Sometimes I really hate being a woman...

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  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    Ladies, many of you know how it is. My PMS cravings are usually bad, but some months they are in complete overdrive. This is one of them. I feel like I could dive into a 100 pound bag of Cheetos and eat my way to the bottom, lol. Anyway, just venting...:).

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.
  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    Ladies, many of you know how it is. My PMS cravings are usually bad, but some months they are in complete overdrive. This is one of them. I feel like I could dive into a 100 pound bag of Cheetos and eat my way to the bottom, lol. Anyway, just venting...:).

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    Then ignore my post. Simple. :D

  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    edited March 2015
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    I got somewhat like that two weeks ago too!! Even my boyfriend was wondering: "Aren't you dieting?" Especially since I was all like

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    I didn't care... screw it if it messed up my deficit... LOL!! You either want a happy chick or an angry B1+ch. :laugh:
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Last time PMS hit hard, I ate 4500 calories that day... it was last week. For me it's the ravenous 'I need to eat now or I'm going to pass out' hunger that kills me.

    I got somewhat like that two weeks ago too!! Even my boyfriend was wondering: "Aren't you dieting?" Especially since I was all like

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    I didn't care... screw it if it messed up my deficit... LOL!! You either want a happy chick or an angry B1+ch. :laugh:


    This is me tonight, lol. I ended up ordering pizza. I think the crazed look I was giving the pizza guy while it took him forever to run my debit card scared him. :smiley: He now knows the look of a woman on the edge.

    LMAO. I just choked on my water!!! :laugh:

    lol...Seriously, I have no idea what my face looked like when I was waiting, but he must have sensed my urgency. He kept glancing up at me like he was going to say "lady are you okay", haha.

  • 2snakeswoman
    2snakeswoman Posts: 655 Member
    Sorry to say - menopause x 12+ years and uncontrollable cravings still hit me. The only difference is that it doesn't come in a cycle, so I'm seldom prepared.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Sorry to say - menopause x 12+ years and uncontrollable cravings still hit me. The only difference is that it doesn't come in a cycle, so I'm seldom prepared.

    Oh joy, something else to look forward to :open_mouth::cold_sweat:
  • VintageMisery514
    VintageMisery514 Posts: 533 Member
    It took 18 months after my daughter was born for shark week to come back, and let me tell you -- those 18 months were GLORIOUS. No uncontrollable sugar and chocolate cravings! Then, when it started back up again, it was like it had to make up for all 18 of those months (plus the 41.5 weeks I was pregnant) and I could have eaten ALL THE SALTY THINGS. Still is happening every month too. Kills me.
  • KrisAZ000
    KrisAZ000 Posts: 76 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    KrisAZ000 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?

    :+1::smiley:
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    I got somewhat like that two weeks ago too!! Even my boyfriend was wondering: "Aren't you dieting?" Especially since I was all like

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    I didn't care... screw it if it messed up my deficit... LOL!! You either want a happy chick or an angry B1+ch. :laugh:
    HEY, what about me???!
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    It took 18 months after my daughter was born for shark week to come back, and let me tell you -- those 18 months were GLORIOUS. No uncontrollable sugar and chocolate cravings! Then, when it started back up again, it was like it had to make up for all 18 of those months (plus the 41.5 weeks I was pregnant) and I could have eaten ALL THE SALTY THINGS. Still is happening every month too. Kills me.

    The delay for 13 months of PMS post baby made breastfeeding all worth it. Although after the break mine weren't as bad. I had terrible cramps and heavy periods before now they are mild.
  • tephanies1234
    tephanies1234 Posts: 299 Member
    I use the ring and don't get periods much. Been doing it for a few years. Still alive. No blood clots and no PMS cravings. My periods were really bad. Felt like I got hit with the flu for 5 days. I don't miss them and don't care.
  • CatLover22974
    CatLover22974 Posts: 16 Member
    Yip. I sometimes hate that part of being a woman too. Sometimes when the cravings hit for things that aren't so good for me, no matter what I try, or how many ways I try to satiate the cravings with healthier alternatives, it's like my body and mind keep screaming at me "what the hell do you think you're doing?! I told you I wanted THIS, so give it to me RIGHT NOW, DAMMIT!!!!!".
  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    KrisAZ000 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?

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  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    edited March 2015
    KrisAZ000 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?

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  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    edited March 2015
    Weirdly, this cycle I had no "additional" cravings at all. This may be the first cycle (I can't say "month" any more because I've become very irregular) in two years or more where I didn't overeat even once. I think I'm just really committed this time and I feel I've somewhat been using PMS as an excuse.

