fifty shades of grey

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  • TrainingToBePerfect
    TrainingToBePerfect Posts: 1,418 Member
    I loved the movie personally. Jamie Dornan although on the other hand could NOT play his part.. He wasn't "rough" enough like the booked played out.. Anna played an amazing role and she done very well in the movie.

    I loved it.. Actually loved it lol
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    mirrim52 wrote: »
    I haven't read the book (well, I read the first couple pages as a free preview on my kobo, but couldn't get past the poor writing), and I have no desire to see the movie, but it is my understanding that the "hero" is basically a glorified abuser.

    http://theramblingcurl.blogspot.co.uk/2014/02/fifty-abusive-moments-in-fifty-shades.html?m=1

    ALL OF THIS.
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  • RhineDHP
    RhineDHP Posts: 1,025 Member
    This review of the first book made me laugh heartily:

    http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/340987215

    I must admit I haven't read them, but Prince's face and David Bowie's facepalm sums it up pretty well.

    She's done the others too :D



    BAHAHA, I read all three book reviews. This woman is absolutely hilarious in her criticisms of the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy.

  • mantium999
    mantium999 Posts: 1,490 Member
    50 shades of grey; what middle aged women do when they're not in Zumba class.

    The existence of this book and movie has sure brought out the way people stereotype middle aged women, married women, women that have children.

    Right!!


    If you're mom that means you like mommy porn and mommy sex.

    I am a mom and currently pregnant and still like being tied up and spanked, even way before these kids came along :D

    How do people think we got pregnant in the first place?
    Certainly not from kinky sex.

    This alone was worth stopping by this thread. Useful edumacation right here.
  • AmberStarr_87
    AmberStarr_87 Posts: 1,291 Member
    I read the books.. I enjoyed them. Like most, not because they were well written, but because they were an easy read. I saw the movie- and I knew what I was getting myself into when I did. I enjoyed it. Again, for what it was.

    Biggest bone to pick with 50 as a whole. They make it look like you have to of been abused or have some kind of mental illness in order to partake in a BDSM lifestyle.

    I'm pretty chemically balanced & I enjoy being suspended from the ceiling.

    That is all. Carry on.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    its so disappointing that this filth made money this weekend

    ew
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited February 2015
    I'm also a survivor of sexual abuse. The movie was so unrealistic. And it's just fiction. And it wasn't appealing. It didn't have rape in it. I think the movie must be different from the book. At the end she breaks it all off with him. It is portrayed as being a negative experience. Not a positive one (other than all the gentle consensual sex with a strong and capable 21 year old adult). So, as far as this movie goes. I wouldn't worry about it. But, let's teach our kids to know the difference between real life and fictional movies about a dark fantasy. Basic Instinct was a very dark fantasy as well. And let's trust that adult women can watch a movie and not try to replicate it without educating themselves. I was harmed in my past by abuse in real life. Not by any movie or book. And the conversations that are happening are educating people (and young people). I watched it because I felt I needed to know something about it before condemning it.
  • 50 Shades of Grey if it was written by a man:

    At the touch of her lips, it grew long and swollen. I sighed as she squeezed and pulled expertly. It was the best balloon giraffe I'd seen

    As I lay there on the floor, my naked body covered in treacle and whipped cream, I heard those inevitable words . . . 'Clean up on aisle 3.'

    She leant over the kitchen table. 'Smack that bottom,' she squealed, 'Smack it hard!' 'I am,' I said, 'But the ketchup just won't come out.'

    http://www.tickld.com/x/if-50-shades-of-grey-was-written-by-a-man
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
    mantium999 wrote: »
    50 shades of grey; what middle aged women do when they're not in Zumba class.

    The existence of this book and movie has sure brought out the way people stereotype middle aged women, married women, women that have children.

    Right!!


    If you're mom that means you like mommy porn and mommy sex.

    I am a mom and currently pregnant and still like being tied up and spanked, even way before these kids came along :D

    How do people think we got pregnant in the first place?
    Certainly not from kinky sex.

    This alone was worth stopping by this thread. Useful edumacation right here.

    Woohoo! Glad I could edumacate you!
  • mamameaof2kiddos
    mamameaof2kiddos Posts: 6,611 Member
    I only read the first book and I enjoyed it alot.. Mmmm it sounds fun to experience those things but ... Nah no thank you lol! I still much prefer very passionate love making :)
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    Saw the movie - a complete and total waste of time and money. Worst movie ever!!!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I also watched Secretary like everyone recommended. That was about two emotional unhealthy people and was definitely very abusive. I wouldn't consider that a good representation of the bdsm lifestyle from the way people describe it, and I hope most people are doing it from a healthy place.
  • palwithme
    palwithme Posts: 860 Member
    The guy they have playing Mr. Grey is just not attractive imo. They could of found a better looking guy. Just saying...
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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It's strange because I don't like the movie. But, I also don't like people spreading upsetting misinformation. I read a woman's letter to her daughter and she describes these very gentle and consensual sex scenes as violent rapes. Maybe it was in the book. I agree it was emotionally unhealthy and manipulative in the movie. But the sex scenes were gentle, consensual, mutual, and pleasurable. He doesn't do anything without her consent.
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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Maximus wrote: »
    Maybe he gets mad when she doesn't make him a sammich.

    :laugh:
  • Tiamo719
    Tiamo719 Posts: 256 Member
    Canman51 wrote: »
    50 Shades of Grey if it was written by a man:

    At the touch of her lips, it grew long and swollen. I sighed as she squeezed and pulled expertly. It was the best balloon giraffe I'd seen

    As I lay there on the floor, my naked body covered in treacle and whipped cream, I heard those inevitable words . . . 'Clean up on aisle 3.'

    She leant over the kitchen table. 'Smack that bottom,' she squealed, 'Smack it hard!' 'I am,' I said, 'But the ketchup just won't come out.'

    http://www.tickld.com/x/if-50-shades-of-grey-was-written-by-a-man

    That was very funny!! :-)
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

    Based upon your use of the word "retarded" in this instance, I am sure the books are right in your wheelhouse.
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  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    edited February 2015
    With the amount of money it made opening weekend, there are more lonely cat ladies in America than I thought.

    Yeah, that made me almost as sick as the abusive/controlling scenes in the book. This planet is full of morons.

    ETA: Don't talk bad about lonely cat ladies. We are not all idiots!
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.
  • _Lana_Lang
    _Lana_Lang Posts: 4 Member
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

    What exactly do you mean by retarded? Because I'm sure you're not comparing the movie to a mentally challenged person are you?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I bet the majority of people watching it are just watching it to "see how bad it is" from everyone talking about it so much.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    mccindy72 wrote: »
    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.

    That was the impression I got from the movie. My husband was saying people would probably be less upset if she was portrayed as a victim and him as a villian. And he finds that odd and an interesting thing about the psychology of this.

  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

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  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    mccindy72 wrote: »
    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.

    That was the impression I got from the movie. My husband was saying people would probably be less upset if she was portrayed as a victim and him as a villian. And he finds that odd and an interesting thing about the psychology of this.

    In a normal, healthy relationship, usually the person who wants sex the least controls it. What's done, how often, etc., all are controlled by the less willing party.


    Not in this case - she wants it, she just controls how it's done. Remember, she's a virgin at the start of the relationship, and very attracted to him.
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