Eating healthy + jealousy?

Yes! I posted about my own attempts to starve myself and it does not work. Train your body to increase your metabolism by... wait for it... eating more nutritious foods. You'll gain weight before you lose it. Try not to compare to your house mate. She'll get fat one day!

nikki5525 wrote: »

Yes! I posted about my own attempts to starve myself and it does not work. Train your body to increase your metabolism by... wait for it... eating more nutritious foods. You'll gain weight before you lose it. Try not to compare to your house mate. She'll get fat one day!

And seriously, what a nasty thing to say. Who would wish that on a friend? Awful attitude right there.

Counterpoint: she may have an ED and be purging.

Just worry about you and what you're eating.

6502programmer wrote: »

Just worry about you and what you're eating.

+1

Yes, that's a tough situation, especially dealing with it on a daily basis. I experienced the same with a (former) friend who could pretty much eat and drink anything while I had to watch just about every morsel I put in my mouth. Although some would disagree, I do believe it was just a metabolism thing. She was very sedentary, so it wasn't that she had more lean muscle mass. She was a complete slug, drank like a sailor on shore leave, and never gained a pound. I ate very healthy and exercised 4-5 days a week. I was around her enough to know she did not have an ED, it was just the roll of the dice.

Sadly, this person also took a great deal of pleasure in the fact that I struggled with my weight and would often serve up backhanded compliments. If I'd have lost a few pounds she'd say something like, "Awesome that you've been able to shed a few pounds, your backside was looking pretty wide." or "I gave my old jeans to my sister because I know they wouldn't have fit you." Stuff like that. She would also try to push me to overeat, making really fattening dishes then inviting me over or going through fast-food drive-thrus when I was in the car with her. This is one of the reasons we are no longer friends. She reveled in my struggles because it validated her in some weird way. After years of this behavior, I finally discovered I didn't need frien-emies like her in my life. I now choose to surround myself with more positive people who truly support me.

Assuming your friend is not trying to sabotage you, and if you value this friendship, then you'll have to deal with your own jealousy if you can. If you can't get a handle on this, then maybe it's time to find a new house mate!

I have lots of people do this with me actually.
I am overweight, but when I put my mind to it, can stop myself from gaining weight and lose weight quick.
Before, I was just being lazy.
But some people kinda get annoyed with me cause I eat two brownies and don't gain weight and still lose another pound the following week.
Thanks to MFP by the way.
I just finished a business trip, started off with a buffet of shrimp (not fried) and steamed veggies then nibbled, not ate, on the dessert bar. Had a late night snack of fruit. And through out the two days had snacked on my Fiber One small bars. The meeting I had to sample junk food, then after that and on our way home we had a buffet, I stayed away from bread, fried food and dessert. Then didn't eat at all when I got home.
Then checked my weight this morn for MFP Biggest Loser challenge and hadn't gained a pound.
I had told that to a girl at work cause I was happy with my accomplishment and I got the usual. "I would have gained weight just by looking at that."
I found out that I don't lose weight by salads and all. I found out I maintain and lose weight better by eating as much protein as I can and eating often throughout the entire day.
I know you feel aggravated about seeing your roommate like that, but some people's biology are just different from others.
The girl I was talking about, I work with her girlfriend, and her girlfriend eats like crazy and loses weight in the blink of an eye while her girlfriend has to make a really big push to lose weight.

pianofire wrote: »

Okay, I've tried to ignore it... but secretly, jealousy is taking over my weight loss journey. I've tried to blame it on metabolism and a range of other biological factors, but I'm just starting to get so annoyed I need to see if other people have experienced this.

My house mate has the worst diet I think I've ever encountered. Yesterday, I paid attention to what she ate. It was a pretty typical day. She had tuna pasta bake loaded with butter and cheese for breakfast, followed by nachos with the works, a bowl of cereal, a bag of pistachios, soft drink, more pasta and then went out to get KFC chips at about 3am. She weighs 55kg-ish and is the same height as me (163cm-ish).

I know i shouldn't care what others eat... but it's pretty annoying when I basically live off salad, low carb veg, tiny portions of poached lean protein and black coffee. I weigh EVERYTHING but I am and always will be, bigger than her... even though I'm not overweight anymore, I just have to work so much harder to stay a weight that I'm happy with. It makes me so jealous that I've actively fantasized about her getting fat one day. Bad, I know.

It kind of makes me want to throw in the towel altogether.

Anyone else experienced this?

Maybe you need a different house mate or spend less time together. Find someone fatter than you who struggles even more so you can feel smug. Kidding. Everyone has their own challenges in life. Someone out there is envious of you and how easy you have it.

Your housemate has a different body, different activity level, and eats different food. If she is a healthy weight and isn't gaining or losing then she is getting the right calories for her.
A lot of us have to work harder to lose or maintain.

marsia1234 wrote: »

Think about all the unhealthy things she is putting in her body. She may weigh less but who do you think will be better off if you both got sick?!
Plus it may catch up with her some day?
Your health is your wealth ☺️

I could not agree with this more! I work in an industry where pies, large hot meals and beer are very normal and I get odd looks when I stick with my clean, healthier foods. I admit that some days I would love to just demolish pizza, or hot chips and gravy - comfort foods, but then I just think about how much happier my insides are! Yes, your housemate might be 'slimmer' but that doesn't mean she feels good.

Just focus on yourself and your well being.

I found that once I started lifting bigger weights and eating cleanly for most of my diet the volume of food I needed to hit my macros was actually quite big, so I never feel as though I'm starving myself. And if you want some fun recipes to switch up your clean eating, instead of just salad and a tiny portion of lean protein - these are some of my favourite websites;

http://www.movenourishbelieve.com/category/recipes/
https://www.thehealthychef.com/category/recipes/
http://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/

Now I make people jealous of what I eat, but it's all good stuff


Good luck, you can do it!