Open vs. closed diaries

I am noticing that I have friends with open diaries, friends with closed diaries, and friends who have their diaries open sometimes, and closed other times. Right now my diary is open.

My question for you all, is, what motivates you to keep your diary open? Does it scare you or make you feel uncomfortable that people may judge what you eat? How much or little you eat?

Why do you keep your diaries closed? Are you worried someone might think you eat too little? Too unhealthily? Or do you just thing it's nobodies dang business (wouldn't argue with you there! though mine is open now)

For those of you who have your diary open sometimes and not other times, what determines why you decide to keep it open or closed?

Mostly just curious about what's going on in people's brains.
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  • missblondi2u
    missblondi2u Posts: 851 Member
    I had my diary closed at first just because it was the default setting. I wanted to use a spreadsheet I found online that pulled data from your log, so I opened it up.

    I left it open because I decided that I really don't care what other people think about what I eat. I am losing weight marvelously, and if the junk I sometimes eat shows somebody that you don't have to eat perfectly to lose weight, I'm happy. Also, I discovered that it's fascinating to read what other people eat everyday, especially those from abroad. Since I'm a self-admitted diary snoop, I think it's only fair that I reciprocate!

    I've seen some people complain that with open diaries they get PMs from people they don't know criticizing their food, but that hasn't happened to me and I would just ignore/block anyone who bothered me with crap like that.
  • strong_curves
    strong_curves Posts: 2,229 Member
    I keep mine closed, tho I'm not 100% sure why. Part of the reason is I'm very introverted, hell I barely even update my feed with my updates. I guess I'm a little social media phobic, I don't even have a facebook :o

    I do log almost every single day and if I have ever had any problems with losing weight, I'd open my diary for perusal.
  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    Closed, I don't require any critique or advice from anyone on what to eat so no need to open it up.
  • FitGirl0123
    FitGirl0123 Posts: 1,273 Member
    I keep my diary closed because it's no ones business what I eat lol. I'm not one bit embarrassed by my food diary and nor do I worry about being judged, but what I eat or what my calories/macros are set to are what is right for me, and not necessarily for the next person.
  • Dreysander
    Dreysander Posts: 294 Member
    My diary is open. I'm sure that people are judging it, whatevs, judge away!
  • Colorscheme
    Colorscheme Posts: 1,179 Member
    Scamd83 wrote: »
    Closed, I don't require any critique or advice from anyone on what to eat so no need to open it up.

    This is why my diary is private. My food is my business and I don't want unwanted critique or advice.
  • MsJulesRenee
    MsJulesRenee Posts: 1,180 Member
    When I first started MFP I had my diary open. I have recently closed it because I feel I'm not 100% honest with myself when it is open, especially over the holidays. Actually lost a couple friends over it... but I have to do what is right for me!
  • abatonfan
    abatonfan Posts: 1,120 Member
    I keep mine closed. There's been a few times where I would get into a debate with someone, and they would say something along the lines of "well you went over your calories three days ago, so your claims are invalid/you had a Big Mac five Sundays ago and not eating a 100% clean non-GMO diet, so I'm better than you" as a way to pathetically win an argument. Closing my diary prevents those headaches from occurring (why would anyone care what I ate yesterday?).
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    open. dont care what anyone else thinks of my choices.
  • tatiannajanel
    tatiannajanel Posts: 22 Member
    My diary has always been open. I don't care what others think about my eating habits because this app is for me to be aware of what I'm putting in my body. But I must admit that I love looking at other people's diaries. It gives me so many ideas on what I could eat too.
  • annette_15
    annette_15 Posts: 1,657 Member
    I dont give a *kitten*... if ppl wanna look, be my guest
  • krdews
    krdews Posts: 124 Member
    I use MFP specifically for logging and motivation therefore the need to have it open is not necessary.
  • dkingdom1
    dkingdom1 Posts: 60 Member
    Closed because I've done some form of logging since late October but my diary is just *wierd*. When it was open, I just tried to make myself look better even if I overate that day. Also because I like food, so my calorie goal is set a bit higher than someone for my height should be.
  • 20yearsyounger
    20yearsyounger Posts: 1,630 Member
    I keep mine open. As an example of how not to eat clean and still lose weight/maintain.
  • H4Life_2016
    H4Life_2016 Posts: 3 Member
    My diary was open at once, but now I decided to keep it private. I feel that people really don't care what you eat verses exercising.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    if people want to judge me by what i eat, they can look at the 73 pounds I've lost and shove it ;)

    in fact, the reason WHY i leave mine open is so people can see you can eat out, eat 'normal', drink and have chocolate, and still lose weight.
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    Mine has always been open, since I know people like to look at diaries for ideas and I don't care at all what others think of my diet. I probably eat more junk than most on MFP, but I've never had someone criticize me for it.

    I have it closed right now though, only because in the past week or so I've been having stomach issues so I haven't been eating much. I don't want someone looking at my diary thinking I usually undereat.
  • dorkyfaery
    dorkyfaery Posts: 255 Member
    I have mine open to friends only, which I started when I took on a few "noobs" from the adopt a noob thread last year. I wanted people to see that you can eat all kinds of things and still lose weight; that you can have good and bad days and it doesn't have to mean the end of your goals.

