Resentment

Visit my thread, "I hate men." I have these feelings about my husband and sons, who can eat enormous amounts of food. My husband and one of my sons are in a weight loss challenge; husband lost 3 lbs. in a week, just by being "moderately careful," not tracking every bite he puts in his mouth. My youngest son is 6'3" and into strength training; he eats in one meal what I'm allowed all day.

As a person who has done both the eating and the non-eating of the chicken tenders--like, really?

I would hope that you are taking care of yourself... for the purpose of taking care of yourself.
Period.

How is the rest of the world relevant?

Save up for those chicken tenders and fries and fit them in! I enjoy junk food now more than when I was heavier because I've planned for it.

On a more serious note, everyone has their struggles. Just because someone can eat 4X what I can doesn't mean they're happy with everything all the time.

thaoXLIV wrote: »

For the most part, I really do enjoy exercising and eating healthy. But on occasion, I can feel quite resentful towards people who just don't care. I see them enjoying their chicken tenders and fries (or something along those lines) everyday without any concern whatsoever. All the while, I constantly think about how healthy or unhealthy something is and bust my butt working out 4-5x a week.

I'll admit, I'm jealous. I know what I'm doing is for the best and I feel GREAT most days. Does anyone ever feel this way? Is it wrong of me to have these thoughts!?

You are making a judgment that people who eat chicken tenders and fries do not care. That is a pretty big assumption on your part.

If you like chicken tenders and fries, why don't you work them into your calorie goals.

Weight loss is not about deprivation, it's about learning to eat real food that you love in real life.

Nope. I feel no jealousy or resentment toward people who eat food I wish I was eating. In fact, I work all foods I love into my calorie goals.

All I can say is stop it. Stop comparing your self to other people.

Especially people you see once a day. Someone might have a large lunch, unless your with them all day you might find they skip or have very small meals the rest of the day.

Also are you comparing someone losing weight to someone maintaining?

Focus on your self, stop worrying about what others are eating. Everyone is different.

I don't think it's wrong for you to have those thoughts. I think it's totally normal. I'm probably the abnormal one here.

I would have no reason to be jealous of other people's bad habits. My brain just doesn't work that way. I just feel sorry for people who don't live a healthy lifestyle. Pretty much everybody I know who puts forth no effort toward their health and fitness doesn't look and feel as good as me. So why would I want to be like them? I guess if there was someone who ate like a pig and sat around all day AND looked and felt awesome, it might annoy me, but I just don't ever see that.

It may just be a matter of perception. I think a lot of the time, people see thin people eating something decadent and assume they are eating like that all the time - like maybe they were just born lucky. I've had people assume that about me. But it's more likely that the cake you see them eating just happens to fit within their calories. They might be more active than you think and they probably eat less than you think, as well.

Don't be so hard on yourself. I find that once you stop comparing yourself to others and start competing against yourself, you won't even notice or care what other people are doing anymore.

One of the reasons people regain weight is because they feel deprived about not being able to eat like they did before.

I know what you mean. I know eating healthily is better and i know i can splerg in moderation. I am just one of those people that feels guilty when I go way over my calories.
The goal is to feel better about myself and i realize the weight is just a piece of the puzzle.