What do you say to those that arent encouraging?

You are gonna get a lot of comments on this haha we don't like unsupportive people. I would be double determined and keep it up then you can have the pleasure of rubbing it in his face. I would even add that to your profile on your list of goals.

wow - don't listen to your fiance! If he won't support you getting healthier you need to look elsewhere. Start with yourself, family, friends and here of course. Please don't let him drag you down. Does his opinion really matter to you about your health? Good luck - you can do it - one day at a time!!

First of all, that sucks. But some people don't get it and they never will. I think the best thing in those circumstances is to zip it....say nothing. Prove him wrong with your results! If you're serious, then in no time, you're going to start feeling and looking better and he's gonna see that and think to himself, "Man, I was wrong." Nothing feels better than doing this for you, but it feels damn good when you can prove someone wrong along the way

I certainly hope he is not this unsupportive in other areas in your life Not the best quality in someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

Honestly It is easier if he supports you however your doing it for you and not for him or anyone else or it is very difficult to stick with it anyways. Do it for yourself.. Let the results be your encouragement.. And all of us here as well...

He will see it and come around.. Just dont let it get you discouraged.. Do it consistantly, stay focused and enjoy the results!

(then IN HIS FACE!!!)

F$%K off? Is what I say to those kind of people.

To me, it sounds like a challenge. Sometimes, if I challenge myself, I fail. However, if someone else challenges me, I excel to incredible lengths. So, not only should you make him eat his words, challenge him back. Or pull the ever so fun - "Ok, if I can stay committed (you can prove my printing out your food reports/exercise reports) and reach my goal, (insert what you want here...maybe he treats you to a spa day). If I give in and dont manage, I (insert what you'll do)"

It sounds silly, but it works like a charm every time.

I just started this journey yesterday and my fiance looks at me and says "I give you a week and you will be done with it". I was offended and not happy with that comment. I need all the support and encouragement I can get especially from him. I didnt know what to say to him so I just said "ok whatever you say"

Use it to make you more determined - my husband was like that --- Now all he says is "wow, look at you in that outfit," and "oh, heck no you are not wearing that outside this house." ~~~~ it sure changed his tune. I took the lack of his faith and used it to help me stick with it - he made me more determined to succeed.

You will do it!!!!! Don't make him right, make him realize just how amazing you are when you set your mind to it!!!!!! :drinker:

i would just keep going and prove him wrong. I used to have a BF like that. HE was not supported when i joined weight watchers he laughed at me too. So i lost 15 pounds to prove him wrong. After i was done with WW i put back on the weight plus more : ( but then when we ened things i lost 40pounds. If your heart is into losing weight and feeling good about yourself then keep doing what you are doing. Don't give up!!!!!

That was pretty harsh..what really gets me is when they say, "oh that's great your trying to get in shape and eat right, here eat half of this pie with me!" Then they get offended if you don't. Getting in shape is so hard, especially when one is used to eating whatever they want and not exercising when they should. That's the case for me anyway. I've decided that I need to do this for me, and even though I will and have failed at times, its not their body its mine. They can say and do what they want. I will succeed in time, and you will to. Put the negativity out of your mind and focus on your goal, but remember changing your life style takes time. It won't happen over night, so don't get frustrated when it doesn't. Just keep on going and when you are sucessful chances are others will be saying I want to be healthy too!!

One thing I have learned through my process is that while encouragement is awesome...what I get here is perfect...therefore I don't make my journey and efforts real public information. I eat what I eat...I exercise like I exercise. I get snarky comments from some but I am learning ...and mind you I said learning...to let them go. I don't talk about calories and exercise except with people who like to talk about it too...I never shared with my hubby that I was going to work on controlling portion sizes. I never discussed with him MFP until I knew it would be successful for me..and I knew I could handle this in an emotionally healthy way (old eating disorder sneaks up at times) My hubby is very cool. He is very supportive of my endeavors in life...partly because I expect it of him...I do things to make myself better and he better be on board. As long as I am healthy and strong and not neglecting other important things in my life then he supports me. If fiance is not supportive here I hope he encourages and supports other things you do in your life..if he doesn't you should start expecting and demanding that support in your positive endeavors.

My bf was the same way when I began mine. He gave me 2 weeks until it would be over.....here I am 9 months later. And in the time it takes to grow a baby, I lost 40lbs.

I don't have to use words anymore.....he had to eat his!!

I, at the time, told him that wasn't very nice and thanks for the encouragement (insert sarcasm here). He thought by saying what he did, that I would be motivated to prove him wrong. It wasn't him I was doing it for....so I ignored him.

I wish you much luck on your journey and feel free to add me if you would like more support :flowerforyou:

My first question is does your boyfriend tend to be jealous of other men? if so, there is your answer. He doesn't want to encourage you because he doesn't want you reaching your goals and having other men attracted to you. My second question is in other things is he a good boyfriend (does he work, is he kind, loving, supportive)..if yes then good for you and prove him wrong by sticking with it. If he is not then my answer is the same...he is afraid you will reach a goal, get attention else where and leave him. If he is any of these negative factors I have mentioned then I say move on without him. If he is a good guy and was just being insensitive then you need to sit him down and explain how important this is to you and that you need his help and encouragement.

First off, don't let him sabatage your efforts with his negativity! You can do this! I would actually do it just to prove him wrong, but hey, you are here for you. Let your fiance know that you are doing this for you, and if he can't be supportive then don't say anything at all!! There will be times when you get discouraged but that is why we are here! You will have all kinds of support on here. Add friends to your site, we will support you! Then when you lose your weight, rub it in his face!!!!! LOL good luck. and good job on the 1 lb. lost!!!