People shoving food in your face...ugh!
rocknlotsofrolls
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This is why I hate going out to friends houses. They've made this wonderful new dish that you just have to try! You don't want to be rude and refuse, but you know that if you have a problem with moderation after taking a bite of something delicious, it's hard not to overeat. We are going to a Halloween party friday night, and if it wasn't for my little boy, I wouldn't even go. My friend has a little boy, and he plays with him. She's one of those bubbly kind of girls that put's a spoonful of food to your mouth and says, "oh, you have to try this, it's delicious." She's also the kind of girl that will tell you you're not fat, when it's obvious you are. I would just tell her off, but I'm a peacemaker, and I don't like to cause scenes. What would you do? Wow, I just realized that this sounds like a Dear Abby column!
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Plan ahead:
Do a little more exercise that day
Have smaller meals earlier in the day
Give yourself a pre-set calorie goal for the party
Most of all - don't be afraid to say NO. YOU (no one else) has the ultimate say-so in what goes into your body.
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Just skip lunch or breakfast that day to make up for going over a bit at the party.
Or don't let other people determine what you eat....0 -
Thank-you juggernaut. Good advice.0
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Just say no or you're not feeling well or you ate too much at lunch and you're still stuffed etc.0
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rocknlotsofrolls wrote: »This is why I hate going out to friends houses. They've made this wonderful new dish that you just have to try! You don't want to be rude and refuse, but you know that if you have a problem with moderation after taking a bite of something delicious, it's hard not to overeat. We are going to a Halloween party friday night, and if it wasn't for my little boy, I wouldn't even go. My friend has a little boy, and he plays with him. She's one of those bubbly kind of girls that put's a spoonful of food to your mouth and says, "oh, you have to try this, it's delicious." She's also the kind of girl that will tell you you're not fat, when it's obvious you are. I would just tell her off, but I'm a peacemaker, and I don't like to cause scenes. What would you do? Wow, I just realized that this sounds like a Dear Abby column!
That spoon full didnt make you overweight or hurt your weight loss journey
It is all the things we eat next to it...and more and more and more
Just try to plan indeed what juggernaut says littlebit more exercise that day etc
Go a day to maintaining level ( i did this, my favorite option lol)
And next day back on track.
And indeed your body not theirs say NO ones in a while. I did lots of times. Specially when i knew there was a lot of salt in the food that i can not have.
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Just say, "No thanks". And take a step sideways. You are in charge of what you eat and it's not rude to say, "No thanks".0
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If she is your friend why can't you explain to her how you feel?0
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Politeness is overrated. You not gonna lose any friends (real ones anyways) if you will straight up refuse a snack once in a while. The word "no" does not cause scenes or fights, if they are attacking you or causing a scene because you say no to food there is something wrong with your fiends.0
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No one can make me eat food that I don't want. Same for you, OP. It's NOT rude to politely decline. You can say thank you, you aren't hungry right now, but you'd like to take a bit with you to try later. Or say no thank you and leave it at that.0
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I see so issue. Free food > food you have to pay for. Just work it into your calorie goal.0
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Just say no. If she is offended those are her issues, not yours. On the flipside, as others have said, one spoonful isn't going to derail your process, or perhaps take those calories from someplace else (smaller breakfast/lunch, no snack that day). Just make sure the decision is yours, and not influenced by how others will feel.0
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Just say no thank you.0
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social situations aren't going away...a big part of the process of learning good livin' is learning how to properly deal with social situations.
i'm a pretty social guy and get together with a couple of my friends pretty much weekly...always there is food and drinks...i plan appropriately. if i know i'm going over to my buddy's house, i'll generally keep breakfast pretty light...lunch as well...usually it's a Saturday so i generally get a ride in and/or some lifting at the gym. i know when i get over there that i have plenty of wiggle room.
beyond that, i've learned that i don't have to eat all of the foodz just because they are there. it's perfectly acceptable to have a taster...or even to say no thank you to something...if people get offended (which I've never experienced), that's on them. also, don't hover around the food...i will generally take a plate and get what i want, grab a beer or a glass of wine and go out to the patio or the living room or wherever people are congregating besides directly by the food.
IDK...i've been doing this good livin' thing for over three years now...my friends know what i'm all about...i don't have any issues just trying some stuff or saying, "no thanks"...or just going to town if that's what i feel like doing. nobody gives me any grief considering that among my friends i'm in the best shape of anyone (excluding my coach)...and they all know how i came to be this way.0 -
thanks for the support guys. I know some of you may not feel this way, but to me, social eating is just as bad as social drinking. The temptation is really big. I will eat less during the day on Friday, and maybe have a boiled egg or something filling before I go, to prevent overeating.0
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Just say you've become gluten and dairy intolerant and you need a special diet. Perhaps you're on a free-range vegan fed chicken only diet.0
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Say no as many times as you need to.
