Anyone else experience negativity due to weight loss?

People are funny like that, unfortunately. If you're not successful it justifies their own lack of success and makes them feel better about their failures. Seeing your success is just a reminder of their own weight loss fails. I say this as a former hater myself. I used to feel like a failure and really inadequate around my fit and active friends. However, I always tried to never shame them for their lifestyle -it's not my style. But the jealousy was always there. It wasn't until I finally got tired of being depressed and unhappy that I finally did something about it and started moving. I had lost 30 pounds so far and am still working towards my goal of loosing another 30. Just remember that they're the ones that are unhappy and with the issues. Be proud of what you have done and keep doing what you're doing and stay healthy. Surround yourself with positive, like minded people that know how hard you've worked and won't try to sabotage your hard work. Right now I'm having that struggle with mother. I am very close to her. Before, she was constantly encouraging me to go on a diet. Now she keeps trying to feed me food that she knows I can't eat. She used to be thinner than me and now it's not the case. She guilted me into eating her food and I gained 10 pounds! She has made some comments about looking just fine as I am and that it was unattractive to be too skinny.But i dont blame her and I take full responsibility for not staying strong. She's obviously going through something and when I can be a little less testy, I will tell her how I feel. Meanwhile, I'm back to staying away from her cooking, upping my will power and not letting her get under my skin.

kygirl8282 wrote: »

"Obsessed is a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated."

So I found that little gem of a quote this morning and had to share it with you all

I'll do you one better:

"Have you ever seen a hater that's doing better than you? Me neither."

You know what is funny? Twice now, women have hinted that now that I am "hotter", that might be tempted to stray. My weight has been part of our dynamic, as my hubby is positively attracted to voluptuous women. It's obvious now that people have wondered what I saw in him. Goodness gracious.

I have asked him if he would still be attracted to me, and he's answered non-committedly (he's a pro at this marriage stuff). And we still make a great team. Each other's best buddy.

You just gotta laugh.

JanetMMcC wrote: »

On the other side of the scale, my mother weighed me every morning I was in high school and threw a fit if the scale showed more than 125 pounds.

I lost a lot of weight during this past spring semester by making healthier choices in the dining hall (all of the healthy options are already prepared for you ) and making regular, scheduled exercise a priority for the first time in my life. I'm home from college for the summer now, and my younger sister hates it that I make sure our fridge is stocked with fruits, veggies, yogurt, chicken, etc. instead of the crap I used to eat! She says that I've lost too much weight and am anorexic, which is not true at all. I'm 5'6, 148 lbs, and I eat all the time, just not junk. We are very close and I know she is only joking, but her words are can be hurtful and insensitive. And I know she's only lashing out because she feels like I am infringing on her lifestyle by not buying the food she wants at the grocery store, getting lighter options when we eat out, and the like. But I agree with the previous posters: to do this, you have to realize your self worth, and you have to be a little selfish.