I can't do it :(

The first step is just doing it. The second step is to keep doing it. The third step is to never stop doing it.

You can get into it gradually. If you try and change everything all at once, you're likely to have a difficult time adapting to the change. Instead, take a few weeks to implement some lifestyle changes. Take a walk after dinner. Eat more veggies. Cut down your portions. After you feel like you've got that down, try using this site more intensively, using your food diary and trying to start a workout regiment.

A lot of it is attitude. I don't mean to sound mean about this and I realize that simply telling you to change your attitude isn't going to make you change your attitude. But if you try and see things more positively, things will go better.

It's a lot a matter of perspective. I used to get down about my weight a lot too. I would work out and be diligent with my diet and at the end of the week, I'll have lost less than a pound. If you view it like that, like all this work and that's all I have to show for it, then you're going to be down about it. Rather, something people told me that made me feel much better about it was: "You didn't gain it all in a day. Don't expect to lose it all in a day, either." That really put everything more in perspective for me, personally. I had to realize that going on a weekly basis, the change is going to be very gradual, and there's not going to be any instant gratification. However, it's a matter of working for a period and then looking back. It's a really reflective process.

Last week, I only lost .2 kg, and I was pretty down about it. But there were two things I had to remind myself of to keep myself going. First was the fact that in the previous 2 weeks, I had lost 3 kg. So even if I hadn't lost a lot -that- week, I'd still lost something, and that's something I should have been proud of. The other thing I had to keep in mind is that it's an ongoing process. Just because I'd only lost .2 kg -that- week didn't mean I was never going to lose anymore. In fact, I've lost almost another whole kilo from there. But I had to stick with it. I couldn't quit. If I had quit, I could easily have gone right back where I was. The moral here is that even if you only lose a little, or hell, even if you -gain-, slightly, quitting won't lose you any weight. Again, it's a matter of sticking with it. If you keep at your plan, no matter what the number on the scale, always think, whenever you have a tough workout or eat a less than satisfying meal, think to yourself, "I'm doing this for my health." Even if you don't get instant payoff, in the long-term, you definitely will if you're sticking with it.

One of the things that's really helped me on this site is the forums and friending people. Having people who are in the same boat as you builds a sense of comradely which can motivate you to continue. And hearing people who have been there and improved their lives can inspire you to want better for yourself. I see you have a number of posts, so you're most likely not a stranger, here. Use these tools to their full potential.

I want to say that you -can- do it. There isn't a single person out there who is incapable of losing weight. It may be more difficult for some than for others, but it is possible for anybody and everybody. But you have to start. Starting is the hardest part, but once you get started, it gets much easier down the road.

Maybe try starting with small goals. Adding onto what I said above about making small changes. So, tell yourself, I'm going to do something active today. Don't even think tomorrow and the next day and so on. Just say to yourself that you'll do it today. Then when you're finished, promise yourself you'll do the same tomorrow. End your day with that same promise.

I know I kinda went all over the place with this post. But to recap:
Make small changes
Set small goals
Try to change your attitude
Try and see it a different way
Use this site as a resource
Make and keep promises to yourself
Stick with it
Don't stop for any minor setbacks
Just do it

You CAN do it! Best of luck! I hope to see you giving it your best effort very soon!

Is this program available where you live?

http://patienteducation.stanford.edu/programs/cdsmp.html

Ninkyou wrote: »

You CAN do it.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
^Good place to start.

Don't listen to what others have to say about your diet, because guess what, everyone has an opinion. You do you, let them do them.

Read this link, then read it again, and again. Think of this as a learning process, have fun with it. Don't make it a chore. I love reading MFP and have learned so much by spending time on here, there is no better place to start then reading this link



Here is another great link: I know it seems like a lot of reading, but it will be worth it!
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1

Your mind is limiting your body. You can get healthy if you convince your mind that this is the right thing. It won't be easy. Sometimes it'll just plain suck. You'll get hungry, cranky, sweaty, and sore, but that's ok. Every little change is a step in the right direction. Take it day by day. Start every morning being positive about this experience, "today, I will eat healthy, today I will take a walk, today I will drink water instead of soda." It doesn't have to be a huge change every day.

Saying you can't do it is a self fulfilling prophecy.

I have to count every carb that goes in my mouth because I am a diabetic. It got easier as time goes on. I've been on my journey since December and I've lost at least 51 pounds. The longer I've been trying the less hungry I get. People say when you change your behavior after a week it becomes habit. I'm setting small goals for myself so I don't get overwhelmed because I have over 200 pounds to lose. It would be depressing if I looked at the whole picture. Don't listen to negativity from people. Just focus on yourself.

I'm a bread monster I absolutely love it! But it's no good for me and I've discovered that I actually enjoy eating other things instead. I'm trying to re-train my mind to eat more good fat and cut the carbs down. Do it for yourself and don't let your families unhelpful comments put you off. Take care of yourself and don't go on a diet just change some old habits. That's what I'm attempting to do lol