    But...is it an overall pleasant experience? Not so much. I have NEVER enjoyed this. ;) Blargh. I informed God that I no longer require the services of my ovaries as my reproductive term of service is officially over. I even attempted to press the point home by having a tubal ligation. No dice. Still choosing between a diaper and a dry rod every few weeks. Come on, menopause!

    Since God has submitted his refusal to cease services effective immediately, I'll be sending Mother Nature a text next. Wish me luck.
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    I get the Cheetos thing - that is why I love that the grocery store sells the individual mini-bags. I usually keep one or two (usually 2 since they are 2 for $1) of Cheetos or Doritos (or one of each) around the house so that if I really want them I have them but don't have a giant bag of them. They are only about 150 calories for a bag, so not to hard to fit in (I usually have a snack at night that is something more indulgent, like a mini cupcake or ice cream, so I just sub in the Cheetos) and that way there isn't a huge bag around the house. I just have to make sure the shopping happens when I don't want them, so that I don't buy like 15 bags. So that is always an option you can try.

    Yes, my daughter was eating them in front of me yesterday. I should have just gotten a small bag for myself but didn't think of it until she started eating hers. I was almost like...

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    OMG so funny.

  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    betsysjl wrote: »
    suruda wrote: »
    You can avoid PMS by getting pregnant! No period for almost a whole year lolol

    That's my nightmare...can you imagine having a baby at 51? yikes!

    The problem with that is, you make up for the 9 months of not having a period by bleeding for 4-6 weeks straight. One of the many things they don't tell you about being pregnant.

    In addition, there's the 18-year, $250K clause.

  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    KrisAZ000 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?

    Oh yes. Mfp. I forgot you can only comment if you agree with the OP.

    Seriously. How do you know it isn't bad for me? It used to be living hell. iy sometimes still is. Especially when I have a job that I don't always get the liberty of knowing the next time I get to use the bathroom. During that time of the month? Yeah- it sucks. Carrying someone down 6 flights of stairs when my abdomen feels like it is recreating a war zone? Not fun at all. Not to mention I had to stop BC pills (and all BC medication) for a bit and had periods that could literally be compared to Niagra falls(thankfully back on it).

    All that said, I still find it absolutely ridiculous to state that you hate being a woman because of that. It is overly dramatic and not needed. I am sorry if that hurts your precious feelings, but it's the truth. I'm not exactly known for being nice.
  • cosmo_momo
    cosmo_momo Posts: 173 Member
    I was on depo for 5 years and now I'm on my 5th month with Mirena. No periods for me in that entire time B)
  • GPHX_GEEK
    GPHX_GEEK Posts: 32 Member
    edited March 2015
    I think it's safe to say, most of us share your pain. Not having that cake or cookies that you are just dying for doesn't even help when you go into craving overdrive; at least not for me. One time I was craving chips so badly (didn't have any) and I held off for as long as I could, but my brain just couldn't focus on anything else...I ended up eating a whole bag of croutons :'( ...yeah...it didn't make me feel better.

    Lately though, I've been getting better at learning how to distract myself. First, I'll get as far away from the kitchen as possible will a full bottle of water. Sometimes, when my cravings are too much, that's the time I'll work out instead, or if I already worked out I'll do a relaxing stretching routine like this one. Tea also works for me (usually a chamomille, herbal blend) because I have to drink it slowly. And whatever you do, don't watch the Food Network :) .
  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    edited March 2015
    elphie754 wrote: »
    KrisAZ000 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »

    To be honest, I haven't read through the responses since I'm at work.

    I have to say though, I absolutely HATE this mentality. Sure pms can be bad and we joke/complain about it constantly, but to say you hate being a woman because of it? Ridiculously over dramatic and not needed at all.

    She specifically said sometimes she hates being a woman. Not always. Maybe your periods aren't that bad, but no need to get all judgy on women who just want to commiserate with other women who understand what they're going through. You can nonchalantly say that sure PMS can be bad, but how do you know exactly how bad it is for every woman? For me, it's really bad. I get horrible migraines and cramps that make it hard to function, frequently leave me in tears and unable to sleep, and negatively impact the quality of my life for multiple days every month, sometimes causing me to miss work or other important engagements. So if in the moment, I say I hate being a woman, the last thing I'd need is some judgy comment from a woman who thinks I'm being "ridiculous." Seems to me that it's your comment that wasn't needed. Why even respond to OP's thread if you found it so unneeded?

    Oh yes. Mfp. I forgot you can only comment if you agree with the OP.

