Why do my coworkers make fun of me for eating "healthy"?

sugamonstaa
sugamonstaa Posts: 88 Member
edited November 14 in Fitness and Exercise
I started a job about 4 months ago surrounded by numerous restaurants and fast food chains. I can walk next door or go for a minute drive. Since I started this job, I noticed my coworkers impulsive behaviors.

They go on constant food runs and routinely have a happy hour milk shake pick me up for 1/2 off at steak and shake across the street. I notice I've been giving in every food run so lately I've been saying no a lot more.

They make fun of me for turning food down and say I am not even fat BC I am thin when it's not about that. I feel like crap when I put crap in my body.

I don't even eat "clean" I just eat a bit healthier than the average American I would say but I just try in moderation with sweets and junk. I try to avoid having a lot of it...They make fun of me but imo they're impulsive and weak with several other addictions other than food lol one coworker is pregnant and smokes. She was a heavy smoker but now smokes 1-3 cigs a day and think it's ok.
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  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    When people are trying to justify their poor behavior, they want the whole group to comply with the “standard.” So, set your own standard and let the group have theirs. Eventually, they’ll stop asking you because it reminds them of their failings.
  • nyhcsiss
    nyhcsiss Posts: 25 Member
    Haters
    Pay them no mind
    They hate us cause they ain't us lol :)
  • M3Kindschi
    M3Kindschi Posts: 72 Member
    I hear you...one of my co-workers calls me anorexic! I even eat MORE then she does!
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    Stay strong, they'll eventually stop. It's unfortunate that the average american mentality is such to make fun of people that eat "healthy".
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    edited March 2015
    I don't know why.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    I don't know why.
    Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.

  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    Ask them to get you a coffee. And offer to go "on the run" for them sometime, and get yourself a coffee or a tea or a soda or a diet coke. Maybe that might help....
  • jenncornelsen
    jenncornelsen Posts: 969 Member
    people have a hard time having they're bad habits 'shown' to them. by refusing to go they realize they own shortfalls, but it's easier to make it seem like your the one with the problem. unfortunatly if this is a daily thing...u will probably no longer be part of the 'gang'. good for u for staying strong.
  • TomZot
    TomZot Posts: 165 Member
    This.
    When people are trying to justify their poor behavior, they want the whole group to comply with the “standard.” So, set your own standard and let the group have theirs. Eventually, they’ll stop asking you because it reminds them of their failings.

  • SassyMoonbeams
    SassyMoonbeams Posts: 229 Member
    When people are trying to justify their poor behavior, they want the whole group to comply with the “standard.” So, set your own standard and let the group have theirs. Eventually, they’ll stop asking you because it reminds them of their failings.

    This. Absolutely this. It makes them feel better about eating junk and not taking care of themselves to put you down. This is the attitude I had before overhauling my health.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    " I'm sorry I don't recall asking you for an opinion on my food consumption"

    "Thanks mom- I appreciate your' concern- but I've got the situation under control"

    "where did you get your MD/Nutrionialist/dietitican certification?"

    "how's your dead lift these days?"
    Oh that's right- I forgot you don't.

    points to right quad- points to left quad
    That's hercules- and that's Xena.
    They tell me what I get to eat.
    Quads of doom are never wrong.


    And if they really REALLY REALLY are annoying you- just tell them " if I want to look like you- I'll eat like you"

    and let it go- move on.
  • Robbnva
    Robbnva Posts: 590 Member
    IMO they are jealous of your success and are trying to sabotage you. I get that all the time, this one girl who is.overweight is always giving me a hard time about my healthy choices and not eating stuff people bring in. That's the only thing I can think of.
  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.
  • jenglish712
    jenglish712 Posts: 497 Member
    edited March 2015
    People attempt to maintain status quo. It's the same with drinking, smoking etc. Kind of like crab bucket syndrome.
  • FemaleWarriorxo
    FemaleWarriorxo Posts: 222 Member
    JoRocka wrote: »
    " I'm sorry I don't recall asking you for an opinion on my food consumption"

    "Thanks mom- I appreciate your' concern- but I've got the situation under control"

    "where did you get your MD/Nutrionialist/dietitican certification?"

    "how's your dead lift these days?"
    Oh that's right- I forgot you don't.

    points to right quad- points to left quad
    That's hercules- and that's Xena.
    They tell me what I get to eat.
    Quads of doom are never wrong.


    And if they really REALLY REALLY are annoying you- just tell them " if I want to look like you- I'll eat like you"

    and let it go- move on.

    This xD

    Just ignore your coworkers.
  • sugamonstaa
    sugamonstaa Posts: 88 Member
    Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.

