I can't do this anymore!

First off are you old enough to be on this site? I think you may need to find the sparkteens site with people your own age who have some of the same challenges IE mom is buying/cooking the foods you have to choose from.

Second. You are not ugly. Yes you are fat. So am I. I was fat as a kid too. My mom made cookies too. The problem is not what your mom does. The problem is what you do. Just because the food is there does not mean that you have to eat it.

You can make better choices and get healthier. This is totally up to you.

ETA: I see you are not a kid. Not knowing exactly what your situation is, you have control of what goes in your mouth. Even if you are not the one buying it. As an adult you need to step up and take responsibility for your choices. You CAN do it. But it requires effort. No one can do it for you.

Well, no one can do it for you. If it's going to get done, you'll be the one to do it. If not, then not.

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You can do it and you will do it. Step away from the cookies, do something healthy and get back on it tomorrow. You got this

elise284 wrote: »

You can do it and you will do it. Step away from the cookies, do something healthy and get back on it tomorrow. You got this

Not tomorrow. Today.

Try to do some sort of exercise.....maybe Walking or Swimming.
Cookies can easily bump up calories, so you definitly need to cut down on those! (I very rarely eat them now tbh, as i just don't think they're worth the calories).
How many calories has MFP given you?
By the way, you are not ugly.

Is your mother willing to help you develop and successfully follow a healthy lifestyle? Otherwise, do your research, come up with a healthy plan, and stick to it. You need to want to be healthy more than you want to eat all the cookies possible. Your life, your choices, your responsibility. Don't be scared by that - embrace it, be proud of what you can do when you put your mind to it, and don't give up!

it is hard , i eat rubbish like no tomorrow if its in the house so i have bought more fruit and asked my wife not to bring cookies etc in the house. if you live with your mum ask her not to make so many or so often you may find it easier then, if you explain what your wanting to do it might help.
i started at 257lbs and it has taken me 7 months of trial and error to get to 238lbs its been hard work but this app is possibly the best choice i made. keep at it you will get there eventually.

Your beautiful! And the same self shaming talk is what probably led you here in the first place. Eating is a form of survival.. Be it physical AND emotional. When I see an over weight person.. I see more than just a person with no self control. I see someone who is suffering from hormones imbalance, lacking the essential amino acids to regulate healthy dopamine and serotonin which dictate our happiness! I see blood sugar issues that cause an unsteady levels of insulin resistance and a lack of the hormone leptin which controls hunger! Your not just crazy. Modern food corporations create these foods in laboratories and experiment with your taste buds and feel good receptors in your brain that cause people to become addicted! They are legal drug dealers. Sugar is 8X as addicting as cocain. And it doesn't take but walking down the street to see so many people are clearly suffering from a crippling food addiction as the legal drug lords get away with murder for putting these things in our food. & marketing to children!! Anyways.. I have overcome binge eating and a serious case of bulimia. I have read countless books and realize now it's SO much more than will power.

So here's my advice to you.

Cut the grains
Eat grass fed high quality protein at every meal
Increase your leafy green vegetable 10x
Salads don't have to be gross! Check out my diary! I have tons of recipes that are amazing! I just found my favorite foods and then created healthy versions of it!
Drink water!

The bulk of your diet needs to be from protein and vegetables. Anything God created it ok to eat. If He didn't make it.. Don't eat it.

If you want further advice or help... Don't hesitate to message me.

You ARE worth it and you CAN do this.

Knowledge is everything. Learn about the way your body works... How things connect... What makes you hungry and what causes us to be full. Google these things!

Well that is your start pictures taken care of, now to get on plan to lose that weight and post some up date pics in a few months time
Are you all right to go outside walking on your own? If so that is a great place to start. Walk twice a day with some music on that you like. Try to do 20 minutes both times.
Then you need to cut down the amount you are eating. There is nothing wrong with 1 cookie but keep it to that.

