A really bad day

Meh. Had my BFF's birthday party a couple weeks ago. Consisted of take out, followed by the opening of a jazz bar another friend owns, which meant booze and apps. Then back to our place for more booze, snacks, and fun. I estimated I ate/drank approx 1800 calories over my goal that day. Sure it slowed my weight loss down that week (by almost exactly half a pound), but it didn't kill me and since then everything has been back on track. Life happens.

Log it and move on. Don't make a habit of it. This month my husband is throwing a big birthday party at our place. I am not even going to try counting that day. It will be the only day in 4 months that I haven't logged. I will probably just skip my weigh in that week and wait until the following week. Long term is the only thing that matters.

Spring break is different in various areas. My kids don't have any spring break. The closest we get to it is the Easter Holiday (today and Monday off) but they took away our Monday "off" because of too many snow days this year.

OP I understand if you're not comfortable leaving your daughter at home alone - my mom never left me alone until I was a teen (much to my chagrin..used to annoy me to no end, lol..I'm not a baby! LOL) but every 10 year old is different. Can you take her with you for a walk? Do you have a partner or neighbor who could stay with her in the early morning or late afternoon so you can go for even a short ride?

Liftng4Lis wrote: »

Log it and move on.

This.

Really no need to pay penance.

Not getting why having a child should be a hindrance to activity - don't they come built in with their own activity? My kids are exercise all by themselves! I don't need to "go anywhere" or join a gym to get active and have my kids right there. The activity doesn't HAVE to be cycling without the child, right? Or going to the gym and scrambling to find daycare?

My kids and I go out front and do soccer drills and throw the baseball around and run all over the place trying to find it again when somebody misses. I go on walks with them. I take them to the park and I swing with them, I spin them on that...spinny-thing (have no idea what it's called), power-walk behind them when they're on their scooters because the scooters go fast. Or sometimes we'll switch off and one will be walk/running, another will be scooter-ing and I'll also be scooter-ing (which is a trip to watch but I've learned not to be embarrassed). We also do DVDs together - yoga and soon to be karate, as they are very interested in karate and are taking a weekly class so I think the tie-in to doing it at home as well would be great.

I don't see why someone would have to go through hoops and pay oodles of money and find babysitting just because that person has a child...? Do stuff WITH your child and trust me, you'll be active! And yes, I did all this with my oldest when I was working full-time. In the winter we had to find more indoor stuff to do just because it was already so dark by 5PM but the rest of the year, we could get out there until 7, 8, whatever the latest "still not dark yet" time was. Pick up the child from daycare, have a quick dinner, and get out there, did this for years.

maidentl wrote: »

gpstreet wrote: »

However the weather cleared up enough to allow us to spend a couple of hours in the park but I am sure it is difficult to work out calories burnt pushing a child on a swing.

One thing I had to learn early on - don't NOT do something because you can't calculate its calories. I get that you want "credit" for the activity but your body appreciates the movement. I'd also like to gently remind you that you're modeling behavior for your daughter. Please stop being a martyr and eat.

So true. You don't have to understand exactly how many calories you have burned to benefit from movement.

gpstreet wrote: »

So far the fast has not been so bad. Have not felt hungry. However I am tucking into a small bowl of vegetable curry soup.

Fasts are not bad if you do them correctly, with a purpose, have already lost most of your weight and have established good eating habits (and no disordered eating). They teach you to recognize hunger and that will you not starve because you don't eat immediately. You will also feel more full in the meals that you eat, so you may be able to feel like going overboard less. I want to lean out a little more so I'm trying the 15hr fast/ 9hr eating, so essentially I skip breakfast. So far it's been working great. It's honestly another means to the same end of calorie deficit, but you see food in a new way and practice some major discipline.

rabbitjb wrote: »

gpstreet wrote: »

Yesterday was a really bad day for me. Somehow I over indulged in hot cross buns, cheese sandwiches and beer. A couple of thousand calories over my limit. I am off work for two weeks so I have no chance to do my usual 20 mile cycle ride. Just wondered if anyone else has had these kind of days ? My thoughts have turned to fasting today to see if it will turn things round.

Explain "somehow"

And why can't you do your bike ride or similar

This in the nano seconds it took me to read it. Its about mindset. I cant see whats to stop you doing 2x as much or going a different route. Stop creating obstacles for yourself and be a winner. Get healthy. Dp some weights whilst you are at it.

A couple of thousand calories is nothing if you are doing 20 mile rides every day. Fast if you want to but uts a bit dramatic for someone who doesnt need it or is capable of burning it off in oher ways. restriction, especially if you dont wish to is dull.

Ahh i see it changed and you now decided to tell us you are with child.
1. Find someone to babysit or take care of the child for an hour i.e cnat they go to a friends?
2. You can exercise in front of the TV doing a workout.
3. You can go and do an activity with your kid, swimming, skating, biking, walking.

ps horrified by people saying leave the child alone. In this country its an offence to leave a ten year old alone and you would be in trouble with social services as well as the police.

rabbitjb wrote: »

999tigger wrote: »

Ahh i see it changed and you now decided to tell us you are with child.
1. Find someone to babysit or take care of the child for an hour i.e cnat they go to a friends?
2. You can exercise in front of the TV doing a workout.
3. You can go and do an activity with your kid, swimming, skating, biking, walking.

ps horrified by people saying leave the child alone. In this country its an offence to leave a ten year old alone and you would be in trouble with social services as well as the police.

Which country is that? I seriously doubt any country has such laws

In the UK, and from your terminology that's where it sounds like you're talking about, children go to secondary school at 11 and generally make the journey alone.

So how would they grow the independence to do that? Do they suddenly hit 11 and be capable of making a 3 mile journey on their own to school?

My 14 year old has been cycling 3 miles to school, through London for the last 3 years, before that he walked / got the bus. My 10 year old will be making a similar, but different, journey by bus in 6 months time. How could they do this without learning independence in small steps.

Any child must to be allowed to learn how to be alone / manage. Although I assume from what GP has said his daughter has special needs which change this timeline.

Exactly. My kids were independent, reliable and trustworthy from a young age. I've seen how coddled kids turn out. I refused to send my now adult kids into the world like that....
Also there's no such law in Australia.

Some days are diamonds, some days are coal - John Denver

rabbitjb wrote: »

But you should be able to...that's down to your fear, not their abilities and as a parent you need to teach them how to cope

Are you reading my mind woman!!??

Be very careful with the fasting if you are planning to do it. It could easily turn into a bad thing if you do it as a form of punishment. I do it, but I do it as a part of a system that works for me, no guilt involved. Maybe it's best to work on your feelings and reactions to food, it will help you a lot with both weight loss and maintenance.