Dealing with sabatozors
lauralash1024
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Curious to know if any of you have diet sabatozors in your life and how do you handle it? I Have too many in my life and I find it difficult at times. 
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Can you elaborate please?0
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Are they sneaking lard into your dinners?0
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I am responsible for my health. Other people don't affect my plan. Stick to your plan and ignore the haters. I'm assuming you are talking about people undermining your progress, yes?0
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Sorry, no, I don't have those. No one can tempt me off course except me.
Make it clear to those around you that this is your lifestyle choice, and they should back off.
Cheers, h0 -
Do they make you cook your food in a ridiculously small kitchen like this? Because that would be a sabotage by a truly devious saboteur.
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No, but I had to break ties with former "friends" who did not share my values when it came to health, wellness and fitness.lauralash1024 wrote: »Curious to know if any of you have diet sabatozors in your life and how do you handle it? I Have too many in my life and I find it difficult at times.
All we ever did when together was eat and drink, so the common interest was gone.
I made new friends on the same page, and all is well.
At day's end, nobody can sabotage you without your full co-operation.0 -
You say nooo so many times that eventually they get tired of asking0
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Do you mean people who throw you down and tie you up and shove 32 ozs. of peanut butter down your throat, or people who say, "Would you like a cookie?" How about people who bring donuts to work as opposed to people who take your car keys away so that you can't drive to the gym and then tie you up so that you can't even take a walk? What kind of sabotage are you experiencing?0
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Mother in law moved in with us and continuously brings in junk food and cooks high fat meals. I have continuously told her that we try to live healthy but she could continues to ignore my wishes. I keep plugging along, make my own meals, but I will say thr... Sorry guess I'm just venting.0
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"sabatozor"....?
Is that like a kind of bulldozer?0 -
People who care about me would never sabotage my commitment to my health. They wouldn't be in my inner circle otherwise.0
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lauralash1024 wrote: »Mother in law moved in with us and continuously brings in junk food and cooks high fat meals. I have continuously told her that we try to live healthy but she could continues to ignore my wishes. I keep plugging along, make my own meals, but I will say thr... Sorry guess I'm just venting.
That's irritating, but not sabotage. She's just refusing to change. All you can really do is keep making your own food, and ignoring what she brings in. If she uses food you have bought and then cooks things you don't want with it, tell her that's not acceptable and that if she wants to cook those things, she has to buy her own groceries.0 -
lauralash1024 wrote: »Mother in law moved in with us and continuously brings in junk food and cooks high fat meals. I have continuously told her that we try to live healthy but she could continues to ignore my wishes. I keep plugging along, make my own meals, but I will say thr... Sorry guess I'm just venting.
If nobody eats the junk food or fat-laden food she is cooking, she will tire of it soon enough. She will probablyu complain loudly that she isn't appreciated. Give her a cookbook with healthy foods. You can turn this around in a positive manner.0 -
Personally I like the one where I was taken out for a birthday dinner on Monday night. I wouldn't allow myself to leave until I had ate the gooey chocolate cake and finished the bottle of wine. Delayed departure for an hour, but hey, it was my BD.
Self sabotazo can be wonderful, and guilt free.
Cheers, h.0 -
Give mama a place in the pantry to keep her snacks, tell her that's her spot for her food. You don't touch it. Just because you're on a particular plan doesn't mean she has to be, too.
As for her cooking, you can either eat a small portion of hers or cook your own. Explain to her you are eating in a particular way for your personal health goals, and her style of cooking is too high calorie for your needs. Why does it have to be hard or dramatic?0 -
She is not forcing you to eat it...
She is a grown woman and allowed to bring in her own food/eat what she likes.0 -
^ she has her own apartment, kitchen etc... Believe me it's done purposely. I have asked her to stop not even due to my dieting, but so my kids wouldn't eat the garbage. Still doesn't get it.0
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lauralash1024 wrote: »^ she has her own apartment, kitchen etc... Believe me it's done purposely.