Say things like "It sure looks/smells delicious but I am not hungry at all." " I'm not hungry right now... maybe I could take some home for later."
Change the subject from food to something else. She probably just wants to hear nice things so compliment her on her cooking, house, costume, decorations, etc.
Ask for the recipe (so you can log it later). The food may not be as bad calorie wise as you think.
Take smaller portions and eat slowly.
Take food to share that you feel comfortable eating.
Save some calories for the event. Eat lightly before the event. Do some extra exercise.
Eat at maintenance level that day.
Be busy doing something and moving around. Take pictures, dance, play with the kids, help to clean up, talk to people, walk around the yard or neighborhood.0 -
Just say you've become gluten and dairy intolerant and you need a special diet. Perhaps you're on a free-range vegan fed chicken only diet.
Please don't do this. Lying about allergies makes things worse for those who actually have them. People will see a person claiming to allergic to Somethjng and assume it is safe for someone else who is allergic and can create a dangerous situation.
Just say no thank you.0 -
Great advice Lounmoun. Thank-you so much.0
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Just say you've become gluten and dairy intolerant and you need a special diet. Perhaps you're on a free-range vegan fed chicken only diet.
Please don't do this. Lying about allergies makes things worse for those who actually have them. People will see a person claiming to allergic to Somethjng and assume it is safe for someone else who is allergic and can create a dangerous situation.
Just say no thank you.
Thank-you. I appreciate the advice.0 -
I've found that no thank you generally suffices. Sometimes, I might follow with a little flattery (gee that does look delicious - what recipe did you use? Wow, you are such a generous host making all these wonderful things for your guests...is there anything I can do to help?)
If a bite of something will trigger you to overeat, by all means do not take it unless you want to.0 -
If they offer food you do not want, smile say "No, thank you". Most often they will find other people entice.
If they put a spoonful of food to your mouth you may:- Glare at them and state you are not a 4-year old
- -or- With a startled look, execute a dramatic block in the martial arts style of your choosing. The spoon flying across the room and impaling an innocent bystander will send quite the message.
If they proceed to hold you down and literally shove food in your face, then defend yourself as appropriate and file assault charges.0 -
Or, you can just have fun at the party and get back on track the next day. Dieting does not have to equal incubating yourself in your house from all social events. If you don't want to eat something then dont, but don't blame your neighbors for having the thoughtfulness to invite you into their home and provide food.0
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rocknlotsofrolls wrote: »She's also the kind of girl that will tell you you're not fat, when it's obvious you are
So this conversation where she says you aren't fat.... what preceded that comment? Did she just walk up to you and say, "hey you, you're not fat"? Cause if so, that would be weird...
Or was it when she offered you some of her homemade food at a party that she invited you to and you said, "Oh I can't eat that, I'm too fat?" And she says something like, "don't be silly, you aren't fat, try it"
Gosh, yeah, I can see why you would dislike her so much...
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VioletRojo wrote: »Just say, "No thanks". And take a step sideways. You are in charge of what you eat and it's not rude to say, "No thanks".
This is what I do.
Please do not lie about a food allergy, but you could always say "Oh man, I just brushed my teeth, maybe later". Nothing tastes good after toothpaste.0 -
My go-to excuse is "I'll try a bite of Boyfriend's when he has some!" That's been working for me, but your friend does seem to be pushier about this than my friends and family are.0
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"No, thank you" can sound a little stiff with a close friend. Why not briefly explain that you're watching your calories and really want to succeed? A real friend isn't going to want to tear down your desire to succeed.
Also - the other advice mentioned: fit a bit of the food into your calorie goal.
Please don't hate going to friends' houses!
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lady I work with Is always trying to bring me cake, cookies. I say no thanks bring me fruit or something healthy, I am honest and say I once was over 200 lbs, cant do that again, sorry I cant eat it. I think it is easier to say No the older we get. got to take care of you0
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Stop blaming others for your problems and use self control.
Either say no thanks, insist, and explain why if you must (or throw any other excuse out there you want, like "I already had some"). Or, you could just take a bite and move on with life (its only going to be a small quantity of calories anyways). You don't have to rush the food table, knock everyone out of the way, and scarf down 2 plates full just because you had a small bite.0 -
Just say you've become gluten and dairy intolerant and you need a special diet. Perhaps you're on a free-range vegan fed chicken only diet.
You should only do this if it's true. Otherwise it's dangerous for other people and there are so many other effective ways of saying no.
I use the dairy allergy one a lot - but most of my friends have also survived my poopscapades so when I say I've had enough dairy today they believe me. I had to leave my own birthday party because of too much dairy. I've also had my neck explode in a rash because of too much dairy. But I can have some. Which is why they will see me eating some.0
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