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    How was I judgong them? I joined but then de iced for my own good I didn't want to and then got made fun of each time I say no. Sometimes they even buy r anyways because they think it's funny to tempt me
  • sugamonstaa
    sugamonstaa Posts: 88 Member
    tomatoey wrote: »
    Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.

    lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    dude, time to get a new place of work.
  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    tomatoey wrote: »
    Because you're challenging their comfort, you're making them self-conscious about their choices (which they understand are choices only by looking at yours). Smile through it, they'll get bored with it after a while. Even with the defensive motivation, chickpeas are only funny for so long.

    lol funny you mention it. They said I was trying to make them feel bad but I joked and said, "sure that's not your guilt?" I get along with them great but im just annoyed with the put down lol other than that we all cool.

    If that went down ok (which, really?? but ok), keep it light like that, it'll work :)
  • sgthaggard
    sgthaggard Posts: 581 Member
    I started a job about 4 months ago surrounded by numerous restaurants and fast food chains. I can walk next door or go for a minute drive. Since I started this job, I noticed my coworkers impulsive behaviors.

    They go on constant food runs and routinely have a happy hour milk shake pick me up for 1/2 off at steak and shake across the street. I notice I've been giving in every food run so lately I've been saying no a lot more.

    They make fun of me for turning food down and say I am not even fat BC I am thin when it's not about that. I feel like crap when I put crap in my body.

    I don't even eat "clean" I just eat a bit healthier than the average American I would say but I just try in moderation with sweets and junk. I try to avoid having a lot of it...They make fun of me but imo they're impulsive and weak with several other addictions other than food lol one coworker is pregnant and smokes. She was a heavy smoker but now smokes 1-3 cigs a day and think it's ok.
    My guess is that they are feeling secretly judged. Given your post, it looks like those feelings are largely justified.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    edited March 2015
    Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.


    How was I judgong them? I joined but then de iced for my own good I didn't want to and then got made fun of each time I say no. Sometimes they even buy r anyways because they think it's funny to tempt me


    "they are impulsive and weak" certainly doesn't sound like judgement to me and anyone that thinks it does is just a jealous hater.
  • tinamatteson
    tinamatteson Posts: 125 Member
    One of the greatest helps in our efforts to get (and stay) fit is surrounding ourselves with like-minded people. But it's not always possible! I live in Texas... where chips, queso dip and deep-fried-everything are served at most gatherings... and the majority of my friends do not care one bit what they eat or weigh. I love them but it would sure be nice to be encouraged rather than constantly tempted or made fun of. A lot of the time they don't even realize they are doing it. When I pull out a bag of baby carrots or sugar snap peas (which I usually carry in my purse) they say things like "Really? Carrots?" and honestly I know they just can't imagine bringing THAT as a snack, when cookies and sodas are the norm for them. I just try to be good-natured about it and continue to do my thing.
  • laceyjjj
    laceyjjj Posts: 53 Member
    One thing I say that seems to work is - How come you're so interested in what I eat? It makes them feel a little silly. Or I just smile and say no thank you. No excuse needed.
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Lift your shirt and say "Because I like my abs"!
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    DavPul wrote: »
    Maybe if you'd stop judging others, they'll stop judging you.


    How was I judgong them? I joined but then de iced for my own good I didn't want to and then got made fun of each time I say no. Sometimes they even buy r anyways because they think it's funny to tempt me


    "they are impulsive and weak" certainly doesn't sound like judgement to me and anyone that thinks it does is just a jealous hater.

    However many are impulsive and weak.
    Fit to be trampled by those of us who choose to lead them to providence. Wait, sorry, I've been reading too much foreign policy lately.
  • melimomTARDIS
    melimomTARDIS Posts: 1,941 Member
    impulsive and weak is a bit harsh. They just have different goals and priorities. My best friend (who I have dinner with, OFTEN) is over 300lbs. She makes fun of me sometimes (gotta log that fry? lol) but its good natured. She has no interest in losing weight, so I dont talk about my food stuff/having lost weight/etc with her. We talk about other things.

    And fat people eat some amazing food. If you dont care about losing/gaining then you are free to pursue deliciousness to the fullest.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    skinny people eat some amazing food too. Funny thing to realize.

    Something I HAVE noticed in my years cooking, is that skinny people usually make the best and most innovative food.
  • nyhcsiss wrote: »
    Haters
    Pay them no mind
    They hate us cause they ain't us lol :)
    In the college, all of my friends call me "Scale Boy" cuz I always stuff a scale and a couple protein powder containers in my backpack. But what did I do? I smiled at them and accept the friendly nickname. That's just the way it is:)
  • FitFroglet
    FitFroglet Posts: 219 Member
    I got this for a little while when I changed my eating habits 'Ooh drinking water now?', 'soup for lunch, on a health kick?' I think it was mostly curiosity.

    They'd maybe offer me sweets/candy the same amount as anyone else but there'd be an added 'are you sure?' if/when I refused.

    It settled down again after a couple of months.

    (I still buy sweets for the team every now and then and still treat myself every now and then too.)

    My advice would be to continue to focus on what makes you feel good, let them do what suits them.
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