Hubby refuses to grasp healthier lifestyle. Help!!!!
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Not sure why that didn't quote right??0
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Well like most said he is a grown man. He has to be ready. Sometimes unfortunately a health scare is enough to kick people into gear. You can't save him he has to save himself.0
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It sounds like your husband is a rock.0
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Do any of you have any advice?
If it's that important to you, split up now and save everyone a whole lot of extra grief.
I was not aware that being concerned for someone's health was grounds for divorce. LOL! Sorry but this comment made me giggle. My husband is my everything. That is why I want to keep him around longer.
The more you nag about it the more you will push him away.
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Thank you everyone for your responses. If anything I just needed to vent. It's frustrating and being able to communicate your feelings helps.
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williethaordazcandidate wrote: »Do any of you have any advice?
If it's that important to you, split up now and save everyone a whole lot of extra grief.
I was not aware that being concerned for someone's health was grounds for divorce. LOL! Sorry but this comment made me giggle. My husband is my everything. That is why I want to keep him around longer.
The more you nag about it the more you will push him away.
Yup.. agreed
About the nagging part only.0 -
Fittreelol wrote: »It sounds like your husband is a rock.
I love you so hard. I was going to say at least he's not rude and igneous.0 -
I wonder what your husband thinks about you coming on here "venting" about him.0
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The more you push the more you will push him away. Men hate nagging. Has his Dr said anything? Its for him to sort out.0
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He knows, all you can do is keep cooking the meals and keeping things healthy for you and your daughter he will either come aboard or he won't. My hubs got upset with me a few times, cause I stopped cooking at night, no more fries and other crap. I started eating during the day and really try to cut out night time eating, I told him if he doesn't want to be so hungry at night he should eat with us during the day, he is slowly getting there. You can only do this for yourself and your children. Best of luck and hopefully he will come around0
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The first thought that came into my mind is....was he like this when you met him? Or are you trying to change him from that into a new lifestyle you want for him?
Just...putting that thought into your mind.
Having said that...it would probably be best to lead by example, rather than trying to force him to change his ways. Case in point...when I was married I decided to go back to being a vegetarian within a couple months of us being together. He was pretty horrified LoL But I didnt make a big deal of it. I anyway hated to cook meat, which he knew and would always help me with. But I told him that I would make dinner, if he liked it great, if he didnt, go throw something on the grill...I dont care.
Because I didnt make a big deal of it, he had nothing to resist or fight against. That wasnt intentional or me being tricky by the way..I honestly didnt care. Me being a vegetarian had nothing to do with him. But...he would at least try the meals, and actually enjoyed it so much that it wasnt long before the only time he ate meat was once or twice a month when hed throw a bbq. Also, I wanted to do something to stay in shape, and asked him to help me pick out a bike... When we went to get it, he decided he wanted to get one too...his idea entirely that it would be a great way for us to spend time together.
I really didnt know this at the time (I was only 20 then) but on reflection, I somehow got the most stubborn, bull-headed guy who was a meat and potatoes, beer drinking, sit on the couch watching racing southern boy, to eat vegetarian and go bike riding after work every day with me...all by allowing him the chance to make the choice of his own free will to do it. If I had nagged or made a big deal of it, it would never have happened...
Anyway..just an idea!0 -
Already been down that road. End of the story is that my husband died of a heart attack at the age of 36. He insisted on eating crappy food, fast food, take out etc. I cooked healthy meals for me and my daughter. I thought he would have a heart attack and learn his lesson but it was the Widow maker. His first heart attack was his last. People have to make their own choices about their health. They just don't realize that their choices affect everyone in the family. My daughter was only 15 years old when her dad died. People who don't safeguard their health are being selfish and thinking only of themselves.0
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Throw the candy away (or take it to work)! If it's gifted to your daughter, give her a piece and make it disappear. I would personally also throw away his candy when he brings it home... Maybe he'd stop buying it. Candy by the bed? That's too much.0
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Cortneyrenee04 wrote: »Throw the candy away (or take it to work)! If it's gifted to your daughter, give her a piece and make it disappear. I would personally also throw away his candy when he brings it home... Maybe he'd stop buying it. Candy by the bed? That's too much.
That will be fast way to divorce court!!0 -
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DaivaSimone wrote: »
Ha!! That's a funny mistake I made.0 -
Quadruple his life insurance so you & your daughter are financially protected in case, God Forbid, he drops dead of a heart attack.
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allaboutthecake wrote: »Quadruple his life insurance so you & your daughter are financially protected in case, God Forbid, he drops dead of a heart attack.
Serious.
Already accomplished.0 -
I would stop talking about it or telling him what he should do. Do your own thing and leave him be.
I know you love him and worry about his health but you can't make him do this. When he is ready he will work on it.
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