females lifting heavy get bigger -_-

supahdupahfitness wrote: »

Kriistabell wrote: »

Hi. Let me start with I'm 5'8, 176#, about 26% body fat, and enjoy challenging myself with weight lifting. I'm not petite and my family won't let me forget it. My profile pic is from last year when I was 11 pounds lighter and lifting.I'm getting back on track after losing 11 pounds on weight watchers and not liking how my body looked from just cardio and deficit in calories. So, I joined the juice head gym by me because it's cheap and has a lot of great equipment. It's only been a week but I'm really excited and proud of how determined I am and how I feel like I know what I'm doing with my form and what whatever. I'm also following iifym and tracking everything. Ihave already lost 2.2 more pounds in this first week.

That being said, my family is discouraging me because I'm very muscular (with chub on top) and have a larger bone structure (wide shoulders). I have my mother's horrendous arms that run in my family like you wouldn't believe, a naturally xlarge behind, and strong, big, thighs. I've been an athlete through college so I have a lot of strength for a girl. So far I sound gigantic. But, my waist is rather small, and my knees and elbows down are boney. So in short - I'm a bulky girl. I'm not fat but I'm not the kind of girl you say is thin either. I'd like to get smaller overall but keep my proportions for the most part because they make me feel feminine. My family is telling me when regular (petite) girls lift heavy they can look good but not me because I've got a large frame. They are getting in my head and after going to the beach yesterday all I could see were my bulky, non-petite flaws and I need confirmation that I'm doing the right thing. I'd really love (I really need) some insight on this! Thanks mfps

Sounds like you have some haters, it sucks when it comes from people that are supposed to care about you unconditionally, but the truth is people aren't perfect. But this should in no way slow you down, or get in your way. Shut that negativity out and/or tell them where to stick it. Shake it off and stick to what you're doing. A lot of it will be jealousy, most of it will be their own insecurities. But at the end of the day, your life is your responsibility, on your deathbed you are going to be seriously upset if you've led your whole life according to what other people want.

At 5'8, 176lbs, 26%bf and judging from your profile pic, you seem to be a well balanced feminine shape both in bone structure and body composition. That's the honest truth, I spent 10 years training in martial arts, and 2 years teaching others, which included correcting their postures and identifying issues with anatomy. So you're hearing some solid truth here. You're alright. Don't worry. That's the truth. Now train correctly, get to grips with the basic three (Nutrition, Exercise, Sleep), study, study, study (the science of your one and only body is not to be taken lightly) and remember; If someone is happy to spend time "getting into your head" and making you feel crap, don't worry about what they have to say, it's 100% bull and comes from a bad place. Rock on lady.