    Seriously. How do you know it isn't bad for me? It used to be living hell. iy sometimes still is. Especially when I have a job that I don't always get the liberty of knowing the next time I get to use the bathroom. During that time of the month? Yeah- it sucks. Carrying someone down 6 flights of stairs when my abdomen feels like it is recreating a war zone? Not fun at all. Not to mention I had to stop BC pills (and all BC medication) for a bit and had periods that could literally be compared to Niagra falls(thankfully back on it).

    All that said, I still find it absolutely ridiculous to state that you hate being a woman because of that. It is overly dramatic and not needed. I am sorry if that hurts your precious feelings, but it's the truth. I'm not exactly known for being nice.

    Hey, it's fine if you disagree. I have no problem with that. I'll be the first to admit that I've learned a lot on this site by people disagreeing with me and challenging what I have to say. It's the personal attacks that aren't really necessary. Anyway, moving on...:) I'm not really here to argue.

  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    edited March 2015
    GPHX_GEEK wrote: »
    I think it's safe to say, most of us share your pain. Not having that cake or cookies that you are just dying for doesn't even help when you go into craving overdrive; at least not for me. One time I was craving chips so badly (didn't have any) and I held off for as long as I could, but my brain just couldn't focus on anything else...I ended up eating a whole bag of croutons :'( ...yeah...it didn't make me feel better.

    Lately though, I've been getting better at learning how to distract myself. First, I'll get as far away from the kitchen as possible will a full bottle of water. Sometimes, when my cravings are too much, that's the time I'll work out instead, or if I already worked out I'll do a relaxing stretching routine like this one. Tea also works for me (usually a chamomille, herbal blend) because I have to drink it slowly. And whatever you do, don't watch the Food Network :) .

    Sounds like me. I do fight against it every month or at least find ways to manage it, but those cravings can be so strong they're distracting. And the hunger. It is literally stomach growling hunger and makes it hard to focus on anything else. Sometimes I get so hungry that I literally feel ill. I checked in to why this happens a while back, and found out it's because we as women are burning extra calories during that time since our bodies are working harder to prepare for our cycle, and worse yet, our hormones make us crave specific foods. I personally find this to be true, as my cravings are very specific during this time. The problem is we only burn approximately 100 to 300 extra calories per day, so that doesn't allow for a lot of extra wiggle room, lol. It depends on the woman. I'm not sure how true all that is, but that's what I read. Here's the link if you're interested. http://www.thewellpath.com/news/why-do-i-get-so-hungry-before-and-during-my-period/

    I've gotten better myself too at not going over my calories. Usually, I can manage it even though it's not easy. But some months, like this one, are brutal. Ugh. Thanks for the stretching routine. I may give that a try. :) Plus, the weather is gorgeous here this weekend, so I can finally go outside and do some activity. We've gone from bitter cold to 60 degree weather. This next week it will be near 70. Yay.
  • Dragn77
    Dragn77 Posts: 810 Member
    edited March 2015
    AWE!!! I love being a woman, esp considering the alternative! SOOOO glad I wasnt born a guy LoL! But then again, I don't get PMS... I do understand in a way though, because my daughter does, and she is *so* miserable! She goes between *eat all the food!* and *I cant even function more less eat!*

    She just takes Pamprin curls up and out of frustration, has been known to go "Damn you Eve!!! You just *had* to eat the apple!*... That does crack me up...LoL esp since we aren't even religious, but every month I feel so bad for her!!!

    That Ellen gif is gold though!!!
  • Arliah
    Arliah Posts: 266 Member
    edited March 2015
    My TOM and my monthly weight loss summary fall RIGHT on the same weekend. Very annoying. I usually gain 2lbs around that time. Not helping ... -.- I think I need to shift either the cycle or the weight loss summary weekend *lol*
    Yesterday I swapped my planned dinner (salmon, spinach) for pizza. Well, it was made from scratch, including the dough, and I didn't go over my calories, but still, way more carbs than I wanted to eat.

    But, as Christina Perri sings:

    I'm only human
    And I bleed when I fall down
    I'm only human
    And I crash and I break down (and then eat a bag of M&Ms) :blush:
  • LAWoman72
    LAWoman72 Posts: 2,846 Member
    edited March 2015
    I have never actually understood why we bleed as part of our fertility cycle.

