Anyone else experience negativity due to weight loss?

I've been lucky, and haven't had to face "fit shaming." I don't know if this would help, but what about mentally translating the comments? As in

THE UNIVERSAL TRANSLATOR FOR FIT SHAMING
skinny b!tch = you're thinner than I am and it terrifies me
you're all bones = look at how much fat you've lost!
you're obsessed = you're paying attention to your health (and I'm not)
bag of bones = unpadded figure

Any other suggestions? <g>

Ross - a couple more possible answers to "How much more weight are you going to lose?" might be
As much as my doctor advises.
As much as I'm comfortable with.
As much as I need to.
And you can feel virtuous about not telling her "Oh, about X percent of the weight you should lose."

JanetMMcC wrote: »

Ross - a couple more possible answers to "How much more weight are you going to lose?" might be
As much as my doctor advises.
As much as I'm comfortable with.
As much as I need to.
And you can feel virtuous about not telling her "Oh, about X percent of the weight you should lose."

I'd prefer to kill em with kindness. Sniping back at her isn't worth the animosity that it will create in the environment that we have to share. I work with several people that are overweight, her included, but she's the only one that picks on me. Whatever her reasons, or whatever her issues, they're hers, no mine. If nothing else, I'm not going to give her the satisfaction of thinking that she got a rise out of me/made me defensive. I've seen others elsewhere go through that, and have their justifiable reactions dismissed as "she's just in a bad mood cuz she's starving. She'd be happier if she got off her high horse and ate something other than that rabbit food." The best revenge is living well.

it's more a reflection of tensions in our society than anything to do with you.

if you're up for it, and if they re open - actually maybe only if they ask, because no one wants advice - you can share your knowledge. but yeah people usually hate that too

Don't know if this was said im not going read through all the comments. So I use to weight 350 pounds at my heaviest and at my lightest I was 286. 306 now with the gain of 20 pounds of muscle. But yes I have at first everyone was supportive. Now say I get rolling of eyes and guilt trips because I commit to a life style and not hobby. To do this you have to be selfish it's the only way and sooner or later your friends will be friends that go to the gym more than they go to the bar or ones that eat out and don't care about health. And when you do you don't feel as selfish and you have a real group of supporters!

shrinkingletters wrote: »

I'm not very overweight (just a 10-15lbs goal, of which I'm down nearly 9), and made the mistake of explaining why I didn't partake of the offfice cupcakes.


You'd think I told them I want to amputate both of my legs. "YOURE SKINNY YOU DONT NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT WHATS WRONG WITH YOU" then of course some commentary about how I'm making them feel bad for being overweight. I was cornered by three coworkers! It was nuts! I might understand if I'm underweight and it were coming from a place of concern, but I'm not. My goal weight is still on the higher end of the bmi for my height/age.

I too find that it is the worst sin imaginable to turn down office cake. Why can't other people deal with our disinterest in cake!?

People like to poke at anything that's different. Plus, it's likely that they're simply jealous. They've probably tried every green tea kale smoothie pill under the sun with no success, so when they see someone actually succeedind, it bring to light all their excuses and failures.

I have lost "friends" because of my weight loss. I was over 200lbs at my heaviest, and when I had lost 40lbs I felt amazing. Myself and my small group of friends were in the pool, and my "friend" made the comment that I "looked like a tramp" walking around in my bikini and that I "didn't look as good as I thought I did". She then called my boyfriend to tell him that I was cheating on him.

She still makes comments on facebook referring to my weight loss & cheat meals "why count calories/fats/sugars when you are going to eat a whole mcdonalds menu...f*****g loser" (I haven't eaten mcdonalds in almost 6 years, but its besides the point)

People are going to be jealous, but it proves who your real friends are. Real friends/family will love you fat, fit or thin. You learn after a while to get tough skin and shrug it off.

I understand what your going thru. Growing up me and my lil sister had eating disorders because slot of the women in our family are overweight. We weren't disgusted by them but we didn't want tovend up like them. My lil sister developed anorexia and bullemia i have body dysmorphia disorder. I have 2 children and a am married toca very supportive and understanding man. Ivwas very young when our 1st son was born and went back to my original weight immediately. 10 yes later i gave birth to our 2nd son. And at 5'11 200lbs may not seem like slot but it was to me. I had lost 15 of that in year and stalled. Now regardless of whether or not people could tell how large i was my mind distorted what i say. Not many of my friends know about my disorder.but the one who does is very supportive and understanding. Some of my friends are cery encouraging about my journey and are proud of me. Others make snide comments and remarks now i guess most normal ppl can shrug this off but its harder for me. Recently i was with some ftiends and included in the group was my bff who knows about my disorder. One person had made a comment about my weight and how i used to look and cracking jokes and i got upset enough that my bff noticed. She took me aside and calmed me down i dont want everyone to know about my disorder because some can be very judgemental. I know its cause they dont understand but i just dont see a point in making comments about weight gain,loss,eating habits, etc. When did other personal struggles become everyones business. I guess what im trying to say id we all have those ppl in our lives yhat try to bring us fown and bring themselves up but for every 3 or 4 of those ppl we all have 1 or 2 that support us and thats who we should be surrounded by. Cut out the toxicity as best you can. Good luck with your journey and im sure you will meet your goals and if it means cutting some ppl out of your life...then so be it.