Help! Decided to go vegetarian but my husband hates veggies!

Hornsby wrote: »

Just curious what your reasoning is to become vegetarian? I'm guessing it's ethical. Do you have a problem with him eating meat on a moral basis?

^This. If your issue is morality, then this isn't the forum for an answer to your question. If it isn't a moral issue, then have him make his own food. There is no reason he needs to follow your dietary choices.

Just because you decided to dramatically change your diet doesn't mean he has to. It's pretty unfair to expect him to jump onto the wagon and change with you. Time for a talk about how you two will work it out. It may mean that he cooks some of his own food, but you should both learn to be supportive of the other despite your new dietary differences (meaning it shouldn't add that much effort for you to cook up some meat for him while you are making dinner). I cook up two meals at my house sometimes (chicken for the kids and fish for me) with the side dishes being the same for everyone.

"Women enter into relationships thinking men can change and men enter into relationships thinking women will never change."

usmcmp wrote: »

Just because you decided to dramatically change your diet doesn't mean he has to. It's pretty unfair to expect him to jump onto the wagon and change with you. Time for a talk about how you two will work it out. It may mean that he cooks some of his own food, but you should both learn to be supportive of the other despite your new dietary differences (meaning it shouldn't add that much effort for you to cook up some meat for him while you are making dinner). I cook up two meals at my house sometimes (chicken for the kids and fish for me) with the side dishes being the same for everyone.

"Women enter into relationships thinking men can change and men enter into relationships thinking women will never change."

^^^ This !

To some of the other comments: I'm sorry I don't agree with the whole well he can cook his own meals. If I cook every night and my husband doesn't and I decide to do a drastic diet change, why should I expect him to want the same? Why should it be well this is what I'm going to do or cook yourself? That's unreasonable in my opinion. It would be different if he never liked anything I cooked or complained constantly but to make such a change for a person who does like meat is unrealistic to me.

usmcmp wrote: »

Just because you decided to dramatically change your diet doesn't mean he has to. It's pretty unfair to expect him to jump onto the wagon and change with you. Time for a talk about how you two will work it out. It may mean that he cooks some of his own food, but you should both learn to be supportive of the other despite your new dietary differences (meaning it shouldn't add that much effort for you to cook up some meat for him while you are making dinner). I cook up two meals at my house sometimes (chicken for the kids and fish for me) with the side dishes being the same for everyone.

"Women enter into relationships thinking men can change and men enter into relationships thinking women will never change."

It's also pretty unfair to make a life-altering decision for both of you and then say, "oh well, eat what I make or learn to cook your own meals." Heck, it was YOUR decision. YOU made the decision to change, so the onus for making additional meals falls on YOU, not on him. FTR, eating vegetarian is no healthier for you than eating an omnivorous diet and it helps not one. single. animal.

How about not forcing him to be a vegetarian? Like many said, it's not any healthier.
It sounds like you're the main cook in the house, it's pretty screwed up to stop preparing meals for the both of you just because you hopped on the veggie wagon.

jenniferhorn87 wrote: »

So I've recently made the decision to go vegetarian. It is something that I've been wanting to do for a while and finally made the move. My problem is that my husband hates most vegetables, especially cooked ones. This makes dinner at home pretty difficult. He does like some things: broccoli, carrots, green beans, asparagus, corn, and potatoes - but that's about it. He doesn't like tofu, any type of beans (except green beans), and most nuts. I'm looking for suggestions for vegetarian meals that he might actually like. Please help! Making separate dinners is fine sometimes, but I have a feeling that it's going to get old pretty quick...

Pasta dishes
Breakfast for dinner- Pancakes, French toast, eggs, oatmeal
Vegetable soups- tomato, broccoli, potato
grilled cheese sandwich or quesadilla... add meat to his if he wants it.
Top your own personal pizza
Salad- each put in what you like
Stuffed baked potatoes, Greek potatoes, potato casseroles
Vegetable stir fry, vegetable egg rolls, rice
Lentils? Not sure if those are included in the no beans.

I'm not vegetarian but I am the only low carber in a household of four. What I do is make a protein, a starch, and a low carb veggie or two. Perhaps you could do the same, but backward. Make the veggie the main dish, like the stir fry mentioned above, add your starch if you want or need it, and make or have him make his meat. I see no reason why you can't have tofu with rice or a potato on the same nights he has steak with the same sides. I've done that myself. Or keep cans of beans on hand for fast protein on busy days. It takes some getting used to, but it gets easier with time. Good luck to you!

What are you eating now? Can you just continue the same and modify your meals to omit or substitute the meat for other items?

besaro wrote: »

FTR, [sic] and it helps not one. single. animal.

lol, the most dumbed down rational to continue to eat animals. doesn't help animals, ha ha.

Why the [sic], since it's an accepted abbreviation for "for the record?" [sic] is used to identify an error that someone else has made, which now appears in a quote.

As to being a "dumbed down" argument . . . well . . . yeah. The "ethical" argument that going vegetarian/vegan helps animals is pretty ridiculous, when you come right down to it. Want to help animals? Make their living conditions better. Ensure quick, safe slaughter that is as painless as possible. For Heaven's sake, raise your own if you're that concerned about the living conditions. However, veganism/vegetarianism is about control over what you eat and what others eat and has nothing to do with making one animal the slightest bit more comfortable.

If the OP wants to eat vegetarian meals, that is fine. She should not expect her husband to follow suit or try to "trick" him into eating vegetarian meals. She should not expect him to cook for himself based on her decision, if she has previously done the cooking for the family. I think the idea of her cooking meals to which meat can be added last is a good idea, though, and having their own halves of a pizza or similar meals is probably fine.

I don't see why he needs to eat vegetables because you are a vegetarian. Assuming you have no moral objection to eating meat, cook the meat, cook the vegetables, cook whatever else is in the meal, and then each person eats what they want. This is what we do all the time at my house. My husband just passes on the veggies, I usually pass on the rice, my daughter passes on whatever she doesn't want. Assuming you aren't an all-casserole family it's not difficult to manage.