How many exercise to find love ?

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  • Neversettle78
    Neversettle78 Posts: 206 Member
    sealove627 wrote: »
    I exercise because I love myself. And when I'm at the gym, I don't look around me because I am focused on the task at hand. Plus it's a little like dating someone at work. You don't want to dip your pen in the company ink. If things go bad, do you really want it to be awkward at the place you go to make yourself better?

    I was slow learning this...now I have to check the parking lot to see if I need to prepare myself mentally for who may be inside...shot myself in the foot.
  • enkiemonkey
    enkiemonkey Posts: 82 Member
    This is a very interesting question.

    I do echo a lot of the sentiments here that health and fitness starts with yourself.

    However, if we are to be honest. In a dating market, like attracts like (gross generalization of course). It's (for the lack of a better description) an optimization exercise of choosing the best mate for ourselves - with one of the criterion being physical attraction. But as many here pointed out, attraction alone is a terrible way to look for a life partner. I think being fit, aside for your own health, is also a way to optimize your chance to find the best mate possible (NOT the only factor - before people get mad and jump down my throat).

    For me personally, I am in a relationship and trying to get fit and trim down. The original motivation started a month ago because I could feel my health breaking down from stress. I'm 30 days in, 5-8 lbs lighter, eating healthy and feeling great. I could see that it had an effect in my relationship in that I feel sexy and confident. I can only imagine how that would affect me and how I interact with dates if I were to be single.

    I absolutely agree that your own health and happiness should be #1. And this ultimately translates and affects your relationships and dating life - hopefully in a positive way.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,621 Member
    borimodel543 wrote: »
    Lol that's awesome !! But we all wanna look sexy for that special someone lol

    Nope. This is not anywhere on my list, let alone in the top ten. At 59, in an age population where women significantly outnumber men, and a fair fraction of the single men are single for a reason, I'm not thinking that way. Plus I'm a widow, had a long (21 year) happy marriage, which is more than most people ever get, so I'm over quota. I've even considered making a personal rule that if any man who knew me when I was fat wants to date me when I am thin, I should say "no" because he's obviously shallow.

    I want to be healthy, strong, and independent *for me*. You're in a very different demographic.
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    edited August 2015
    When I exercise love is usually involved. My love for food and the extra calories exercise gives me. To be honest, having been a happy morbidly obese person who had plenty of love, out of first hand experience I'm completely satisfied with what love brings me at any shape, weight or age. If I'm "not fit enough" for someone, then that's a high maintenance pursuit I'm not willing to invest in.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    borimodel543 wrote: »
    Wow that's awesome all of you, see is weird because, I get hit on but always the one I like is very hard to get , is like some freaking luck or something, I have got hit by very hotties but I rejected them because I'm the pass they were little fat , now there not , I'm like I get it I rejected some people because they weren't fit and I wasn't that fit anyways now I get it if you want someone fir you have to be fit because that's what they look for , but in the end is not about your body is about the heart there is were the challenge begins since almost the whole world is very different from each other

    I would reject you for your grammar, spelling and word choice. It's really not clear what you are talking about here.

    I exercise to feel good and to be healthy. Other things are just fringe benefits.
  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    Health, especially as you get older where it becomes more pressing.
    Thats not to say being fit and in shape doesnt give you more options so its a good side bonus.
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