WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2105

I am back from the doctor's office without seeing anyone. The person who I had the appointment to see called in sick. It is frustrating to drive so far for nothing, but that is the beginning. I had a phone message from my doctor's office. Bone density results from yesterday are back and reveal that my bone density is not as good as two years ago. I need to talk to my doctor about medicine and/or other changes, but she is on vacation until September. I'd like to know what experiences & recommendations you may have on the subject. It is time to do some homework so that I can make good decisions.

Charm, I just want to say that not only is having wet clothes locked in the machine for two weeks unacceptable, being without a working brand new machine is also unacceptable. When my new machine broke once shortly after I got it and the repair appointment was going to be two weeks out, I asked to speak to the manager in the store where I bought it. He agreed that the wait time was unacceptable and delivered me a brand new machine the next day. Of course this wouldn't help a whole lot in your situation, because the delivery people would cart off your clothes along with the machine. What if the machine had your uniforms or something that you really, really needed? There ought to be a better way. I think the guy go was actually there and refused to unlock your clothes should be fired, or at the least severely reprimanded. And they should make this right with you in some way. Perhaps a voucher to buy new clothes, because there's a strong possibility that these are going to be ruined - sour, mildewed, etc.

Hello, Barbie.

My name is Sara, and I am new to this group. I just turned 50 in June and my body seems to be rebelling! I have high anxiety/OCD/PTSD and have struggled for years. I finally found a doctor that is helping me with medication and I am starting to feel better emotionally. But...I have gained 16 pounds in the last three months! I have no energy, which is new to me. I am not sleeping as well, which is also new to me. I am a clean eater with the occasional naughty snack thrown in and I normally workout 5 to 6 times a week. My husband is 5 years younger than me and I am beginning to feel our difference in age.

I can use all the support and encouragement I can get! And any insight into this 50-year old body would be much appreciated.

As for goals for August? At this point, I simply want to get back to exercising 5 days a week.

Kris in Oregon

Good Afternoon: This is my first post on mfp although I have been using the APP on and off for years. My goal is to keep on using this tool!

August Goals
1200 steps daily
3 days of running/weights
4 days of walking
8 glasses of water
1200 or fewer net calories
Lose 2 pounds this month

margaretturk wrote: »

Carol darling picture.

DJ WOW!

Rori good to see you post.

Went to see the movie about Sherlock Homes. Overall thought it was well done.

Watering today. We are having a top ten weather day today. It has been dry and we have sandy soil, so watering as I type.
Going to take a load to Goodwill today.

Hoping to get together with Toni and Gayle tomorrow.

Today clearing out some of my things to make more space for tomorrow.

MNMargaret

I'm still on, can't wait to see you!!!! Gayle Minneapolis

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Charm4u76132 wrote: »

Wanted to also mention a high priority for today: kitchen cleaning and disinfecting the stove top, microwave and countertops. Affirmation: 'I deserve to live in a clean, healthy and organized home.'

Oh I do too, and I tore down my kitchen ceiling (both of them) on the weekend and my house is covered in rock wool dust, and there are 14 garbage bags in my driveway and 3 recycling bins full of (soppin wet ) ceiling tiles and assorted bits of old lumber that people have put up there over the years. And of course mustn't forget the mouse nest . The 2' X 3' by 18" high mouse nest. So if you have any energy left when you are done yours, could you please come over here and give me the kick in the butt I need to get out there and clean up that mess? I am hiding in my office, pretending I am working to avoid going in there.

Cheri in Sunny NE Ohio

Happy Tuesday ! ! !

Beth (and Mame) – Hugs ! My paternal grandfather was the same way. He could cut you down in the most subtle or direct ways. But when you had something you hoped he could be proud of, he would say why didn’t you do even better than that, or “grandparents never think that way” or something else non-supportive. My mom REFUSED to visit him for many, many years, and even gave herself a migraine before his funeral and didn’t attend. I hope you can help your son’s remember the best when the time comes. And yes, your mom meant well when she showed you her funeral outfit. It is a difficult thing to discuss, but will make your life simpler when the time comes. More hugs ! ! !

Miriam – I love full-spectrum lamps. They help me sleep in the winter.

Becca – Welcome to Bonkers-ville. I feel like I am there, too. Just too many borderline-bad things happening at the same time. Even good stress is stress. Hugs ! ! !

Dreid – I understand. When I am faced with food that I know is not good for me, my brain shuts off and I can’t stop myself from eating it sometimes. Keep trying, the ladies here are wonderful. I hope we can help each other.

DJ – Thanks for the hug. Sometimes my personality gets in the way of other people having their trouble, so hugs are better than my opinion when a person really just needs to feel heard, and not fixed. Plus, I feel the hugs coming back, and I needed that last night. // Yes, I have been stocking up on meat lately, because DS isn’t done with his growth spurt yet, and I shop less in the winter because I’m afraid of falling in the snowy and/or icy parking lots. 2 huge salmon, 2-4pound packs of chicken fajita meat, 2 -5 pound packs of ground beef, at least 2 dozen pot pies or other assorted frozen dinners, Hot dogs, brats (a total of 8 grocery bags stuffed full of meat and meals). The only thing we saved was the turkey (only about ½ inch thawed and the rest still frozen solid). I also saved the frozen vegetables and shredded cheese, but I’m not convinced that the vegetables will be edible. Thanks for the sympathy on that loss. // LOVE that outfit ! ! !

Janetr – very insightful. Nice job recognizing that trigger and starting the process of re-focus on throwing away food (it is so hard to do ! ).

Nancy (TX) – Hugs for your frustration. That’s a long time to have wet clothes. The only thing I know of that will even come close to removing that smell is OxyClean, and even that will take a day-long soak. Good luck. // My car needs another bulb, this time in the right turn signal (just replaced a brake light last week). Crazy Cars !

