fifty shades of grey

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  • mamameaof2kiddos
    mamameaof2kiddos Posts: 6,611 Member
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    I only read the first book and I enjoyed it alot.. Mmmm it sounds fun to experience those things but ... Nah no thank you lol! I still much prefer very passionate love making :)
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
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    Saw the movie - a complete and total waste of time and money. Worst movie ever!!!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    I also watched Secretary like everyone recommended. That was about two emotional unhealthy people and was definitely very abusive. I wouldn't consider that a good representation of the bdsm lifestyle from the way people describe it, and I hope most people are doing it from a healthy place.
  • palwithme
    palwithme Posts: 860 Member
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    The guy they have playing Mr. Grey is just not attractive imo. They could of found a better looking guy. Just saying...
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    It's strange because I don't like the movie. But, I also don't like people spreading upsetting misinformation. I read a woman's letter to her daughter and she describes these very gentle and consensual sex scenes as violent rapes. Maybe it was in the book. I agree it was emotionally unhealthy and manipulative in the movie. But the sex scenes were gentle, consensual, mutual, and pleasurable. He doesn't do anything without her consent.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    Maximus wrote: »
    Maybe he gets mad when she doesn't make him a sammich.

    :laugh:
  • Tiamo719
    Tiamo719 Posts: 256 Member
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    Canman51 wrote: »
    50 Shades of Grey if it was written by a man:

    At the touch of her lips, it grew long and swollen. I sighed as she squeezed and pulled expertly. It was the best balloon giraffe I'd seen

    As I lay there on the floor, my naked body covered in treacle and whipped cream, I heard those inevitable words . . . 'Clean up on aisle 3.'

    She leant over the kitchen table. 'Smack that bottom,' she squealed, 'Smack it hard!' 'I am,' I said, 'But the ketchup just won't come out.'

    http://www.tickld.com/x/if-50-shades-of-grey-was-written-by-a-man

    That was very funny!! :-)
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,864 Member
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    Taylor_Bride_to_Be wrote: »
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

    Based upon your use of the word "retarded" in this instance, I am sure the books are right in your wheelhouse.
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
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    TheVegthlete wrote: »
    With the amount of money it made opening weekend, there are more lonely cat ladies in America than I thought.

    Yeah, that made me almost as sick as the abusive/controlling scenes in the book. This planet is full of morons.

    ETA: Don't talk bad about lonely cat ladies. We are not all idiots!
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
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    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.
  • _Lana_Lang
    _Lana_Lang Posts: 4 Member
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    Taylor_Bride_to_Be wrote: »
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

    What exactly do you mean by retarded? Because I'm sure you're not comparing the movie to a mentally challenged person are you?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    I bet the majority of people watching it are just watching it to "see how bad it is" from everyone talking about it so much.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    mccindy72 wrote: »
    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.

    That was the impression I got from the movie. My husband was saying people would probably be less upset if she was portrayed as a victim and him as a villian. And he finds that odd and an interesting thing about the psychology of this.

  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
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    Taylor_Bride_to_Be wrote: »
    So I've heard a lot of different views on fifty shades of gray , some people think its retarded, others find it amazing. What are your guys and girls views?

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  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
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    allthecatfishies wrote: »
    BinaryPulsar wrote: »
    mccindy72 wrote: »
    Here's the point that everyone misses about these books. Ana is an innocent in the beginning who meets a guy who lives (supposedly) a BDSM lifestyle. He finds her intriguing and is drawn to her. When she does end up in his bed, they have "vanilla" sex, her way. Gently. When he presents her with the contract, she never signs it. When they go into his "room", they never do anything more than what Ana wants to do. The one time Christian goes to far and hurts Ana, she leaves him. Christian is so crushed by losing her, he promises to always do whatever she wants to get her back.
    Ana RUNS the relationship. From day one. No one seems to get that. Yes, the books are poorly written. Yes, the characters are two-dimensional and unrealistic. Yes, many of us (myself included) skipped the overbearing number of sex scenes.

    But these books made millions of dollars for EL James. and millions more for the movie rights. Why? Because women (probably subconsciously) connected to something in them. Empowerment hides in the pages of these books. Ana controls Christian from the day they meet. Their sex life, the other woman in his life, where they live, the child they have. When she's threatened, she helps to save herself. She solves the mystery of Christian's past and heals him.

    It's not about porn, or romance. It's about women's power. Undoubtedly.

    That was the impression I got from the movie. My husband was saying people would probably be less upset if she was portrayed as a victim and him as a villian. And he finds that odd and an interesting thing about the psychology of this.

    In a normal, healthy relationship, usually the person who wants sex the least controls it. What's done, how often, etc., all are controlled by the less willing party.


    Not in this case - she wants it, she just controls how it's done. Remember, she's a virgin at the start of the relationship, and very attracted to him.

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