    Yes, I get it, the uterine lining has been built up and must shed, blah blah, but if so, then other mammals' uterine linings must "need" to shed if no pregnancy occurs, correct? I mean a uterus is a uterus is a uterus. Yet I've never owned a cat, dog, hamster, etc. that wandered around bleeding steadily for days on end in any sort of cyclical fashion (or at all). As I understand things, some mammals ovulate at only certain times of year, others are stimulated to ovulate in the presence of males and so on, but even given that, surely a percentage of the time, that ovulation must result in no pregnancy so why no blood for them? Or if there's any at all it must surely be minimal as compared to humans, or any owner of a mature female mammal would be seeing it. I never have, personally, in 47 years of owning pets, including females.

    If the uterine lining is reabsorbed or whatever for them, then why can't it be the same for us? Or if a shed for them is not actually necessary, why is it necessary for us?

    We humans really drew the short straw here.

    I wonder whether any of the other Great Apes menstruate and if not, how far back in evolution menstruation began for Homo Sapiens. I mean I can't imagine an Australopithecine female wandering around trailing blood everywhere...wouldn't that make her quite conspicuous to predators?

    Things that make ya go hmm.
  • katalinax87
    katalinax87 Posts: 146 Member
    I have known dogs to menstruate if they are not spayed and I think most mammals do but most domestic pets are neutered so if female have had all of their reproductive organs removed so they do not have a uterus to line anyway.
    LAWoman72 wrote: »
    I have never actually understood why we bleed as part of our fertility cycle.

    Yes, I get it, the uterine lining has been built up and must shed, blah blah, but if so, then other mammals' uterine linings must "need" to shed if no pregnancy occurs, correct? I mean a uterus is a uterus is a uterus. Yet I've never owned a cat, dog, hamster, etc. that wandered around bleeding steadily for days on end in any sort of cyclical fashion (or at all). As I understand things, some mammals ovulate at only certain times of year, others are stimulated to ovulate in the presence of males and so on, but even given that, surely a percentage of the time, that ovulation must result in no pregnancy so why no blood for them? Or if there's any at all it must surely be minimal as compared to humans, or any owner of a mature female mammal would be seeing it. I never have, personally, in 47 years of owning pets, including females.

    If the uterine lining is reabsorbed or whatever for them, then why can't it be the same for us? Or if a shed for them is not actually necessary, why is it necessary for us?

    We humans really drew the short straw here.

    I wonder whether any of the other Great Apes menstruate and if not, how far back in evolution menstruation began for Homo Sapiens. I mean I can't imagine an Australopithecine female wandering around trailing blood everywhere...wouldn't that make her quite conspicuous to predators?

    Things that make ya go hmm.
  • palwithme
    palwithme Posts: 860 Member
    edited March 2015
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    palwithme wrote: »
    I gave into my PMS cravings last Sunday and ate ALL my calories in cheese. I don't think I will have a craving for cheese for 6 months.

    LOL...this is one of the first posts I saw when I opened this up today. Made me laugh. I ended up eating a big salad for supper with lots of protein and went to bed. I somehow managed to stay within my calories just barely...hopefully I'll have the same luck today. Although a bundlet from Nothing Bundt Cakes is calling my name. I may just go out and get one. Hey, they are only 400ish calories per cake. :neutral_face: ...But worth every damn calorie.

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    I am glad I gave some people a laugh. Sad to say, I still have some cheese left and I am eating it today. So, my attempt to banish my craving for cheese by gorging on it failed.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    palwithme wrote: »
    jnv7594 wrote: »
    palwithme wrote: »
    I gave into my PMS cravings last Sunday and ate ALL my calories in cheese. I don't think I will have a craving for cheese for 6 months.

    LOL...this is one of the first posts I saw when I opened this up today. Made me laugh. I ended up eating a big salad for supper with lots of protein and went to bed. I somehow managed to stay within my calories just barely...hopefully I'll have the same luck today. Although a bundlet from Nothing Bundt Cakes is calling my name. I may just go out and get one. Hey, they are only 400ish calories per cake. :neutral_face: ...But worth every damn calorie.

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    I am glad I gave some people a laugh. Sad to say, I still have some cheese left and I am eating it today. So, my attempt to banish my craving for cheese by gorging on it failed.

    No no no!! Do what I do and get rid of it straight away in one sitting :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye::smiley:
  • palwithme
    palwithme Posts: 860 Member
    Ha! I cut it, weighed it, entered it into MFP, and when I reached my calories I stopped. That is "moderation," right? Or, am I wrong? Ha Ha.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Also, we *I* have no one to blame but myself. I have recently discovered hersheys peanut butter cups... They were on special yesterday, so I bought TEN of them :grumble: Long story short, I went over a tad on my calories yesterday.... If they weren't in the house, I couldn't have eaten them :angry:
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