So don't eat it.0 -
My grandma used to flat out deliberately bake goodies for my brother and dad any time she got a whisper that my mum and I were trying to lose weight. I just had to decide what I wanted more.0
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Alatariel75 wrote: »My grandma used to flat out deliberately bake goodies for my brother and dad any time she got a whisper that my mum and I were trying to lose weight. I just had to decide what I wanted more.
I hear ya! I swear that's what she does. My daughters and I are convinced. Haha0 -
atypicalsmith wrote: »lauralash1024 wrote: »^ she has her own apartment, kitchen etc... Believe me it's done purposely.
So don't eat it.
Easy for me, not for my husband or kids.0 -
lauralash1024 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »My grandma used to flat out deliberately bake goodies for my brother and dad any time she got a whisper that my mum and I were trying to lose weight. I just had to decide what I wanted more.
I hear ya! I swear that's what she does. My daughters and I are convinced. Haha
It helped to remember that she was doing it because she wanted to see us fail (seriously, she was a horrid old woman) and that would help a lot when I'd reach for whatever it was she made.0 -
lauralash1024 wrote: »atypicalsmith wrote: »lauralash1024 wrote: »^ she has her own apartment, kitchen etc... Believe me it's done purposely.
So don't eat it.
Easy for me, not for my husband or kids.
If they want to eat it, why stop them? Your husband is a grown man and can chose what he wants to eat himself. As for the kids, if you make certain foods out as being "bad" you are setting them up for food issues down the road. Plus, if you tell them that something is bad, they tend to want it more.0 -
Are you married to Ray Romano? I guess, this is what her love looks like, and you're stuck with it
Kidding, but I think this is beyond the food, honestly.
What else is she doing during the day? Does she have friends, other hobbies than cooking, is she mobile? I basically think you should get her busy doing something else. If she's on her own other than spending time with you guys, hook her up with some other people her age in the neighbourhood (or maybe with a senior's centre, or a community centre, they often have activities for seniors [and people of all ages]).
How often is she bringing stuff up (daily, every dinner, just sweets)? (How intrusive is it, is what I'm trying to get at)0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »lauralash1024 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »My grandma used to flat out deliberately bake goodies for my brother and dad any time she got a whisper that my mum and I were trying to lose weight. I just had to decide what I wanted more.
I hear ya! I swear that's what she does. My daughters and I are convinced. Haha
It helped to remember that she was doing it because she wanted to see us fail (seriously, she was a horrid old woman) and that would help a lot when I'd reach for whatever it was she made.
Jeezus0 -
lauralash1024 wrote: »atypicalsmith wrote: »lauralash1024 wrote: »^ she has her own apartment, kitchen etc... Believe me it's done purposely.
So don't eat it.
Easy for me, not for my husband or kids.
If they want to eat it, why stop them? Your husband is a grown man and can chose what he wants to eat himself. As for the kids, if you make certain foods out as being "bad" you are setting them up for food issues down the road. Plus, if you tell them that something is bad, they tend to want it more.
She's the mom, she's allowed to determine how she'd like her kids to eat.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »lauralash1024 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »My grandma used to flat out deliberately bake goodies for my brother and dad any time she got a whisper that my mum and I were trying to lose weight. I just had to decide what I wanted more.
I hear ya! I swear that's what she does. My daughters and I are convinced. Haha
It helped to remember that she was doing it because she wanted to see us fail (seriously, she was a horrid old woman) and that would help a lot when I'd reach for whatever it was she made.
Jeezus
No, seriously haahaa. She was like something out of a sitcom. She would call on weigh-in day, and I'd answer the phone and she wouldn't even say hello, she'd just demand "how much?" and if I hadn't lost weight she'd make snarty remarks and hang up. It never bothered me, it makes for great stories, but yeah. She was hilariously horrid.0 -
I wish people would cook for me every now and again.0
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