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Fat people are invisible somehow.

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  • Posts: 34,971 Member

    ^^^ this.

    People have preferences and that's totally fine. Just because someone doesn't find you attractive due to your weight does not make them a bad person or a "b****rd". Thinking that all men are supposed to flock to you like they may do with your smaller friends is just a bit ridiculous. If they don't prefer a larger woman than they aren't going to hit on you, big deal! There are plenty of people who don't mind someone being more heavyset.

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  • It's totally a confidence thing. More men than you'd imagine like fuller figures. Not all men, but a fair amount.
  • Posts: 353 Member
    Chenoachem wrote: »
    I think it has more to do with self confidence than anything. I have friends that are very much overweight, but have a high amount of self confidence and were always swarming with guys. I had always been skinny with no self confidence, and had a hard time getting a date. Sometimes our self confidence is linked to how we think others percieve us.

    Very well put.
  • Posts: 281 Member
    I think it's about perception. Maybe you're feeling invisible when your heavier so that is what you see? I've been morbidly obese and low end of the healthy BMI and everything in between throughout life and I never felt invisible. However, I know people who aren't big and still feel that way because it is how they perceive themselves and not how others perceive them.
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