I can't do it :(

You CAN do it.

It's hard. It's work. It's a pain in the freaking butt until you get into a rhythm.

Cravings will happen. You'll have bad days. But you can absolutely do this.

Start small. Log all your food, even if it goes over your limit. Start walking a little more each day if you can. Make mini goals (5lbs...10lbs...15) instead of thinking of the 130 as a whole lot to go at once.

Step 1 is truly wanting it.

Step 2 is educating yourself.

Add me as a friend and I will be glad to give you some wonderful tips.
I've been a fat guy since I was about 20, and at 31 I am now down 50+ Lbs in 6 Months.

Fitness and emotional health go hand in hand.

You can do this!! I eat carbs every day just bout all day and I'm losing weight.I run 4 days a week. My family and friends all give me crap. I ate a bag of chips yesterday and a coworker asked if it was on my "diet" my answer was sure is.. I eat pretty good but I was something bad sometimes. You have to do this for you and nobody else. Don't let them get into your head.

Monna2 wrote: »

I have been trying for over 15 years, and I just can't do it. Yes you can! Be your own coach. If someone said these exact things to you, what would YOU tell them?
It only gets worse and worse. My body doesn't let go of the fat. It absolutely can. It wants to. Just start eating less of what you are eating now. No strict or specific diet needed.
I can't deal with the cravings of the monthly time. Cravings will pass. Just because you feel like eating something does not mean you need to. YOU have power over those fleeting wants.
I am 130 pounds overweight and my family are driving me towards depression because of their comments about me eating too many carbs.Some people do better eating fewer carbs, some don't. Do your own research and make your own decisions. It is a lot of trial and error at first.
There's no magic I know.
But I have so much frustration inside me.

Don't over think it! All you need to do right now is eat less of what you are currently eating, log it here, and learn from your logs. Utilize the note section as well. Keep track of your moods, why you ate, what you were feeling, etc.

Although I had less to lose I started to feel that way as I got closer to my 40s, I thought I could not lose weight any longer because I wasn't young anymore!
But MFP turned that around.

I agree w/ starting small.
My first goal weight was only 6lbs loss.
When I reached that I set another goal weight: 5lbs loss and I am currently 1/2 a pound away from that.
Once I reach it I will set my final goal weight which is to lose another 5lbs.
In the end I will have lost 16lbs but if I had told myself I had to lose 16lbs at the beginning I would have felt like it was undoable. 6-5lbs at a time is an easier goal and in the end it all adds up!
So start w/ a small goal, even if it's not necessarily losing pounds, and once you reach that goal, set another and another, and another!
Baby steps!
And there is nothing wrong w/ carbs! I have lost 10.5lbs since the end of April and most of my calories everyday come from carbs! I just make sure I stay w/in my calorie goals for the day!

You can do it if you want to do it badly enough. it wont take 15 years, it just requires you to adopt a pattern of behaviour so you can lose steadily over about 2 years.

Take a breath and relax, you are making it into such an impossible target that you are talking yourself into not being able, when ofc you like everyone else is capable of losing weight. the only reason you arent losing is because you are still eating more than or what your body needs on a daily basis, instead of less.

These forums are full of people who have learned how to lose weight and done it their way. As said above start off with understanding why you wnat to lose weight, then break it down into small steps that you cna take and put in a plan, so you know you are doing the right things, then when ready follow the plan and focus just on each day.

The more you convince yourself you can't, the truer it becomes.

You CAN do it.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
^Good place to start.

Don't listen to what others have to say about your diet, because guess what, everyone has an opinion. You do you, let them do them.

You can do it! I have been trying to lose weight and keep it off since I was in elementary school. (I'm 43 now.) This time I've set 100 pounds as my initial goal, and I'm already down 17 pounds after just over a month using MFP. I was a carb fanatic and now I eat low carb (although not super-low-carb, that's not sustainable, at least for me). I just wish I would have done this years ago. I was always making excuses and saying I'd start a diet tomorrow. Well, it's not just a diet, it's a lifestyle change, and you have to commit yourself to it. I know it's hard--god, do I know it's hard--but if you are ready and willing to change, you can do it. Best of luck to you!

Hi Monna,

I do believe your success towards progress will start by talking to your family and letting them know how their comments are making you feel deep down inside. It's important to improve on your overall health and outer body image but it's even more important to clean up your mind and all those negative thoughts.

Even if you do speak up and you don't get the response you're looking for; bulk up mentally. Be strong in your thoughts and remember that we live this life just once - you can do anything and be anything just as long as you put your heart and mind into it. Hold on to something beautiful and positive in your life and drop the negative weight that's weighing you down.

So work on your speach (that's the hard part) and then work on enjoying movement. Find an activity that you love doing. Let me know what it is ok?

"Be magnificent. Life's short. Get out there. You can do it. Everyone can do it. Everyone."
--Andy Serkis

Start small with things you feel you can control. Make manageable goals that you absolutely can achieve with a little dedication and celebrate those successes. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed with too much at once. This is a long-term project of self improvement inside and out, not a sprint to a finish line. You will have good days where the pounds seem to melt right off, and you will have bad days where you eat way over your calories, but it will slowly all come together as long as you are determined to see it through.

And always remember that you are worth it!

I know you can do this!!! I too have felt the exact same way you are feeling now, I've had many false starts here and finally made myself stick to it.... I also got rid of every silly notion I had about food because that was making food very complicated to me and food really isn't complicated, so I read everything I could read, especially on here and I realize that losing weight, though it is difficult at times, it is not as much effort and stress as we seem to think it will be.

I've been active here now for 39 days and have lost 9 lbs as of today. I didn't do it by cutting out any single thing that I enjoy but by limiting it. I eat carbs too and would never be able to stick to anything that eliminated carbs or anything for that matter. I just had a cinnamon bun the other day and I still lost 1.8 lbs on my last weigh in. It's the first time in my life that I have lost this much weight Without feeling deprived or hungry.

Do what you know you can do right now with a small goal to add on as you go.

I am by no means a pro at this, I'm learning as I go and soaking up all the information I get from here and it is helping. If you'd like to add me as a friend, I would gladly accept.

I'm 68 years old and topped out at 380 pounds. I lost over 200 pounds 4 years ago but have allowed a little over 100 to creep back on. I know it's possible, although very hard. This program is easy compared to the one I followed before. I know that people will advise you to "take one day at a time" but that didn't work for me. I had to start by taking each 5 minutes at a time. Now, this sounds a little ridiculous, but I spent hours searching Google for "positive attitude quotes" and then each day, I would apply one to my day. And, I wrote a blog which allowed me to share my feelings with others who could empathize with me.

Family members, although well meaning, can be very hurtful. You know when you are eating something that is not on your plan. It doesn't help to be scolded for it. Very lovingly tell them when they are being overly forceful. Tell them that you are working on changing your habits, but that it won't happen overnight. You will appreciate their help and support, but cannot deal with criticism or suggestions.

You can do it. But you have to want to do it. I had gone through a state of depression - which is very real, and equally misunderstood. I felt like a total failure - and the more I felt like a failure, the more I ate. I believe now that I was trying to become what I felt that I was - a failure. As I began losing weight, my attitude changed. My attitude about myself, my family, my friends - about life in general.

I felt myself slip back into that cavity as I was gaining back the weight that I had worked so hard to lose. I have to work very hard on keeping a positive attitude - about food, about family, friends - but most of all about myself. I can do this again. I did it once so I know it can be done. And, you can do it too.

Keep your chin up and tackle the next 5 minutes with enthusiasm and resolve.