Anyone else experience negativity due to weight loss?

460mustang wrote: »

PixelPuff wrote: »

A coworker I talked to often at work kept bugging me about my eating choices, when I started to bring in healthier lunches. When he found out I was dieting, he kept trying to lull me into eating foods worse for me, taunt me with delicious ribs [he knows I have a killer recipe], etc. He quit in this recent month, but I hate to see how he'd have reacted to my going vegetarian for my diet [looooove meat]. Hurt a lil - he is extremely fit n' attractive.

He's not your co-worker he's your competitor - He might be afraid that if your slim and trim, you'll get more attention than him. I don't know just my theory, but if it bothered you enough to write about it here, it was probably more than joking around, and he certainly isn't being supportive.

We're opposite genders, not sure how I can really 'compete' with him in that regard. xD

I talked about it with another coworker today, and they informed me he had a small crush on me - and liked me the weight I was at [with my delicious recipes and all], so was a little sad I was losing it. But yeah, that was absolutely mind-boggling for me. Huh.

PixelPuff wrote: »

460mustang wrote: »

PixelPuff wrote: »

A coworker I talked to often at work kept bugging me about my eating choices, when I started to bring in healthier lunches. When he found out I was dieting, he kept trying to lull me into eating foods worse for me, taunt me with delicious ribs [he knows I have a killer recipe], etc. He quit in this recent month, but I hate to see how he'd have reacted to my going vegetarian for my diet [looooove meat]. Hurt a lil - he is extremely fit n' attractive.

He's not your co-worker he's your competitor - He might be afraid that if your slim and trim, you'll get more attention than him. I don't know just my theory, but if it bothered you enough to write about it here, it was probably more than joking around, and he certainly isn't being supportive.

We're opposite genders, not sure how I can really 'compete' with him in that regard. xD

I talked about it with another coworker today, and they informed me he had a small crush on me - and liked me the weight I was at [with my delicious recipes and all], so was a little sad I was losing it. But yeah, that was absolutely mind-boggling for me. Huh.

Cute! Why doesn't he just pull on your pigtails?

I have experienced a lot of negativity due to my weight loss. I have so far lost 38 pounds and want to lose 20 more. Most people in my life are supportive but there are a few that just get to me. I've been told I look sickly, that I'm obsessed, that I am no longer fun, and that I'm just not attractive anymore. And these comments sting most because they are made by the people closest to me. I know I need to weed all the negativity out of my life which I am working on. Thought I was the only one experiencing the negative statements. I try to stay positive and know that this is the best I have ever felt about myself, I am comfortable in my own skin and feel fantastic.

hunniebunn wrote: »

I have lost "friends" because of my weight loss. I was over 200lbs at my heaviest, and when I had lost 40lbs I felt amazing. Myself and my small group of friends were in the pool, and my "friend" made the comment that I "looked like a tramp" walking around in my bikini and that I "didn't look as good as I thought I did". She then called my boyfriend to tell him that I was cheating on him.

She still makes comments on facebook referring to my weight loss & cheat meals "why count calories/fats/sugars when you are going to eat a whole mcdonalds menu...f*****g loser" (I haven't eaten mcdonalds in almost 6 years, but its besides the point)

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OMG..that's horrible. Why is she so mad still?

When I went from 300 to 140 in my 20's my mother and my boss would not let any opportunity go by without telling someone how fat I used to be. "Hi, this is Stacy, she used to weigh 300lbs." My mother even went so far as to turn me around and lift my shirt to show that I no longer had that "fat a**" to her friends that had not seen me in a few years. I never for one second believed it was out of admiration, it was said to set the tone, keep me in my place and remind me and anyone around me that I was, in their eyes, still "less than" them.

People are funny like that, unfortunately. If you're not successful it justifies their own lack of success and makes them feel better about their failures. Seeing your success is just a reminder of their own weight loss fails. I say this as a former hater myself. I used to feel like a failure and really inadequate around my fit and active friends. However, I always tried to never shame them for their lifestyle -it's not my style. But the jealousy was always there. It wasn't until I finally got tired of being depressed and unhappy that I finally did something about it and started moving. I had lost 30 pounds so far and am still working towards my goal of loosing another 30. Just remember that they're the ones that are unhappy and with the issues. Be proud of what you have done and keep doing what you're doing and stay healthy. Surround yourself with positive, like minded people that know how hard you've worked and won't try to sabotage your hard work. Right now I'm having that struggle with mother. I am very close to her. Before, she was constantly encouraging me to go on a diet. Now she keeps trying to feed me food that she knows I can't eat. She used to be thinner than me and now it's not the case. She guilted me into eating her food and I gained 10 pounds! She has made some comments about looking just fine as I am and that it was unattractive to be too skinny.But i dont blame her and I take full responsibility for not staying strong. She's obviously going through something and when I can be a little less testy, I will tell her how I feel. Meanwhile, I'm back to staying away from her cooking, upping my will power and not letting her get under my skin.

kygirl8282 wrote: »

"Obsessed is a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated."

So I found that little gem of a quote this morning and had to share it with you all

I'll do you one better:

"Have you ever seen a hater that's doing better than you? Me neither."

You know what is funny? Twice now, women have hinted that now that I am "hotter", that might be tempted to stray. My weight has been part of our dynamic, as my hubby is positively attracted to voluptuous women. It's obvious now that people have wondered what I saw in him. Goodness gracious.

I have asked him if he would still be attracted to me, and he's answered non-committedly (he's a pro at this marriage stuff). And we still make a great team. Each other's best buddy.

You just gotta laugh.

JanetMMcC wrote: »

On the other side of the scale, my mother weighed me every morning I was in high school and threw a fit if the scale showed more than 125 pounds.

I lost a lot of weight during this past spring semester by making healthier choices in the dining hall (all of the healthy options are already prepared for you ) and making regular, scheduled exercise a priority for the first time in my life. I'm home from college for the summer now, and my younger sister hates it that I make sure our fridge is stocked with fruits, veggies, yogurt, chicken, etc. instead of the crap I used to eat! She says that I've lost too much weight and am anorexic, which is not true at all. I'm 5'6, 148 lbs, and I eat all the time, just not junk. We are very close and I know she is only joking, but her words are can be hurtful and insensitive. And I know she's only lashing out because she feels like I am infringing on her lifestyle by not buying the food she wants at the grocery store, getting lighter options when we eat out, and the like. But I agree with the previous posters: to do this, you have to realize your self worth, and you have to be a little selfish.