younger than me said: "You would be the prettiest girl I know if you were not so fat."
    At 12; my dad saying, when I had put on my new pjs and felt quite cute: "I think you should lose some weight." At twelve, how did he figure I should manage or understand how to do that? It only added to my self-hatred.
    At 15; my brother's friend: "Does the floor shake when you get up in the morning?" This was one of the most hurtful, because he repeatedly asked me if I understood why he asked that and my brother joined in, demanding me to answer, until I humiliated responded that it was "because I am fat".
    At 25; my ex mother-in-law: "I do not know if you will fit in the back seat." A ridiculous statement only to be cruel. I weighed 180 lbs, had no problem fitting into a back seat...
    At 30; my son: "I'm gamer pig, daddy is strong pig and mummy can be fat pig." There was something about my seven year old just reducing me to someone who is "fat", unable to think of a more suitable label.
    At 22; a co-worker, while eyeing me up and down with a smirk: "How's that diet going?"
  • pplastics
    pplastics Posts: 135 Member
    My husband's out of town friend was staying at our house one Saturday night. I was scheduled to have a hysterectomy on the following Tuesday due to painful fibroids and was doped up on some pretty hefty pain killers. I was watching a NASCAR race and Tony Stewart had just wrecked and was on camera. The friend said to me...."He reminds me of you." At first I thought maybe he meant how we speak (I'm a Midwestern transplant living in the south). Then the friend went on to say...."Yeah, you look just like him. You're both really big and fat." It took everything I had in me not to cry. Had I not been on the pain killers, I would've put him in his place, but I let it go. My husband (who was in the shower at the time) wanted to have him leave when he found out, but I said it was okay.

    I guess it all worked out, cause it did help motivate me to lose weight (.2 pounds from goal!!) But, I still feel so fat and ugly anytime his name is mentioned....just brings it all back. Emotions are very powerful things!
  • FrancesAnnLFM
    FrancesAnnLFM Posts: 23
    FAT FAT ARMY BRAT...walked through many a school hall way with those words ring in my ears...one that was customer to me the cashier OH WHEN IS YOUR BABY DUE...me....oh about 9 pizzas ago...my friend told me hey to rude people..HEY I can loose weight but there is no cure for Rudeness or Stupid...
  • FrancesAnnLFM
    FrancesAnnLFM Posts: 23
    60 years later it still hurts...this old crone knows how to kick butt now..but it still hurts
  • steebsthegreat
    steebsthegreat Posts: 70 Member
    I'm 5'8" and at my heaviest I was 165 pounds (so in reality really not that big) and I had someone ask me when my baby was due...I wasn't pregnant! I didn't even think I looked fat...
  • fat2strongbeth
    fat2strongbeth Posts: 735 Member
    Reading through all of these is really making me tear up. I've had a few bad comments over the years, but the most memorable is from when I was a teenager. My step-mom told me that I should get a shorter haircut because my long hair made me look more like a triangle with my wider shoulders and hips. Over 20 yrs ago and still hurts.
  • Mommaannie2510
    Mommaannie2510 Posts: 67 Member
    On Christmas my uncle had the damn nerve to say that I had gotten fat and gained a lot if weight since the summer to my dad and my older brother.

    Glad my dad said that I was running a lot. My brother was the one who told me. But I'm doing it for myself not for him but so that this summer I can wear shorts and feel confident in my bathing suit!
  • bettieb1988
    bettieb1988 Posts: 122 Member
    Right after my first child was born someone said to me Damn girl you blew up!!! What do i say to that? Thanks ?
  • clairemaj18
    clairemaj18 Posts: 3 Member
    Not that anyone actually said, other than one guy told me he wouldn't date me because I was a "big girl" - lol at you, pimple face

    ...but my bosses gave me "special tea" for Christmas. They said, "This tea is good for diabetes!" Um, yeah - I don't have diabetes. They are from a different culture, so I wasn't offended, but I had to laugh about it when I got home.
  • mkasarda570
    mkasarda570 Posts: 12 Member
    The rudest thing ever said to me was a doozy. My husband's Russian babushka refused to get into an elevator with me because she said I would make it crash. She also said to me that I was too fat for her bathroom. When I lost weight she then started telling me I was too thin and was trying to force feed me.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    mkasarda570 wrote: »
    The rudest thing ever said to me was a doozy. My husband's Russian babushka refused to get into an elevator with me because she said I would make it crash. She also said to me that I was too fat for her bathroom. When I lost weight she then started telling me I was too thin and was trying to force feed me.

    My Russian boss always pointed out how thick my behind was, then when I lost weight she told me she could count my teeth through my cheeks.
  • priyaFitnessFreak
    priyaFitnessFreak Posts: 105 Member
    joybedford wrote: »
    The rudest thing anyone ever said to me came from my aunt. It was about 5 weeks after the birth of my twins, I went to visit my sister and lots of family members were their, my sis, mum, nieces, 2 aunts and a couple of cousins. I walked into the room with a baby in each arm and a bag over my shoulder, my aunts immediately relieved me of the babies and then one of them said after looking me up and down "are you sure their isn't still one in their". I was so upset because they obviously expected me to have a perfect figure 5 weeks after twins who had a combined weight of 14lb 4. Now the same aunt tells me I am too skinny and need meat on my bones you can't win with some people.

    Your aunt sounds like a bi***. I have an aunt like that. She's always criticizing me for my features, my complexion, my body, my clothes. As a kid I took it all and pretended to not feel hurt. But the last time I saw her I told her off so much that she was almost reduced to tears. One of the best moments in my life!
  • karen_fitzgibbon
    karen_fitzgibbon Posts: 736 Member
    I have a lovely resident at my work that is in the later stages of dementia. She oinks at me and calls me a fat pig every time I see her. I don't let her get to me though. She can't help it. It's her mind deteriorating...

