Guys like heavier girls?

Marilyn Monroe I believe was a size 14 and the men loved her.

My ex likes bigger women - especially big butts and legs. When I started exercising and trying to lose weight, he told me he'd rather I gained weight. At first I didn't believe him, because I always thought guys liked thin girls. But he ended up cheating on me with a woman who is at least 50# more than I was at my heaviest. So yes, some guys really do like obese women better.

So, with all of the focus on the ladies -- what about the men? Is thin attractive, or do they look better with a little meat on them? Ripped or cuddly?

Preferably muscular and fit... but I'd take a bit cuddly over skinny any day. If I can wrap my arms around you and touch my own elbows... you're too thin! If I've ever outweighed you at any point in my life... even during pregnancy... you're too thin for me!

I've been hit on by lot's of guys when I weighed 155-160 being 5'9 which put me at a 12-14. Lost weight, got down to 135-140 which put me at a 6-8. Got hit on just as much. So to me size doesn't matter.
I'm losing weight for me. I'm not gonna lie, when I weighed 135. I wanted my husband more. Because I felt good about myself. I felt sexy, so I acted sexy. I'm sure my husband would say he liked me smaller, cuz he got it ALL the time. Not because of how much I weighed or what size I was.
It comes down to what size makes the women feel good about herself. If she's single the men are gonna like her at whatever size she is happy being. And she'll attract the men that like the body type she has.

I think that guys see confidence before they see "weight".

Agreed!! Well said!!

So, with all of the focus on the ladies -- what about the men? Is thin attractive, or do they look better with a little meat on them? Ripped or cuddly?

I do not care for rail thin men who are built like rulers. Not sure why that recently seems to be fashionable to the younger set.

While I can certainly admire the effor that went into getting ripped, that's a bit too much for me. Sure I'd like to see a nice V and some definition, but chiseling is a bridge too far.

Umm ok the reality is men REALLY dont care what size a woman is. They just want the vajayjay, and as long as you give them access to it they are happy LOL

I guess I don't have the normal husband lol he like when I'm smaller I'm petite only 5ft and a size 5 or 6 and when I was pregnant would get bigger and he was always supportive of me loosing it lol which I don't mind because I hate being over a certain weight anyway and wouldn't be happy if I was but everyone has their own opinions

My husband like me skinnier too. I am a healthy weight for my height, 127.9lb and 5.4 and my husband is a little too happy about me getting skinner.

While the size 6 girl might be nice to look at, when it comes to reality men like something they can hold onto. Who wants to curl up in bed with a bag of bones? Really? I think we are so concerned with the media's representation of what we should look like, we fail to really get the reality of it all. The average woman is a size 14 NOT a size 6. Teenagers are size 6. Once you are married, have children and deal with the other realities that life hands out to you, being a size 6 is virtually impossible. C'mon ladies, stop *****in and moaning and starving yourselves to be something that is unattainable. Do a little exercise everyday, watch the carbs and be happy with your size 14 bodies. I'm striving to be a size 14 now because I let myself get a little crazy with the desserts and carbs. Size 6? Never.

Wow. Just wow.

I think that guys see confidence before they see "weight".

You nailed exactly what I was going to say. My husband always says that confidence is the most attractive quality in a woman. He also likes curvy women too. In fact, just last week I was enjoying my guilty Kardashian pleasure LOL and watching Khloe and Lamar on E! and she was talking about how fat she is, and my husband was like what? Fat? She's the best looking one of the bunch! But, like others pointed out, every guy is different. I have 2 brothers and both of them would rather die than be with a "chunky" chick. My little brother told my Dad after him and his gf broke up "Well I guess to have a decent woman I have to settle for a fat chick." My Dad hung up on him. ha! My husband is also worried about me losing weight, he keeps saying that I better keep all my my curves.. well, I don't think that will be a problem.... lol

I like this post...Heres the deal im having...see what ppl think about this one. Ive been with my fiance for almost 2 yrs now..yes i have gained maybe 7 lbs since then and most recently he told me that I was getting alot bigger which killed me deeply. Im 5 foot and 138..according to guidelines..im overweight. So now he always looks at really skinny girls which makes me so angry and sad. Im not dieting and exercising because of what he said but for myself. My goal is to lose about 15 to 20 lbs. Then to top things off...the other day hes like i think u should get down to 100lbs and i need bigger boobs!!!! Ive been that little and looked sick...So my self-esteem is so low now..