Sharon – Your DGS sounds a lot like my DS and DH. We went to the County Fair, and they spent well over $60 just eating food. // So sorry you missed watching your brother. I find those events fun even when I don’t know anyone, so seeing a sibling would be totally COOL ! ! ! // Hugs for all the stressors with DH.

Heather – Good job taking that first step.

Lisa, Pip, et al – I am also an untucker. It is a rare shirt that I feel looks good on me when tucked, unless it is the “bloused” to hang a certain way. I was that way even when thin. I took a mirror picture of myself Friday night, and my daughter told me it is time to get rid of all the extremely baggy clothes, but I’m still self-conscious about my belly.

Joyce – Thanks for so elegantly suggesting that which I was unable to state without sounding bossy. We all want what is best for each other, and it’s hard to put into words the difficult life steps that will make survival easier, because we don’t want to consider surviving our children. Preparation makes fear of the future a little less stressful and fearful, but nothing makes it painless. I guess I was raised in environments that discussed end-of-life choices very early, so although discussing it is sad, it is a necessary sadness that we work through together, and we stick together VERY tightly when it is time to execute those wishes. Believe me, some slightly more distant relatives sometimes have their own beliefs, and they will pull out all the stops to get each of us to change our minds or go against each other. I signed papers for both my parents (now just Dad), and everyone I am close with is aware of my wishes. See, I did it again. I get too bossy and chatty, and say WAY more than I need. But in review, I'm not sure what to delete with out making it sound confusing. So, please understand that my intention is NOT to be bossy, but only to share and offer more (((((hugs ))))) ! ! !

When my DH had his mid-life crisis, the thing said to me that made the most sense was “keep or start exercising, because when you feel good about yourself, you will be able to make logical decisions instead of emotional decisions about your relationship.” I still don’t trust DH 100%, and he is aware that I probably never will. But I don’t spend every minute of every day wondering what will be revealed next, or what will make me angry, or what he will do or not do to make me suspicious again. I just go along in life, ask questions, and drag him back to “worshipping” me when he starts to slip again, because I know better than to let it get that far. This is one way that I take care of myself, even if it means spending less time worrying about what he wants. I work-out for me, and my sanity, and if he doesn’t like it he can come along and work out (or watch) with me.

Sandi – when I first started on MFP I struggled to stay within calories of maintenance. I didn’t think I would ever be successful at losing weight. I haven’t lost much this time around, but I feel more positive every day that I will be able to succeed, and most of the thanks goes to all these wonderful ladies on this thread. I opened my food diary to friends, and they have made suggestions. Plus, dumping all my garbage here helps clear my mind to allow room for success. Thank You to everyone here ! ! !

Heather – I hope you will feel the arms of all of us on this thread, as we hug you, as you talk with your son. Someone else said awhile back that on some level your son probably already knows. Remember, he loves you for you, and what someone else did to you when you had no control will not change that. Hugs ! ! !

Charm – You Go Girl !!! Take care of everything in one big sweep. So happy for you!

Last night DS went with my Dad at a Brewer's game, and DH made Kraft Mac & Cheese for supper (nothing else). He only saved me a tiny spoonful, so I had that with 4 HUGE brussel sprouts and baked cod (almost 6 oz piece). It felt like a successful evening (until I found the freezer situation in the basement). Now, I am hoping to continue on that path, because it feels so good. I haven't lost any actual pounds this week, but I feel healthy, and my clothes fit well. I'm not terribly thrilled with the belly that used to be around my waist but is now sagging under my waistline, but i know it means progress (and I noticed a few others talking about a similar situation, so I feel like part of "the group"). Thank you to everyone who shares these personal situations, so I feel less weird and alone. You are all such a wonderful part of my sisterhood.

Hugs for Everyone ! ! ! (and I really mean it, because I could use the hugs back. )

Terri in Milwaukee

I'm from Northampton Heather.

Kibbly - you're not too far away from my DSIL. I'm ashamed to say I've never been to Northampton. :embarassed:

Well, I've just received an email from my DDIL, the clinical psychologist, to say that my son is incredibly stressed with work at the moment and she doesn't think now is the right time to discuss anything he might find difficult. Apparently he has a "launch" to get through and she thinks it should wait till after that. I'm not sure how she knows it might be such sensitive stuff, but she might have guessed. I'm happy to wait as I'm a long way from finishing the book. At least I have broached the possibility of a discussion.
Apparently after the DGCs visit to Arsenal at the weekend, when I posted the photo, DGS has refused to take off his new football shirt with his name on the back and his socks for three days. :laugh:

Thanks everyone for the hugs.

Heather UK

Dear Kris,
My sister is seven years older than her husband. It is working out fine. Married thirty years. Of course, my sister is special. You know...maybe you're special. Could be... You know, not all men are idiots...some of them really love a woman. I'm sure he has thought about whether he can accept your aging. He must have decided that he could.
It is true (I'm 57) that our bodies require an entirely different standard of care every decade. Frankly, it would be difficult to starve me. At this point I could live on practically nothing. I guess I should be happy.
I'm happy to be pain free. Are you pain free? Makes me feel lucky.
Mame

GE Repair Man NEVER showed up. Feel like they LIED. Sitting here crying my eyes out.

Charm4u76132 wrote: »

GE Repair Man NEVER showed up. Feel like they LIED. Sitting here crying my eyes out.

When did you buy the washing machine?

margaretturk wrote: »

Lenora highlight the star by the title of this page. It should turn yellow. Then when you hit the gray star at the top it should direct you to here. I need to remind myself to do this when the new month starts.

Star remains gray - won't turn yellow.