    I have been having some tummy issues for the past few months, so I may close my diary so I can use the notes section to document some TMI types of information about my symptoms. Discussing bodily functions or getting into medical issues is where I draw the line for sharing!
  • toe1226
    toe1226 Posts: 249 Member
    This is all great info!

    It makes me think about how it would be great if the diary had a little comments section like "felt sick today, couldn't eat much." or WHATEVER, not just for others, but for ourselves.
  • lyttlewon
    lyttlewon Posts: 1,118 Member
    When I first started MFP I had my diary open. I have recently closed it because I feel I'm not 100% honest with myself when it is open, especially over the holidays. Actually lost a couple friends over it... but I have to do what is right for me!

    ^^This

    It is purely psychological for me. Although my trainer was reviewing my food logs weekly when I first started working with him, and I was always 100% honest. IDK why, but on this site I have to keep it closed.
  • ChocolateMjau
    ChocolateMjau Posts: 19 Member
    edited January 2016
    I kept it closed cause I felt ashamed about my weight.. But since I decided to write a blog and help other people eat healthier, I don't feel so bad anymore.. Cause as I am now, I won't be the same after 6 months.. after 1 year.. and it motivates me. I made it public because otherwise I could not post on FB, that I have lost weight! :wink:
  • llbennett74
    llbennett74 Posts: 132 Member
    Mine is open. It keeps me even more accountable when I know my friends are looking and I prefer friends who keep theirs open too. I like getting ideas from they eat.
  • AmazonMayan
    AmazonMayan Posts: 1,168 Member
    Scamd83 wrote: »
    Closed, I don't require any critique or advice from anyone on what to eat so no need to open it up.

    This is why my diary is private. My food is my business and I don't want unwanted critique or advice.

    +1 I did get this when mine was open and I hadn't asked for help and wasn't struggling to lose at all.

    I also stopped my exercise postings because I was bullied pretty harshly by a "friend" who thought it was impossible for me to hike 11 miles. She ranted openly for days about me to others too. I decided I was the only one that really needed to know if I walked a few miles one day and hiked between 5 and 10 the next or maybe skipped a week hiking ::::for shame::::: how dare I! lol
  • BuddhaB0y
    BuddhaB0y Posts: 199 Member
    I keep mine open and don't care who reads it. My results so far speak for themselves and anyone who has a problem can go f-themselves.

  • Colorscheme
    Colorscheme Posts: 1,179 Member
    Scamd83 wrote: »
    Closed, I don't require any critique or advice from anyone on what to eat so no need to open it up.

    This is why my diary is private. My food is my business and I don't want unwanted critique or advice.

    +1 I did get this when mine was open and I hadn't asked for help and wasn't struggling to lose at all.

    I also stopped my exercise postings because I was bullied pretty harshly by a "friend" who thought it was impossible for me to hike 11 miles. She ranted openly for days about me to others too. I decided I was the only one that really needed to know if I walked a few miles one day and hiked between 5 and 10 the next or maybe skipped a week hiking ::::for shame::::: how dare I! lol

    Wow, how rude. I know someone who is overweight but super active and losing, and he did a 20 mile hike over the summer. 11 miles is pretty reasonable.
  • VintageFeline
    VintageFeline Posts: 6,771 Member
    Mine is open (I think) and I don't care what people think. It's another one that's a great example that you can eat whatever you damn want and more than 1200 calories if you're not short and tiny and lose plenty of weight. And I eat my exercise calories which I don't mind people being aware of. Nobody has ever commented on my diary.

    I do look at other diaries but usually only if someone expresses struggling, often they're eating low volume and/or just not very much as they have a very low goal so I'll try to offer friendly advice because I genuinely want people to succeed without being miserable. If I get unfriended over it then fine.
  • Nuke_64
    Nuke_64 Posts: 406 Member
    I keep mine open as if I want to give advice to others or suggest they open their dairy I can show I walk the walk and talk the talk.
  • fat2fitshley
    fat2fitshley Posts: 50 Member
    edited January 2016
    toe1226 wrote: »
    This is all great info!

    It makes me think about how it would be great if the diary had a little comments section like "felt sick today, couldn't eat much." or WHATEVER, not just for others, but for ourselves.

    Your diary does have a notes section. On a desk top under the food tab it's the box next to water consumption and you can just click edit note to add notes in and then save. There is also a notes section on the exercise tab.

    On the app (for apple at least not sure if driod is different) go to the diary tab and then at the very bottom click notes to add in notes for food or exercise.

    ETA: These notes would basically be the same a comments section, others can see notes as well I believe. I hope this helps!
  • Fursian
    Fursian Posts: 551 Member
    I keep mine closed, tho I'm not 100% sure why. Part of the reason is I'm very introverted, hell I barely even update my feed with my updates. I guess I'm a little social media phobic, I don't even have a facebook :o

    I do log almost every single day and if I have ever had any problems with losing weight, I'd open my diary for perusal.
    I keep my diary closed because it's no ones business what I eat lol. I'm not one bit embarrassed by my food diary and nor do I worry about being judged, but what I eat or what my calories/macros are set to are what is right for me, and not necessarily for the next person.
    These things and the bolded are the reasons why mine also remains closed. :)
  • Kitty_Nikki
    Kitty_Nikki Posts: 44 Member
    I keep mine closed. It isn't because I care what other people think about what I eat, it's because I use the notes section almost every day and the stuff I put in there can be personal information that I don't want to share.