So what do you need to see on the resume of your next spouse

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  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    My list is pretty small, but I learned this requirement from my first wife.

    1. NOT CRAZY.

    What I have learned in my life as a guy is remarkably simple.

    Ted's Law of Relationships or The Man's Guide to Marital Bliss:

    You can't win, but you do have to play. And the rules will change to suit the game. Therefore, the man must accept responsibility for ALL wrongs, actual or perceived.

    The quicker you as a man learn to accept and embrace the above, the happier you will be.

    I am VERY happily married, just ask my wife!

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  • pammbroo
    pammbroo Posts: 550 Member
    I've never been, but if I were to get married.....breathing and employed is a good start. :wink:
  • LeeKetty1176
    LeeKetty1176 Posts: 881 Member
    1 Human (seeing some of my ex's you would understand)
    2 Supportive
    3 Have own life (so we have something to talk about)
    4 Caring
    5 Love me for being me


    for full Job spec and list of benefits please send applications with 2 references to my PM box
  • Fesse
    Fesse Posts: 611
    A soul mate... someone who I connect with on a deep level, who knows what I'm feeling and thinking at the moment I'm going through it, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, respect, open minded.... someone with the same love of humanity as I have. Someone to laugh with, to cry with.... to hold my hand when I'm sick, to steer me straight when I've driven off course..... someone who thinks I'm worth it, who gives to others before taking for themselves, who is both strong and weak... who can lead and follow............

    and mostly some to love me as deeply as I know I can love.

    *please send CV*
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    for full Job spec and list of benefits please send applications with 2 references to my PM box

    lol
  • SunLovin1
    SunLovin1 Posts: 682 Member
    1 Human (seeing some of my ex's you would understand)
    2 Supportive
    3 Have own life (so we have something to talk about)
    4 Caring
    5 Love me for being me


    for full Job spec and list of benefits please send applications with 2 references to my PM box

    Lol!
  • LeeKetty1176
    LeeKetty1176 Posts: 881 Member
    for full Job spec and list of benefits please send applications with 2 references to my PM box

    lol

    I was going to say pictures as well.......but thought better of it !
  • Liatush
    Liatush Posts: 627 Member
    I had a huge list as well:

    Has to love kids
    Has to be a single dad and have custody of his kids
    Has to be Israeli/American
    Has to have a career he loves
    Has to be close to his family
    Has to make me laugh
    Has to love me just the way I am
    Has to be honest and kind (not funny in a cruel way the way my ex hubby was)
    Has to be generous

    and the list goes on and on.... I knew that if my list was long enough, no one would ever make the cut but I never wanted to settle as I always felt I had with my exes. Until I met my boyfriend and he was everything I ever listed and more.

    So my point is, stick to what's important in your list. S/he does exist out there :)
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    Hmmm...

    Someone who will not try to be my father and will allow me to do the things that I enjoy.
    Someone who puts passion into ounce of life.
    Someone who has his own hobbies and doesn't feel the need to suffocate.
    Someone who is daring and not afraid to take chances.
    Someone who will stay up and talk to me all night, and actually listen to what I have to say.
    Someone who doesn't take advantage of me and my love of making the people around me happy.
    Someone who doesn't think I would be perfect if I just lost weight and got a tummy tuck, boob lift, and implants.
    Someone who thinks I am beautiful and makes me feel like I am special and the most important thing in the world..

    Most important
    Must love my kids!

    I was thinking finding someone who could pay for a tummy tuck, boobs etc
    LOL...j/k people!
    sort of
  • kehowe83
    kehowe83 Posts: 79 Member
    this is funny, My husband actually gave me a 25 questionairre for me to answer before he would consider seriously dating me...
  • Egger29
    Egger29 Posts: 14,741 Member
    Haha i have a LONG list and a HUGE test.

    He has to LOVE kids and want like a million...since i do.
    He has to LOVE animals since they are my passion.
    He HAS to be a Christian with relatively the same views on God as me.
    It would be NICE if he could cook since...haha i dont:)...at the moment.
    He has to be funny....sorry boring guys..no way.
    He was to be determined and know what he wants.
    He has to be....i like Karley's answer....mature in the sense that he is a man...not some young guy who acts like a child.
    He has to have patience and be willing to deal with my hyperness.

    I will end with that...too many to list:)

    Sigh! All the perfect women (or women whose list matches mine) are to young for me. lol :-)

    NO such thing as "Too Young" my friend....just pretend you're a Rock Star. It's worked well for most of the Rolling Stones. :-)
  • zydratethief
    zydratethief Posts: 171
    Well for starters, being born in the same decade as me...

    Apart from that ill take anythin with a pulse....
  • TK266
    TK266 Posts: 3,638 Member
    I would just dust off the resume of my most recent partner. I have the tendency to have a rigorous screen process. to whit:

    1) Smarter then me (not a hard on to get)
    2) At least close to my sense of humor (much harder to find)
    3) Likes me (now there is the usual deal breaker)
    4) Wants me, but does not need me
    5) standard job, hygiene, healthy life attitude (all things I believe I have)


    Is it any wonder that it take me a while to find a partner. :laugh:
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    I had a huge list as well:

    Has to love kids
    Has to be a single dad and have custody of his kids
    Has to be Israeli/American
    Has to have a career he loves
    Has to be close to his family
    Has to make me laugh
    Has to love me just the way I am
    Has to be honest and kind (not funny in a cruel way the way my ex hubby was)
    Has to be generous

    and the list goes on and on.... I knew that if my list was long enough, no one would ever make the cut but I never wanted to settle as I always felt I had with my exes. Until I met my boyfriend and he was everything I ever listed and more.

