Hubby does not notice

Have you asked him if he noticed? Or are you waiting for him to say something? Depending on the backstory (previous dealings around weight, health, and fitness), perhaps he doesn't feel comfortable bringing it up unless you do.

That would drive me crazy! But luckily, you're losing weight for you-not him. Sometimes the people closest to you are the last to notice a change. I have lost 35 lbs so far, and my husband only said my legs look thinner! Then I started the 30 day ab challenge. I didn't so much look different, I felt different. I started being more active. I put on the running pants. Then he started to notice! Lol! I don't know what your diet or exercise routine is, but sometimes it's easy for our significant others to "forget" to look. But you know, all this work I'm doing pays off every day. If he can watch runners, so can I. I can run with them, too. Then he'll need to catch up to me!

As Valerie said, he sees you every day. It's not as noticeable to the people who see you every day. Often people don't see it in themselves, either, because they see themselves in the mirror every day. It's not until you hold up pics of yourself before and after that the difference can be seen.
Also, if there has been friction in the past, perhaps he's afraid to say something, in case it comes out wrong and you feel insulted, as if you still have weight to lose.
So just say something offhand about it - "Hey, by the way, I weighed myself, and I've already lost 15 pounds!"

I lost 52 pounds last year and my daughter didn't notice until early this year when she was looking at older photos. People who see you more will not notice the changes as much. And if you previously had friction over the issue, your husband may not say anything just to avoid more friction.

ValerieMartini2Olives wrote: »

People who see you every single day take longer to notice.

Exactly

He sees you everyday all the time. Sometimes its hard to notice any kind of weight loss or gainin situations like that. Maybe you should ccommunicate to your husband how you feel ( in a non screaming adult manner.)

My husband didn't say anything when I went up in weight. I'm not expecting him to say anything when I go down.

OP, I feel you.

Weight has been an issue for me and my husband to conflictingly varying degrees at different times before.

At one point he actually said to me a long, long while back while I reclined next to him in my home shirt n it lifted up a little to bare my belly - "Oh, I didn't realise you had gotten so fat." My heart just squeezed so painfully. I felt so insecure, so small, so unattractive, fat and ugly.

Many years later (and wiser), I lost all the weight and he didn't say anything but just trying to make a joke or a fool out of it by feeding me and thrusting food in my face, asking for fatty meals, tempting me with fattening foods.

We went through a really rough patch and at one point I just had enough. I decided my weight loss would be FOR ME, for MY CONFIDENCE and I'll be damned if I let anyone try to use MY WEIGHT, self-image and insecurities against me ever again. It changed the way I approached my weight loss and him.

I became alot more assured and assertive towards him (not in a rude way, or in a proud/stuck up/snobbish/mean way, just more sure of myself and why I'm doing it) in regards to his actions towards my weight loss journey. I would tell him upfront that I am happy with my weight loss, my friends have complimented me and praised me for working hard and making that decision and commitment, and he can choose to support me, or by his actions or lack of it, bring me down. Does he want to support me or is he insecure about something himself?

We had "the talk" a few times where I told him my weight loss was for myself, my health and not for his validation or approval - but as my husband of course I would be appreciative and very happy if he supported me. If he were afraid I would change as a person, he needn't worry, because I am who I am, and I love him for who he is.

While your scenario probably isn't to the point of mine - you can try to just be upfront - some guys are just oblivious. It's the 'take for granted' effect of being with the same woman for a long time. You get used to that person. It's to a certain extent, normal.

Ask him, hey, guess what, I lost 15lb - how do I look?

Depending on his response, you can decide how to react. If he's a Dennis Downer (male ver of Debbie Downer lol) then you may have to talk to him about supporting your goals.

If he compliments you, you can always tell him honestly that you feel relieved because you thought he was either ignoring you or just didn't notice, and you wanted him to notice you like how he noticed that chick. It opens the door to an intimate heart-to-heart.

Good luck, and wish you the best.

to be honest, since I've started being accountable and tracking I've lost 20lbs, but total I've lost closer to 30. no one has said one word about it to me. no one. not friends, work buds, fiancé, family
it makes me sad but I keep going because it is about me. and I get happy as I see the scale numbers go down down down

vdeepu17 wrote: »

feeling very low now. I lost 15 lbs and my husband of 7 yrs did not notice it yet. Most of my work colleagues noticed it and complemented my weight loss. Today when we are going out in car we saw a girl jogging on the pavement. It just only a glimpse as we are driving by. All of a sudden my husband said she lost lot of weight. He told that she will jog for very long time in one workout. My heart just cringe. For the past 4 months Iam working out eating clean and loosing weight and he didn't notice that effort. He noticed some stranger on the street has lost weight. This didn't sit with me very well. But I just kept quite feeling very sad.

It's hard to notice a 7 lb loss. It gets noticeable at around 15 lbs or so for most people.

vdeepu17 wrote: »

coreyreichle wrote: »

vdeepu17 wrote: »

feeling very low now. I lost 15 lbs and my husband of 7 yrs did not notice it yet. Most of my work colleagues noticed it and complemented my weight loss. Today when we are going out in car we saw a girl jogging on the pavement. It just only a glimpse as we are driving by. All of a sudden my husband said she lost lot of weight. He told that she will jog for very long time in one workout. My heart just cringe. For the past 4 months Iam working out eating clean and loosing weight and he didn't notice that effort. He noticed some stranger on the street has lost weight. This didn't sit with me very well. But I just kept quite feeling very sad.

It's hard to notice a 7 lb loss. It gets noticeable at around 15 lbs or so for most people.

I lost 15lbs .we were married for 7 yrs

Gah, dyslexic or something on my part :P

But, also bear in mind change perception as well. When you're losing a little at a time, it's also hard to notice. Contrast with whenever you do see a person, there could be a 20 lb difference since the last time you saw them. You'd notice that, rather than the gradual change.

My wife didn't see any weight loss on me until 15 lbs. She never said anything, until I lost 20 and asked her if she saw a difference, and she had said she'd noticed it a few weeks prior, just never said anything.

Personally, my beau notices close to everything about me. Every curve, hair style, clothes fit, shoes, scent, nail polish color, eating/sleep habits, quirks, mood (especially this! lol), etc. That's our relationship dynamics. Yours is different. My 2 cents, it is best to communicate.

Ma

vdeepu17 wrote: »

After reading all the replies I asked myself a question. Am I unhappy coz he didn't notice me or for noticing another girl. I knew the answer and it hit me hard. Iam insecure about my body image. I understood that I need to work on my insecurities as well as my weight loss in this journey. Iam doing this for myself and my family , not for him. I can now see that very clearly. From his point of view he might not be comfortable to bring up my weight issue positively or negatively as it led to friction previously or honestly didn't notice as he is seeing me every day.Thank you all for making me understand what I need to work on. This insight is more motivation to continue this journey. One day he will notice that Iam very hot and healthy.

Maybe you need to work on your attitude towards yourself.
Try this stand in front of the mirror in your best underwear and say out loud everything you see that you like about yourself.
Then every morning when you get up, tell yourself one thing that you are grateful for.
Its all about positive attitude.

Husbands can never catch a break.

OP Men are not mind readers. Speak up when you feel upset. It doesn't have to be an argument but say something.