Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »

OK so I am back from my mini Vacation (we didn't go anywhere; I just had doctor consults and didn't want to be at work for a few days). Trying to catch up with everyone but with 900 new posts...not sure how well I'll do.

Wed I had doctor consults for my surgeries all day and...discussed it with DH and I booked surgeries for 10/30! 2 surgeons estimated they'd remove about 8 lbs of skin, the 3rd and 4th ones said it'd be closer to 10 lb. Either way, in 10.5 weeks I'll be having surgery! Yippie! I'm a candidate for insurance covering some of it, but we're preparing like they won't cover anything, so we'll see... I'm getting a full abdominoplasty with an extended cut to grab skin from the sides and a fleur de lis (vertical) cut which grabs even more. Plus a breast reduction. I'll have extensive scarring but it'll fade and it's worth it.

All 4 docs said not to lose anymore weight, just maintain, because I'm actually on the "skinny side" underneath all the skin. That was weird but I guess it's to be expected. I see myself as lumpy and fat but it's almost all skin- I weighed in at 127 and 128 at 2 of the offices (the other 2 didn't weigh me). If they take 8 lb of skin that puts me at 119-120. I'm 5'4.5. So now I'm trying to figure out how to eat enough to maintain.

That's super great! I want to see pics!

So, I am not sure this is an NSV. Decided to dig some pants to wear today out of the dry cleaner bags in my closet and I went through 3 pairs of pants before I found a pair that 'sort of' fit. Rest were ridiculously huge. I am starting to wear skirts EVERY day as nothing fits me anymore. And I haunt Marshalls for pants that fit me but they haven't had anything good. I am sad to lose all these really nice pants. But they were folded and put in the 'to be donated' pile.

ShibaEars wrote: »

orangesmartie wrote: »

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

Two days early, but I'll chip in with everyone else and wish Charlie Bucket a happy, messy, delicious, and wonderfully sticky birthday!

Hahaha thank you!

We're having a lovely birthday weekend so far, we came to a soft play centre this.morning and we're still here! He's having a whale of a time. I want to go home and nap he shows no signs of slowing down!

I think your Monday is almost over there, but hope you had a great birthday weekend with Charlie! And happy birthday Charlie!

Me too!

Thanks for all the birthday wishes for Charlie. We've had a manic party afternoon and I've just left, as I have to make the drive back to London tonight. He's had a brilliant day and is busy telling everyone he's 3.

Awesome NSVs @kellienw335 and @pofoster21!
Awesome and good luck for your surgeries (even though it' still months away), @xLoveLikeWinterx! Also..I had to laugh that your 3 year old pets your belly...but it would make me sad too. It is cute, though!

jthurman3 wrote: »

@FroggyBug I hope your next session feels a bit more productive. I have had experiences with counseling that were helpful and others that were much less so. It totally depends on the counselor, my expectations, and my commitment to the process. I've never had a couples session, though, and think that would be especially difficult. I'm glad you and SO had a nice time hanging out after the session, though! That's great!

Thanks for this reply. Yea, it's too bad that I only get 5 free sessions (I'll have to see if my insurance will cover any more than that though). The counselor said he usually does seperate counseling sessions too as well as together which helps because we can talk about our issues to him individually and then talk together later. I think this would probably help.

KylerJaye wrote: »

thank you all for the thoughts, it's appreciated

I was happy to see a reply from you but sad that you had another bad date. I'm so sorry...

firstly, congrats to the NSV ladies!!! keep kickin butt!

and of course...

*post date update*

saturday evening.
ok, so dude says he'll meet me at a local establishment (i'm going strong in keeping it in walking distance!), and it'll take him about 45 minutes to get there. ok, seeya soon!
45 minutes comes and goes and dude is no where to be found.
now he says his gps got him lost, making him almost a full half hour late. i'm thinking he just left his house later than he said and ended up late. six of one, half dozen of another....

dude says he's finally arrived, i walk over to the establishment, he's no where to be found. swell. send me a msg that he's at a different location and can't i just meet him there? umm...no. i gave him the directions to get from the place he's at to the originally agreed upon locale.

we go in, sit at the bar,i have a redds while he's sippin vodka crans after his original sweet tea vodka with iced tea order was denied (completely pointless detail, but i found it really amusing at the time).

so, sitting at the bar, the dude has basically no conversation skills. mind you i'm not the greatest conversationalist, but at least i try. so we're getting no where fast so i suggest we go play pool. and he says naw, i'm not really very good at it. seriously? so i say, well i'm not either, so we'll really get our monies worth with the length of the game. so at least at this point the random awkward silences are disguised.

dude was nice enough, but literally there was no chemistry what so ever. play two games of pool, have a few drinks, minor chit chat, it's gettin kinda late and he says he should probably get going so he doesn't fall asleep behind the wheel.

OK! BYE!

sigh...this blows...

pofoster21 wrote: »

So, I am not sure this is an NSV. Decided to dig some pants to wear today out of the dry cleaner bags in my closet and I went through 3 pairs of pants before I found a pair that 'sort of' fit. Rest were ridiculously huge. I am starting to wear skirts EVERY day as nothing fits me anymore. And I haunt Marshalls for pants that fit me but they haven't had anything good. I am sad to lose all these really nice pants. But they were folded and put in the 'to be donated' pile.

Totally counts as a NSV. Is tailoring out of the question if you otherwise really like the pants?

KylerJaye wrote: »

firstly, congrats to the NSV ladies!!! keep kickin butt!

and of course...

*post date update*

saturday evening.
ok, so dude says he'll meet me at a local establishment (i'm going strong in keeping it in walking distance!), and it'll take him about 45 minutes to get there. ok, seeya soon!
45 minutes comes and goes and dude is no where to be found.
now he says his gps got him lost, making him almost a full half hour late. i'm thinking he just left his house later than he said and ended up late. six of one, half dozen of another....

dude says he's finally arrived, i walk over to the establishment, he's no where to be found. swell. send me a msg that he's at a different location and can't i just meet him there? umm...no. i gave him the directions to get from the place he's at to the originally agreed upon locale.

we go in, sit at the bar,i have a redds while he's sippin vodka crans after his original sweet tea vodka with iced tea order was denied (completely pointless detail, but i found it really amusing at the time).

so, sitting at the bar, the dude has basically no conversation skills. mind you i'm not the greatest conversationalist, but at least i try. so we're getting no where fast so i suggest we go play pool. and he says naw, i'm not really very good at it. seriously? so i say, well i'm not either, so we'll really get our monies worth with the length of the game. so at least at this point the random awkward silences are disguised.

dude was nice enough, but literally there was no chemistry what so ever. play two games of pool, have a few drinks, minor chit chat, it's gettin kinda late and he says he should probably get going so he doesn't fall asleep behind the wheel.

OK! BYE!

sigh...this blows...

Bummer. Kissin' a lot of frogs. (Not literally... )