    But when the more mentally stable residents talk to me about the depression era and casually add into the conversation that if I didn't eat so much in wouldn't be as fat. That hurts a bit.
  • priyaFitnessFreak
    priyaFitnessFreak Posts: 105 Member
    Jestinia wrote: »
    A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.

    This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.

    One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.

    instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"

    She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.
    Her theory is BS; I am european, lived in east-block country till I was 11, most of my family had weight struggles. I've now lived in Canada most of my life & once had a woman (a mutual friend) comment on how she has the same "european knees" like me. Meaning pudgy. I didn't think it was funny, since I had been at a fairly low weight at the time and always struggled with weight. Thanks for pointing that out.

    That reminds me. A friend of mine once said, "You look so good, so thin! And don't worry about your thighs, I have thighs like yours, they're hereditary, nothing you can do about it.

    Well, I had never thought twice about my thighs before she said that and had no problem with them at all. I still don't, really.

    Sometimes people mean well, the mouthy little buggers.

    At College, a "friend" once asked me what the name was of my medical condition. When I told her that I had no medical condition she pretended to be taken aback and said "then why are your thighs so big?" Since this I've been very self-conscious about my things.

  • JenniferInCt
    JenniferInCt Posts: 431 Member
    Been asked my multiple people (strangers!) when am i expecting, are you pregnant, etc... I mean im overweight but its not like i have a "pregnant" looking belly (just lots of hills and valleys lol). The worst part to me is that ive always wanted kids, im 30 and dont know if itll ever happen. The first time someone said it i just said no and laughed it off while i almost cried it off in private. Ive since realized that it is just unbelievably rude to say something like that, esp to a stranger, and now i make them feel bad- no i am not pregnant but thanks for the insult. I would never say that to any women, esp a stranger. People are incredible jerks sometimes. The last time i remember, it was a female cop who i held the door for. Ugh
  • mhauswir18
    mhauswir18 Posts: 8
    michelleamhill wrote: »
    Yikes, what an awful thing for her to say. When I got a job my husband (now my ex) said, "Great, less time for you to shop".

    So the rudest thing anyone said to me was to inquire about my due date. I was not pregnant.

    Speaking of the ex, while we were married he used to describe me as a "skinny fat girl". He also said he was only attracted to me if my weight was in double digits, i.e. 99 lbs or below. I did develop an eating disorder and got down to 92. That weight was not healthy and it took me 3 years and therapy to like the way I looked at normal weight.

    We can't let anything anyone says about our appearance effect us to the point that it makes us ill. Best wishes to everyone who may be struggling to overcome abusive people who have said rude things. You know what they say about living well? It's the best revenge.

    xo

    Love this. So true! We shouldn't let other's perceptions or comments affect us in a negative way. All that matter is that you are happy with where you are, and where you are heading ( a lot easier said than done). I had an issue with a boyfriend in high school who did the same thing to me. Told me I was too "thick". I dropped down to 85 pounds, but at 16 I bounced back pretty quick, but it was awful for a while. I hope things are better for you!!!

  • softblondechick
    softblondechick Posts: 1,275 Member
    From my Mother, " He must be cheating on you because you are fat.". I weighed 160 at the time, and I am 5'11".
  • soygorda18
    soygorda18 Posts: 17 Member
    Allyvegan wrote: »
    My dad told me that I was fat and needed to lose weight in 3rd grade. :(

    That's awful. I first asked my parents if I was fat when I was seven, but to have it happen the other way around...I can't even imagine.
  • cheethnico
    cheethnico Posts: 57 Member
    Jeeze some people seriously don't have a filter I'm sure we have all thought it at some point about another person we havnt seen in a while but I would never say it to them I'm sure they are already aware if they have gained weight ect without it being pointed out I put a lot of weight on whilst pregnant with my now 4 month old and ooooh how people broke their neck to tell me I'm huge, your clapping it on, you sure it's not twins what you carrying an elephant bla bla bla cheeky so and so's
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    Get over it, folks. Dwelling on the past is pointless.

    so helpful so compassionate
  • Blueseraphchaos
    Blueseraphchaos Posts: 843 Member
    Mine are more funny, i think. At least, i laugh about them....i mostly blow everything off because i just don't care. But when i was 12, i was 5'4" and weighed about 135. My stepfather told my mother i was getting fat and needed to be put on a diet...meanwhile, his daughter was 5'6, 13 years old, and 200 lbs. XD

    A few years ago, when i first started dating my now-husband, there was a huge fiasco. My husband is a bass player in high demand where i live. He was playing in a band at the time. He had just broken up with his previous gf of 5 years, who was 275 lbs. (I weighed about 210.) his band's drummer (who admitted he weighed 276 lbs and is about 5'7") told him that ditching one fat girl to date another just made the band look bad. My husband tried to hide it from me, but he let it slip while he was drunk one day. I was like....this, coming from a guy who looks like he just might have a heart attack every time he drums? And i just laughed it off, until one day the drummer attacked me on Facebook just out of the blue. So i asked him how he could have the gall to call me fat when he was twice as fat as i was, to which some stupid female replied "well, if he said it, it must be true "...i still laugh over the whole thing because that female has had lapband surgery and regained all the weight back and then some, so now she weighs a good 50 lbs more than i do, and the drummer weighs over 100 more than i do, and his band has been searching hard for a good bass player since 2013, after having gone through a bazillion.

    It's all a big LOL to me. but I've never been a very sensitive type, and honestly I'm a complete and utter ***** most of the time. Soon, everyone can just call me a skinny ***** instead of a fat one. I'll never win, so I'll have as much fun as i can along the way. ;D
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