You can do this!

bethheyyy wrote: »

Your beautiful! And the same self shaming talk is what probably led you here in the first place. Eating is a form of survival.. Be it physical AND emotional. When I see an over weight person.. I see more than just a person with no self control. I see someone who is suffering from hormones imbalance, lacking the essential amino acids to regulate healthy dopamine and serotonin which dictate our happiness! I see blood sugar issues that cause an unsteady levels of insulin resistance and a lack of the hormone leptin which controls hunger! Your not just crazy. Modern food corporations create these foods in laboratories and experiment with your taste buds and feel good receptors in your brain that cause people to become addicted! They are legal drug dealers. Sugar is 8X as addicting as cocain. And it doesn't take but walking down the street to see so many people are clearly suffering from a crippling food addiction as the legal drug lords get away with murder for putting these things in our food. & marketing to children!! Anyways.. I have overcome binge eating and a serious case of bulimia. I have read countless books and realize now it's SO much more than will power.

So here's my advice to you.

Cut the grains
Eat grass fed high quality protein at every meal
Increase your leafy green vegetable 10x
Salads don't have to be gross! Check out my diary! I have tons of recipes that are amazing! I just found my favorite foods and then created healthy versions of it!
Drink water!

The bulk of your diet needs to be from protein and vegetables. Anything God created it ok to eat. If He didn't make it.. Don't eat it.

If you want further advice or help... Don't hesitate to message me.

You ARE worth it and you CAN do this.

Knowledge is everything. Learn about the way your body works... How things connect... What makes you hungry and what causes us to be full. Google these things!

Grass fed meat with every meal? Not necessary.
Cutting grains is not necessary, though lowering carbs may be depending on her particular health and/or health conditions. (i.e. if she has PCOS or insulin resistance).
Otherwise, yes, vegetables are good, salads are awesome. Protein is good.
FAT is good as well, and necessary.

It took a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help and to post your pictures so that means you are ready to make a change. We all have ups and downs in our journey to where we want to be with our weight, just take it one day at a time. Ask your mom to help you, it's easier if everyone is committed to what you are doing. Also, if you want some inspiration there's a really good book, a lovely memoir by Andie Mitchell call it was me all along about her struggle with her weight from being a teen to adulthood. It's an honest account that we can all relate to. Best of luck and you will do it.

go4me1 wrote: »

Zara11 wrote: »

Is your mother willing to help you develop and successfully follow a healthy lifestyle? Otherwise, do your research, come up with a healthy plan, and stick to it. You need to want to be healthy more than you want to eat all the cookies possible. Your life, your choices, your responsibility. Don't be scared by that - embrace it, be proud of what you can do when you put your mind to it, and don't give up!

My mother has been trying help me. I think I'm going to the nutritionist again soon.

This is great news.

One thing you can do to make it easier to work with the nutritionist and come up with a good plan is to log what you are eating now. Then you can look over the logs together and figure out some easy ways to improve or to cut calories without it seeming like such a huge change.

Getting more active also helps. If there is some activity you like (like swimming), that's a great thing to work in, but also just walking more can make a big difference.

If you like cookies, maybe decide you can have one after a nutritious meal, and then make sure you log it. (Your mother can give you the recipe to put in MFP so you know the exact calories.)

It's helpful to think about the situations under which your will power is failing you and then work on those. For example, I have a really hard time keeping it to reasonable calories if I start snacking throughout the day at work, so I just don't. I have planned meals and a planned snack (sometimes, if I work out) only. It was tough breaking the old habits, but really only took about a week, and then it wasn't hard, since my mind stopped expecting that I would eat at other times.

You can definitely do this!

Don't give up! Make these photos your "before" photos and set some realistic goals. Start small and make changes that will last and create healthy changes for life! For example, eat only when you're hungry. Or eat half the amount you would normally eat...3 cookies instead of 6. If you commit to small changes, by next July 4th, you will have the body you want and you will be happier than you can imagine. Good luck!