    So my point is, stick to what's important in your list. S/he does exist out there :)

    Has to have partial custody or full? Because the Mother generally always has primary custody unless she does something seriously wrong..
  • catcrazy
    catcrazy Posts: 1,740 Member
    Hmm..., I'm not looking, one reason being my list is tooooo long, top of my list is....

    Must like kids, I have 4
    Must be an animal lover, especially cats, I have 5
    Must be able to put up with my ways
    Must be funny but know when to be serious
    Must be taller than me and not feel threatened if I'm taller than him in heels because i'm always in heels
    and so on

    I'm not looking for these reasons too...
    I've been single too long
    I like my bed to myself
    I can dish up dinner when I bloomin well please
    if the housework isn't done one day I'm not going to have a sulky moody piece of crap to put up with
    If the veggies are slightly over cooked I don't have to scrape dinner out of the carpet or off the walls
    and so on
  • ♥jewel♥
    ♥jewel♥ Posts: 839
    1) Smarter then me (not a hard on to get)


    Really TK - I hope you mean not a hard ONE to get!

    Buahahahahahahaha!
  • pammiegirl1117
    pammiegirl1117 Posts: 69 Member
    He would have to love my soul, cherish my mind and consume my body with his. Appreciate my free spirit, embrace my love for life, adore my children and above all….respect me.

    I love hard and will never break it…..until you do.
  • pinstripepirate
    pinstripepirate Posts: 605 Member
    Smart, passionate, hilarious and must worship the ground I walk on.

    Yes, yes, yes, and YES. :)
    Integrity. Honesty. Fidelity. You'd think that would be a given, wouldn't you?

    Second this, too.

    I'm going to throw in there that he has to be drug-free.
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    I am married. If this marriage should end (hope not), I will NOT marry again. Marriage is TOO much work!

    I agree ...I don't think I would remarry......not sure about having a serious relationship after
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    My next ex should be able to keep up with my pace on life, with the confidence to match.
  • amydanell
    amydanell Posts: 25
    Umm
    What I would love is for someone who SHOWS me they love me(and I'm not talking in a "presents sort of way) I want someone who when they KNOW i am having a bad day will comfort me and let me cry on their shoulder words will only go so far.
    I want someone who is able to deal with my quirky slightly weird sense of humor :p
    I want someone who will cuddle with me
    who loves the outdoors and wants to travel
    Someone who can think for themselves
    Who will support me in whatever I choose to do and vice versa
    Who is not a JEALOUS MANIPULATIVE NIMCOMPOOP!!
    Who doesn't feel the need to play games and try and be emotionally or physically. Abusive I've had enough of that to last a lifetime
    Who I will trust a 110% and can understand all th BS I have been through
    And someone who will make me laugh :-)
    I think that's all for now


    I agree with this 100%....
    I must add that they must love children since I have three.
    Also, they must be a Christian. I love God and I want to share that with my someone special.
    I want to be enough for them.
  • Myslissa
    Myslissa Posts: 760 Member
    He would have to love my soul, cherish my mind and consume my body with his. Appreciate my free spirit, embrace my love for life, adore my children and above all….respect me.

    I love hard and will never break it…..until you do.

    Awesome Answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • bbb84
    bbb84 Posts: 418 Member
    Must have a job and be able to keep it for longer than a month. Must be faithful and honest, if you're not happy just say so.... don't lie and cheat. Must want kids or have them already. Must be able to give and receive love. Must be capable of having fun. Finally must be able to bait your own hook and rig your gear, I'm a southern girl who loves to fish and I will not baby you on the boat.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Why would you ever do it a second time??????
  • chevysarah
    chevysarah Posts: 188
    .....At least six years experience as a sex slave baaahhhaa!!

    My thoughts exactly!
  • JEK717
    JEK717 Posts: 1,497
    Well for starters, being born in the same decade as me...

    Apart from that ill take anythin with a pulse....

    Haha!
  • dave4d
    dave4d Posts: 1,155 Member
    A soul mate... someone who I connect with on a deep level, who knows what I'm feeling and thinking at the moment I'm going through it, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, respect, open minded.... someone with the same love of humanity as I have. Someone to laugh with, to cry with.... to hold my hand when I'm sick, to steer me straight when I've driven off course..... someone who thinks I'm worth it, who gives to others before taking for themselves, who is both strong and weak... who can lead and follow............

    and mostly some to love me as deeply as I know I can love.

    *please send CV*

    That's what my girlfriend is like. It is Awesome!!!!

    I never thought I would find someone like that, but I did. I am the luckiest man in the world.
  • Aesop101
    Aesop101 Posts: 758 Member
    What's up with this job requirement stuff! hehe
  • TK266
    TK266 Posts: 3,638 Member
    1) Smarter then me (not a hard on to get)


    Really TK - I hope you mean not a hard ONE to get!

    Buahahahahahahaha!

    :blushing:

    Dang my spastic typing!!!! :laugh:
  • RockinHorseRanch
    RockinHorseRanch Posts: 83
    If I did get serious about getting hitched again my new man would have to be a complete opposite of my ex. Not a momma's boy that couldn't tie his own shoe laces without Momma's approval. And no boring cry baby that was constantly complaining about how somebody didn't treat him right because he was too short, too old, or some other self pitying excuse. I have actually seen my ex take notes as to how his coworkers were beating him out of a promotion and whine like a pig . My new man would have to be his own man & stand on his own two feet. My son is grown and married so children would not be an issue, being a horseman would be a big plus!
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