I think a good 10 or 15lbs would be good for you to lose, and then I'd work on losing that other 200lbs (him)

I like this post...Heres the deal im having...see what ppl think about this one. Ive been with my fiance for almost 2 yrs now..yes i have gained maybe 7 lbs since then and most recently he told me that I was getting alot bigger which killed me deeply. Im 5 foot and 138..according to guidelines..im overweight. So now he always looks at really skinny girls which makes me so angry and sad. Im not dieting and exercising because of what he said but for myself. My goal is to lose about 15 to 20 lbs. Then to top things off...the other day hes like i think u should get down to 100lbs and i need bigger boobs!!!! Ive been that little and looked sick...So my self-esteem is so low now..

I think a good 10 or 15lbs would be good for you to lose, and then I'd work on losing that other 200lbs (him)

BAM! LOL!!! I agree. Any guy that will disrespect you like that or harm your self-esteem like that is not worth your time. 138 is by no means big. If you want to lose 15-20 to feel better about yourself, fantastic... but don't do it b/c your self esteem is hurting b/c there are plenty of guys out there who will love you and not disrespect you if you gain 7 pounds or 70. ((hugs))

While the size 6 girl might be nice to look at, when it comes to reality men like something they can hold onto. Who wants to curl up in bed with a bag of bones? Really? I think we are so concerned with the media's representation of what we should look like, we fail to really get the reality of it all. The average woman is a size 14 NOT a size 6. Teenagers are size 6. Once you are married, have children and deal with the other realities that life hands out to you, being a size 6 is virtually impossible. C'mon ladies, stop *****in and moaning and starving yourselves to be something that is unattainable. Do a little exercise everyday, watch the carbs and be happy with your size 14 bodies. I'm striving to be a size 14 now because I let myself get a little crazy with the desserts and carbs. Size 6? Never.

It's great that your goal is to be a size 14, but just because a size 6 is apparently unattainable for you doesn't mean it is for everyone else. I've been a size 14, and I was not happy or healthy at that size. I'm an 8, working on a 6, right now, and given my small frame, 4 would probably be the ideal size for me. I am definitely not a bag of bones. I have muscles AND curves.

And what really saddens me about your post is your assertion that being a wife and mother means you have to settle for being "average." If that's what you want, go for it. But not everyone feels that way. I'm not a wife or a mother yet, but when I am, I hope my goal is to be more than just average.

Also average does not mean ideal. The average is now larger than it ever was as over 60% of the US population is overweight, which skews that number to a larger size. Years ago average would have been a closer to a size 8 when only a small portion of the population was overweight.

Ladies who cares what he wants or thinks!! And for that matter Guys who cares what she thinks! Do it for you and you alone and you will exude confidence, that's what is really attractive and thats what counts.

I like this post...Heres the deal im having...see what ppl think about this one. Ive been with my fiance for almost 2 yrs now..yes i have gained maybe 7 lbs since then and most recently he told me that I was getting alot bigger which killed me deeply. Im 5 foot and 138..according to guidelines..im overweight. So now he always looks at really skinny girls which makes me so angry and sad. Im not dieting and exercising because of what he said but for myself. My goal is to lose about 15 to 20 lbs. Then to top things off...the other day hes like i think u should get down to 100lbs and i need bigger boobs!!!! Ive been that little and looked sick...So my self-esteem is so low now..

well I have to say thios post makes me sad and angry, this guy is not worth your self esteem and sanity, do yourself a favor and get out of this verbally degrading relationship and do what makes you feel good for you and not him or anyone else, you are beautiful and deserve better. This is the type of guy that will stray and just hurt you even more.

As to other posters comments I agree that it's more about a healthy weight, which varies, and proportions....you can even look it up, speaking scientifically a hip to waist ratio is what arouses men by simple natural instinct, the big boobs are the result of society not because it makes a woman more or less desirable. So work on a healthy body and a healthy attitude and stop fussing over size and what a guy wants as health and confidence is beautiful!